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my son is chatting to gay teenages on the web and telling them he is gay.he is 13 and when i ask him about it he denies it.i've told him i love him gay or not and he can talk to me but he wont even look at me.is he old enough to know at 13 that he really is gay.im worried about him. ↓
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| Name: janus | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 11:52 PM |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 1:11 AM |
| Yes he is old enouph. When you wher 13 did you know if you liked boys. It is the same thing only the feelings are for the same sex. Dont be concerned, you seem to be verry open with him. You have let him know you will accept him no matter what. He will eventualy come around when he is comfortable with it. ↑ |
| Name: ann | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 1:59 AM |
| i dont think so,i would just let it be and give him time he will come around either way. ↑ |
| Name: XXX | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 6:58 PM |
| My son is 16 and told us this yr that he is gay. He claims to have know since at least 6th grade. It was a shock for us and he doesn't want to talk about it with us. But I get the impression that he is relieved he told us and that we accept him. ↑ |
| Name: abigail | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 8:11 PM |
| yes he is old enough to know if hes gay im 15 and iveknown i was gay ever scence iwas 12or11 ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Jul 14th, 2006 12:51 PM |
| He is young enogh to know he is gay. I belive that u are born straight or gay or bi-sexual. There's no actual age. Let it pass for the time being and let him tell u when he is ready. You might be embarresing him when u ask him. let him come to you, sooner or later he will. This could just be a fase he is going through wih expirementing. Young boys and girls can often be confused with ther sexuality. Please don't bring it up soon. Let the boy come to you. ↑ |
| Name: Jorja | Date: Jul 26th, 2006 1:36 AM |
| Yes, i think he will know what his choice in sexuallity at that age. ↑ |
| Name: JayJay | Date: Aug 10th, 2006 6:05 PM |
| 13 is likely old enough if his sexuality is strong and his feelings are clear. A sexologist would tell you to wait before assigning him the label 'gay' as he is still quite young. I'd acknowledge what he says and feels, but wait to see if he is more bi-sexual or even heterosexual than he thinks. Orientation is usually not a black or white thing but a lot of gay people, and most straight people, would say even at that age they knew who they were... ↑ |
| Name: HannahBaby | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 2:07 AM |
| Yes its definatly old enought to know if your gay....but 13 is usually the age of self discover and exploration...He now realizes that there are other lifestyles out there and is trying to find where he belongs. Let him go and dont pressure him into talking about it if hes not comfortable ↑ |
| Name: loveguide | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 7:13 PM |
| i dont think he really is gay. if he cant tell you then i think hes unsure. ↑ |
| Name: sterlids | Date: Aug 15th, 2006 7:33 PM |
| the reason he denies it to you is because he is ashamed or scared you won't accept him for who he is. and yes he is old enough to know. but he probably won't really truly know until he has a gay experience. my personally i started to realize that i like both males and females in high school. its hard for me not to be attracted to females we are so beautiful!!! and yes i have had a lesbian experience when i was 17. the only person that i have told about this is my husband and he is okay with it as long as i don't go off with some chick. so just keep supporting him and letting him know that you love him. and let him come to you with it. ↑ |
| Name: njmom613 | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 9:13 PM |
| My 14 year old son has just told us that he is gay. I have the same doubts as you do. I feel that he has no life experience to label himself at such a young age. He says he just knows he is and is not attracted to girls. I started seeing a therapist to help me feel better about all of this. I am very confused, scared and sad. I love him with all my heart and support him, but can't seem to feel ok with all of the changes that are going to occur in our lives as a family. You are not alone.... ↑ |
| Name: Dirty_Dancer | Date: Oct 21st, 2006 12:25 AM |
| Yeah when I was 13 my best friend was gay ↑ |
| Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 21st, 2006 12:30 AM |
| Yes, 13 is old enough to know one is gay. However, just make sure he is not just fooling around online and pretending to be gay. If he is gay, don't expect him to fess up to it right away. He is probably well aware of the judgement that will be placed on him. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Oct 21st, 2006 5:27 PM |
I guess that he is old enough,i mean when i look back to when i was that age i fancyed other people!
