Hi
I need some advice, its a long story but I will try to make it short, I live in Colombia, the father of my son is form California, we met here 4 years ago, we started dating and 2 weeks later I was pregnant..yes I know...he told me he was going to be part of it, he stayed here for 4 more months left to Cali for the summer time, then cam back when I was 6 months he stayed until the baby was born and left when he was 2 months to Australia for 4 months, when he retuned to California I moved there and with our son for 6 months, diidnt work, I came back 2 months later he was here and stayed here for 4 months
So as you can see its been back and forth total unstability....but las tyear was the worst he onyl came in june and in november for 2 weeks each visit, he hasnt been here since november
He still tells me he wants a future w me and my son, bit \i dont believ him no more, he is been looking for a carrrer job for the last 2 years and nothing because he has this summer job so he says he cant bring us there until he gets a steady job, I tell him to come to live here and he says he want our future to be in the USA not here
he manipulates me and i think he gives me the run around...he is not letting me go but he is not taking us there or moving here, he blames my behavior, of course im upset all the time when he calls, i get mad bc i feel he is p;ayinh with us plus he doesnt give my answers on when he is comming he keeps saying heis working on it, but he is a passive agressive too and he says we are not together bc of my behavior im like hello how am i suppoesed to act after 2 years of waiting for you with no answers you havent come here in 6 months etc etc
For him things have to be so sweet over the distance for him to take that step of moving in together again
for me long distance sucks and im sick of it cant take it no more and for me we have to get togehter asap even if things are f^^cked up and try yo build somethng face to face , not over the distance but he says he doesnt feel comftable to bring that behavior to his life, when i think is clear that my behavior is because im way tooo hurt to be away from him and for this 2 years of no answers etc etc
Should I wait for him and try to be sweet so he feels more confient ot you guys think he is giving me the run around and I should move on?
thanks and bless ↓
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| Name: briseis | Date: May 19th, 2007 2:28 PM |
| I got some questions ... Who are you living with? Are you working? If not, how are you supporting yourself and your son? Does the father pay maintenance? Why isn't he looking for a job in Colombia? Who is the father living with at the moment? How is he supporting himself? ↑ |
| Name: gaiamom | Date: May 19th, 2007 6:18 PM |
| HI, thanks for replying I live with my son my father helps me to pay for the apartment, I work full time job too, the father of my baby helps sometimes he has a summer job he works from march till novemeber, he didnt send me anything for 6 months but now he started working again so he sent me $300, plus the money for his kindergarden, father of my baby lives with his mommy, and the months when he doesn twork I guess she helps him out but we both are 30 years old I moved out of my parents house and he hasnt!!!!, my father s help me but most of the expenses are on me, he refuses to get a job here he says he has a debt to pay and he needs a bigger salary and salaries here are not as big as in the US ↑ |
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