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Today was the big day, my vet called to let me know my old lady dogs remains were ready for me to pick up. They came in a very nice wooden box with a gold clasp and lock. I chose not to have them urned because I'm not sure if I want to scatter them or keep them. If I choose to keep the remains they will be kept in the wooden box just the way I received them. Wow...I think it was harder picking up her remains then it was to have her put to sleep. The poor old girl! She will be missed!!!! ↓
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| Name: briseis | Date: Jul 6th, 2007 3:55 PM |
| It was never an easy thing to do, but at least now she is with you again although in another form. My boy's remains came in a wooden box with his name ecscrolled on a gold plate at the top. I keep mine in the family room next to his collar. I cried hard picking up my boy's remains. I understand how painful it can be. xxx ↑ |
| Name: lauren | Date: Jul 7th, 2007 12:02 AM |
| thats what my uncle did. When we went to his house, we saw Morgan, the sweet old gal who is no longer. She will be missed too, it's a shame. But that's just life i guess :( ↑ |
| Name: LoveCristin | Date: Jul 13th, 2007 6:42 AM |
| This made me cry b/c my husband has a yellow lab that is going to be needing to be put to sleep within this year. She can't get around as well and her health isn't too good. If it were up to me we would go ahead and take her now b/c I hate seeing her on her bad days when she has to be picked up to go outside, but he has had her since he was a pre-teen and she is litterally his best friend. He talks to her...well we all talk to Abby as if she were human and call her sister and she has really been a joy in my life these last 6 years. I don't know what to do...I am torn between my love for Abby and my husband and what i know is best for her. ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 13th, 2007 12:44 PM |
LoveCristin
It is always hard when you know its time but your hart gets in the way. You need to weigh quality -vs- quantity, if the quality is out weighed then it is time! We all want to do whats best for our beloved friends, we don't want them to suffer when not needed. As I said its a hard call, you will know when the time is here. Best of luck! ↑ |
| Name: LoveCristin | Date: Jul 16th, 2007 2:26 AM |
| Linda thanks again your a very nice person and I hope all is well with you. I just got my husband a new chocolate lab puppy to help ease him through this time. We know what is best for our old girl and we are making arrangements for it to happen next month. Thank you for your kind words of wisdom and support, you are a friend in my book. ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 16th, 2007 4:05 AM |
LoveCristin
My sincere heart felt thoughts are with you! I do know what you and Dh are going through. It is never easy having to see your loved one off! Please keep me informed, and be strong! ↑ |
| Name: momof3 | Date: Jul 17th, 2007 2:01 PM |
| Lindalu, I was thinking about you the other day. I hope that you are doing okay. My thoughts are with you hon! ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 17th, 2007 2:11 PM |
| Momof3 you are so nice, in fact.... one of the nicest people I speak to here. You alway have such kind wonderful things to say! Every thing is fine with me, I have moved on some. My old ladies passing is not so much of a heart ache any more and I have come to realize having her put to sleep was some thing that had to be done. Thank you so much for thinking about me. ↑ |
| Name: momof3 | Date: Jul 18th, 2007 1:28 PM |
| Oh thank-you so much!! I remember how hard it was when we had to have Zeus put to sleep. That was 4 years ago and to this day, I get tears in my eyes when I think about him. My friends don't really understand. They say "he was just a dog" But he was more than that to me. He was my little boy. Anyway I am glad to hear that your are doing well. :) ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 18th, 2007 3:15 PM |
| Again.... thank you Momof3! ↑ |
| Name: lauren | Date: Jul 18th, 2007 7:10 PM |
That's what my mom says when i cry about Heidi-my best friend's dog. I practically lived with my best friend and Hiedi was always their for me. When i woke up at her house I was the one that fed her and brused her and took care of her. We would sit for hours and hours just sitting outside. She would be in my lap licking my hand while the other hand was stroking her long and slender back. I loved heidi she was practically mine. She became my best friend. She was only 4 years old and someone droped her on her back. She's a miniture dachound so she has a very delicate back. She broke a disk in her vertabre, making her paralyzed from the waist down. She still loved me though! She would crawl to me on her front legs. Since she was draging her waist she was rubbing it down. She couldnt feel it though, and for a few days she lived in a box. It was terrible my best friend in a box killing her self trying to see me! She would eventally wear her belly to the bone and die that way so we all decided to let her go. That was in 2003- i was nine. I'm now 12, and still think of her. I started crying when i wrote this because i finally relize that she will never ever come back and that she was sent from God to help me relize my love for dogs. They burried her in their backyard and i made a pipecleaner name for her. (name made out of pipcleaners) and stuck it in her grave. The name blew away and this past year my best friend moved to another neighborhood. Heidi is just down the street from me though, and she will always be there. She will always be in my thoughts and heart no matter what happens and i will always love her. No matter how hard it is to see a good friend go-even at nine-i knew i had no chioce.
thats my story and i miss hiedi everyday. That was the hardest thing in the world. Just knowing she will never lick my hand again is unbearable, but the lesson your learn from having to say goodbye to a 4 legged friend is this: Life goes on, and your friend is always there in your heart.
