| by telling them that it was a dream is telling them a LIE!!!!!!!!!! U had bettter report it be 4 they find ou later and ur kinds tell them that their mom told them it was a dream!!! NO U WILL NOT GET ARESTED!!!! he will and PLEASE TELL SOME ONE!! no one else has to know not ur mom or ur family!!! but how would u like it if the kids go to grammie and tell her their "dream"????? what is she goignt o think then???? hes ur X u have done what u can]]] NOW REPORT HIM!!!! ↑ |
| IF U KNOW AND DONT TELL U WILL GET ARESTED ALSO!!!!!! AND THEY WILL FIND OUT EVEN IF IT IS YEARS FROM NOW!!!!!! U WONT BE A GOOD MOM IF U DONT TELL!!!! IF U KEEP IT TO UR SELF U DONT DESERVE TO BE A MOM AND THEY WILL TAKE UR KIDS AWAY!!! ↑ |
| You cant ignore it and pretend it was a dream because it is very real. And both of your girls need therapy to properly deal with this. Just because they act like nothings wrong on the outside only means they hide their feelings about it well in front of people but inside I bet is a different story.Which is why they need the counseling.As far as you not wanting to turn the guy in ,thats just stupid! He raped your daughters lady!! WAKE UP!!!!Do you WANT him to be free to do it to another child? Because he will!! Why will he? Because he did it to your kids AND GOT AWAY WITH IT!!!!!!! Unless you put the word out to the authorities and find and stop that bastard and put his ass in jail where he belongs!! Dont help him,help your daughters!!! Your girls WONT be taken from you because the preditor is no longer living in your home so get that dumb idea out of your head!!You turn him into authorities and he has to become a REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER!!!!!!!Meanning he cant hide from anyone and it lessens the chances that he will be able to do it to another child!! Do the right thing lady.......PLEASE!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| I'll tell you what -- I was molested as a child and if my mom sat there and did nothing I would never have forgiven her. It is your responsibility to protect your children and that means turning the sick bastard who molested your children in. If you don't turn him in he WILL do it again. It is because of my mom's support that I was able to heal and go on with my life. Don't tell your girls that it was just a dream they know it wasn't. You need to stand up, be a woman and a mom and advocate for your children. Noone ever said life was easy and noone ever said that being a parent was easy. Do the right thing, your girls deserve the justice. ↑ |
| My newly x was molested once by is partying musician father who was probably drugged up at the time. His mother covered it up by telling him that he didn't realize what he was doing that he thought he was a woman. Fast forward.....now my daughters father is a drug addict and alcoholic that wants my daughter to come stay at his new apartment (that he shares with his brother whose wife kicked him out). anyhow please don't continue the denial. I know you are trying to protect your daughters. But actually you are going to make them feel crazy by telling them that it didn't happen when it really did. This will also take away there since of security and you are all they have. Not to mention he might do it again and you will have to live with knowing that you didn't take action to prevent it. All you can do is report it. It is your responsibility to protect your children. Otherwise you are sending a message that it is okay to your children. You are stronger than you think! Make the call right now and tell your daughters the truth! What would you tell them to do in your situation. Have faith! ↑ |
| well i understand were your comeing from but you have to tell its only right be a good mom which im not saying your not nobody knows how you feel but you turn his ass in asap to protect future girls ↑ |
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I will tell you this your daughter(s) will never forget it. I was too molested by 3 men and i never told my parents i noticed that its reacuring over and over again. I kepted it from them because i didnt want them to start blaming themselves but you know what i left my ex boyfriend that was abusive and the boyfriend i have now left me and told me that i would never had the guts to tell them and i did my boyfriend came back to me because he felt i should let them know and this is how he did it. Now i go to meetings with other women thats been abuse in this way. You cant blame yourself and as for your mother you are doing the right thing by helping them and you are putting the abuser in the right place by bringing in the athorities think about it if you dont say a word then someone else gets abuse. I regret that i never reported them and today seeing i am getting help for this i am a better person for it. I am studying social work and want to work with kids that have been abused sexually, i find i have alot to offer them. In my own oppinion talk to the police they dont have to make this known to everyone. Get help for your daughter(s). Keep strong and support your daughters i know when i told my parents it took a big weight off my shoulders. if ever you want to talk email me at [email protected] i would be glad to talk to you
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| I have been informed that when a tramatic experience happens in life it will eventually come out. Drugs and alcohol abuse also tends to be a problem later on in life if the issue is just thrown to the side. Denying the problem is not the answer, and yes statistics say that the offender will re-offend without treatment. You and your children need to know this is not your fault, the offender is the one to hold accountable. Helping your children to face reality and deal with their trauma now according to statistics is far more effective than having the trauma evolve later in life and maybe having your children blame you. Search your heart and you decide what is best for your imediate family and know that what you are doing is what you feel is the right thing for you and your children. Don't let your mother's sarcasim interfer with your motherhood. Learn from your mother and change the pattern with your children they are your responsibility and no one elses. ↑ |
| Your daughters will never forget it , it may be pushed to a subconscious level but it is never foregotten instead it comes out later when they start to become women and start discover there sexuality it brings a lot of confusion it is very painfull to admit it happened because even though it wasn't your fault you feel guilty because you are there mother, report it to the police it needs to be on record , and seek counseling for you and your daughters it won't stay fresh in there minds they will be able to let go of it and put it at peace. My mother was sexually molested by relatives and family freinds and her mother never did anything about it , and she tried to build a wall around it , but it truly messed her up later on it was hard for her to have any kind of normal relationships with men. So the best thing you can do for your daughters is let them now this was not ok and they have a right to feel hurt and angry and seek justice , they will feel like something is wrong with them or they did something to ask for it if you don't help them acknowledge it. ↑ |