As long as he is happy nothing esle matters! ↑ |
| Name: allan | Date: Jul 19th, 2007 9:05 PM |
| yeah. it is old enough. i barely found out i was gay this year. i can tell you, you know when you are gay. i am 15 now. almost sixteen. so it might just be a fase he is going through. he might go straight in a couple years or so. my mom said the same thing to me when i told her i was gay. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Jul 22nd, 2007 2:52 PM |
| A lot of times teens experiment with this just to find out there true feelings. A lot of times they find out they are really heterosexual. Maybe he is doing this to find out what his orientation is. If he is not sure yet he probably doesn't want to tell you. Give him time to figure it out. Just continue to let him know that you love him when he is sure of his orientation he will eventually tell you. I wouldn't pressure him to know because if he is not sure all you are doing is embarrassing him. When you are a teen there are lots of sexual feelings going around if he was approach by a good looking guy that says he is interested. The fact that he thinks he is good looking might make him confused about his orientation. He might not be gay and just going through experimentation. I know it is hard but, you are going to have to step back and let him figure it out. ↑ |
| Name: CutsBruises | Date: Aug 30th, 2007 12:11 AM |
| let the poor boy experiment, you sound like a nice understanding mum ↑ |
| Name: hateitall | Date: Aug 30th, 2007 6:59 AM |
| Okay, I know that you think what your dong is good and supporive but beive it or not it is the opposite, 13 is old enough to know your gay, but you really need to wait until he comes out to you if he is gay he will feel comfortable and come to you, I think you should lay off him about it and just let him figure things out in his head, 13 is young to be certain and when most 13 year old and younger discover they're gay its usually just then being by curious, this means 13 year olds are curious and want to try new things, there is a chance he will grow out of it, sometimes its a stage but you need to let him figure that out on his own. I hope I helped you a little but, good luck with your son and try not to worry yourself over it to much. ↑ |
| Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Sep 2nd, 2007 4:20 AM |
| people are BORN gay.. so yes 13 is old enough to know you are gay. ↑ |
| Name: angel24 | Date: Sep 9th, 2007 6:57 PM |
| i think hes not im 15 and i only figured it out until i was 14 but maybe your son is gay, did he show sings, cuz i did and thats how i know, dnt ask him about it... if he is gay the last thing he wants is to talk to his parents about it trust me i havent told my parents my fiends noe but my parents dont ..(atleast not from me, i noe my mom noes cuz shes a mom bu i haven come out to them yet) ↑ |
| Name: confused kid101 | Date: Feb 20th, 2009 2:41 AM |
| I am the same age and I know that I am gay. If he is, he is and you will have to accept that fact. Andif you dont, then think about how terible you child will feel. The best thing to do is to let him tell you when he is ready to admit it. And if he isn't , then he will tell you eventually. ↑ |
| Name: knightofhonor | Date: Aug 26th, 2009 7:53 AM |
| Yes it is possible, i knew when i was 10, i kissed this one boy as a dare and i knew, when i was 12 i gave him a blowjob, and when we were 13 we had sex, all before my first kiss with a girl at 15, so yes it is possible. Keep an eye on him though because when i knew, i was willing to try it with older people just so i can experience it/ ↑ |
| Name: TBird23 | Date: Sep 30th, 2009 10:14 PM |
| This is a very controversial response and I may catch a lot of flack for it. There is a CDs called "Bringing Up Boys" by James Dobson. He has some really interesting advice about your situation. I would definitely take his advice if I were in your shoes. The best thing you can do for your son right now is to let you know you love him. Be there for him and listen to him. ↑ |
| Name: crazymom399 | Date: Oct 25th, 2009 10:29 PM |
| I have a 13 year old and I would definitely say that 13 is not old enough to make a decision about being gay. Deciding that you are gay is a serious turning point in your life and it can't be made overnight. if i were you I would give the situation some time, I know this is cliche but he may just be going through a phase. In the end he may decide that he is gay and that's who he is. But for now wait a little and see, he's got a lot his whole teen years to go through and much could happen then. I'm not saying that being gay is a bad thing, but I am saying that a 13 yr old really can't make that decision at such a young age. ↑ |
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