May heidi rest in peace :) my best friend
-lauren ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 18th, 2007 9:17 PM |
Lauren
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are so right it is always hard saying good bye to a four legged friend. You have a wonderful out look on life, keep it up hun! Oh yah.... sorry about the loss of your friend! ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jul 19th, 2007 12:31 PM |
| Thanks so much! I just relized that what you guys are going through is what i never went through. I mean, ya, "my" dog died but i never accepted that she did. I guess i just kept thinking she's in the garage or she's at the vet. Then we started hanging out at my house, so Hiedi was never there. When i read all the stories on here, it made me relize that Hieidi is gone and I'm not alone. So i decided to share my story. When i finished writting i reread it. Of course i was crying-who wouldnt be? But i finally got up enough courage to face teh fact. It was the first time i had cried about my sweetie pie. It just felt go to get it off my chest, because my mom doesnt understand. ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 19th, 2007 4:15 PM |
| Lauren~ Many people don't understand they will say just what you said was said to you...Its just a dog! For the person who loved the dog, the dog is more then just a dog! He/she is a deeply loved family member! My old lady dog was with me for 14 years almost as long as my daughter, I loved her very much! So for some one to say she was just a dog is cruel! Your story was heart felt and to say the least moving. I hope you will be able to finally put your loss behind you and be able to move on. ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jul 19th, 2007 7:05 PM |
I have finally started to move on. I just wish you all the very best with your losses. Lindalu, you have been so nice. The reason i had to keep my hurting inside of me was because Heidi wasnt "my" dog. My friend only cried once and moved on quickly, but i didnt. I felt that i had to, because my friend just HAD to be feeling worse than me because it was her dog and she had had her longer than i had known her, but the truth? No, that wasnt the case. My friend loves dogs, but not a lot. I plan to be a vet when i grow and help stop animal cruelty. I also hope to spread the word about spay/neutering you pets, because dogs die EVERY single day. I think that even if i dont know a dog i get upset that they are dieing. Maybe that's why its harder for me than my friend. To her Heidi was just a dog-a good dog, but JUST a dog. To me Heidi was a best friend, a partner, listener, an inspriation, and so much more. Thank you for allowing me to "spill my guts" because it feels really good to let it out after four heart wrenching years.
Dont breed or buy while shelter pets die! :D ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 19th, 2007 9:04 PM |
The last phrase you typed I so agree with!
{{{Dont breed or buy while shelter pets die!}}} I am a huge advocate of adoption, all my animals have been adopted from shelters. The world can always use another kind person such as your self! Do you have any pets now? ↑ |
| Name: lauren | Date: Jul 19th, 2007 11:38 PM |
| I wish!! but sadly no. My mom wont let me get a dog, cats are out of the question because my mom is "allergic" well she really is but w/e :) I've been asking my mom for a dog all my life, and no luck. I wont give up. Dogs are my life...well kinda. I mean i looooove them so much! It's hard to explain to my mom that its child abuse to keep me away from dogs. A baby teeny tiny kitten showed up at our back door step so we fed it and gave it shelter, some blankets and stuff but we had to take it to the shelter. We asked everyone around and put up signs but it was a stay. My mom said that if it was a puppy or dog we would have kept it. That stinks! The kitten found a home though. My brother use to have 2 hermit crabs but those hardly count as pets! Anyway they died after a few years. Now I'm just left wishing. My birthday is a week from monday, so maybe just maybe i will get one. I dont think so though, oh well theres always a birthday wish! I worked at the shelter, well i tried too. My mom was willing to do it too! But it was right after Hurricane Katrina and they shelter had to use it's training room to store animals. We tried again but the people never replied to out emails :( ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jul 19th, 2007 11:51 PM |
| i forgot to add another horrible story. My other best friend had a dog, yorkie, named Toto (like Wizard of Oz). He was 14, my friend is 12. So he had always been there, through everything. He had a lot of tears on his coat. Right before he passed away they got another yorkie puppy named Toby. The names where even simaliar! It was horrible! The parents thought that they were doing a good thing, but my friend didnt like it so much. She called the puppy stupid and refused to give him attention. Then Toto died, suddenly that puppy didnt seem so bad. I think she was rused into moving on, which isnt good. But shes doing fine. Totto really had a horrible looong dealth. He was old and had arthritus and had a tumor on the neck so he couldnt walk. They took him to the vet to have him euthanized but the doctor said they could prescribe a steriod that would make the tumor srink. It worked but when the expansive pills were gone totto remained lifless yet again. They were just prolonging his dealth and hurting him. I could see though, his spirit was gone. I saw that when he first gor sick. Oh not to mention that Totto had flees that they couldnt get rid of and heartworms! poor old fella, anyway he eventually passed on and they eventaully moved on. ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jul 22nd, 2007 1:40 PM |
| It's horrible, all of my friends pets are dieing from old age :( Just yesturday my friends dog died, but this was really upsetting because she's only 11 and her mom died a few months ago from cancer. :( I pretty sure i just have to let her come around, but is theri anything i can say to her to help her? I remember wishing that someone would ask my if i was okay, while dealing with Hieidis loss, no one did. I felt really bad, prolonging me "recovery" I'm still not all the way recovered, as i sit here thinking and crying about everything that happened :( You guys are the only ones who understand, either my friends think she was JUST a dog (that drives my crazy!), the believe since it wasnt MY dog that i didnt love her, or they dont know how i feel. I dont know if i should tell them, because i dont want grief but i cant help but cry when i think of my baby and she died so young! anyway sorry for "spilling my guts" but i think this is helping. I've never been able to talk about her and i really miss her ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jul 22nd, 2007 1:46 PM |
| P.S. is it okay to cry still when i think of her or should i just tell myself that its stupid and i'm slow. Maybe i'm wrong and the poeple are right-it wasnt my dog why am i sad? Well i know that they're right and wrong--heidi wasnt MY dog but i did love her. Sometimes i'm really confused because everyone thinks i'm fine but inside im hurting! ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 23rd, 2007 2:17 PM |
Lauren
It doesn't have to be your dog to love it and sure.... if you still feel sad about the loss of the dog then..... cry! There is no time limit on the grief that one feels with the loss of a loved one, even if it is a dog! My cat has been gone for almost 7 years, every time I think of him my eyes welt up with tears. ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jul 24th, 2007 4:46 AM |
| aww thank you so much---for everything :) i thought i was a weirdo :( ↑ |
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