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I caught my 18 year old son on a gay porn site. For about a year now, I've seen that someone has been looking at gay porn and asked my three sons who it was. All said it wasn't them. I now caught my 18 year old son on it. He wouldn't talk to me about it at all. I am devastated. I don't know if he is gay, I can't even believe that he is. I try to tell myself he may be confused, but I know he has been visiting these sites for a year now, so I am assuming he is not confused. He won't talk to me about this and I just don't know what to do. Any advice? ↓
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| Name: rain | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 4:52 PM |
Hi, Joely.
I know that must be difficult. I know there are parents support groups for gay teens, they have good advice as they have been there. I am sure there are parents here, also who would also be supportive of you at this time. Anytime you need to talk, we would love to support you. ↑ |
| Name: Shauna | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 5:09 PM |
| Just discuss what you feel with your son and let him know you will stand by his side no matter what. Just for peace of mind, your son may not even be gay at all. Some people get turned on by watching things, even if they themselves would never do it. I know straight women who like lesbian porn. But, assuming he is gay, let him know that you still love him the same as if he was straight. If he thinks he's doing something you find shameful he likely won't "come out" and lie to himself to please you, but not be happy in the end. Good luck to you. And Rain is right, if you need any support we are here to talk. :o) ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 7:22 PM |
| Name: Mommy | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 8:16 PM |
| Thanks, Rain. Just so you know, this is Shauna. I registered finally. :o) ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 8:38 PM |
| Nice to meet you Mommy, happy you are here. ↑ |
| Name: Joely | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 12:54 AM |
| Thank you so much for your advice. It is good advice which I intend to take to heart and use. Thank you for taking your time out for us. ↑ |
| Name: twostepsback | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 2:40 PM |
It sounds like it.
But he's probably afraid of the way you may take it.
Gays are generally frowned upon unfortunately.
Just be as kind as possible.
and i hope you aren't the kind of person who will reject their son over it. ↑ |
| Name: njmom613 | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 9:25 PM |
| My son, 13 at the time, was doing the same thing. My husband found the porn sites and we spoke to him about it and he said he wasn't gay. We caught him again at 14 and confronted him again. He still denied that he was gay. He is now turning 15 and 3 weeks ago, he came to us and told us that he is gay. We are devastated as you are. I cry all the time, I feel so depressed, and I just can't fully accept what he has told us. I love him and support him in his choice, but I am finding it so hard to accept in my heart. I am seeing a therapist, trying to feel better about all of this. It is very difficult. ↑ |
| Name: connielast | Date: Nov 20th, 2006 6:17 PM |
TO njmom613
Hes your son. Love him for what he is and not what you want him to be.
It takes all kinds to make the world go round.
My son was Gay at that age. Guess what ? I have a lovely daughter in law and 2 lovely grandchildren.
Hey never give up the ship. Even if it had turned out different I would not be ashamed of him. I love him and the rest of my children dearly ↑ |
| Name: Randi02 | Date: Nov 24th, 2006 10:32 PM |
| I have a lot of gay friends and where I live it is legal for them to be married and so we have tons of gay people from all over come and do it here. Whether your son is really gay or not (this is for njmom613 as well) you need to let him know that you love him no matter what. You think that you are ashamed and having a hard time dealing? Imagine how he feels! Being gay is not a choice, you are born like that and trying to hide it or being forced to hide it can make things way worse. ↑ |
| Name: CutsBruises | Date: Dec 2nd, 2006 7:03 PM |
| OMG some of you people are sad, crying case your sons gay quite pertehtic its a character flaw like blue eyes, its like crying because his blonde. ↑ |
| Name: kb3lzh13 | Date: Dec 3rd, 2006 11:57 PM |
| he might be but if he is respect his wishes and dont say you hate him and it is a sin because it against religion all gay guys love reliogin and are very nice if your son is gay askhiim in a nice manner and if he is you should support him because when he comes home complaining bout kids making fun of him cuz he is gay if he is you will be there and your relasionship with him will grow ↑ |
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