My son, who until this year (his 7th grade year) has always made A's and B's. This year he's bringing home mostly c's and an F in math. His dad and I have grounded him but that didn't do much. He seems quite blase about the entire thing. So his dad said that we needed to hit him where it hurts ... his image. He said that if he brings home bad grades the next report card, all his Abercrombie clothes go, no more American Eagle and he has to get his hair cut ... short. I think this is extreme. He wants to exchange his Nikes for no named buddies and his clothes have to come from anywhere we can find them ... inexpensively. I think this is insane and I told my husband that his self esteem will suffer. Our son just started a new school and he has made so many friends and he's started 'going out' with this girl that he likes and he's fitting in well. I know that his grades are important but this clothes thing is extreme. It's hard to find a 13 year old with such great self esteem but my child has wonderful self confidence. If he goes to school and gets made fun of ... what will happen to that. I might be wrong, but clothes shouldn't be a punishment. I guess I don't worry so much about grades ... I just put things in perspective. I didn't do so well in school but I'm a writer and an author. I think I've done well for msyelf. My husband thinks that grades are THE most important things. I want to know what other people think.
Thank you! ↓
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