Home » Pick Your Crowd » Single Parents » pregnant and confused

Hello, guest
|

Name: salsp

[ Original Post ]

Hi just wanted to get some advise as i am really confused at the minute and getting advice from everyone and dont know what to do. I met this guy a year ago and he swept me off my feet. i was head over heels in love with him and he was everything in a man i had ever wanted. he asked me to marry him and i said yes then i may we found out i was expecting which was planned. as soon as i was pregnant he changed and he turned into a monster. we would get into an arguement and he would shout at me really horrible masty things, put me down and make me feel worthless. I felt distrort that someone i loved so mcuh would hurt me like that and it felt like he had been pretending to be one person then as soon as i was trapped his truth self came out. it got worse and worse and i began to feel like i was going to crack. i started getting pains and i went to the doctor and they signed me off for 2 weeks. i have another little girl and she loved him but he was being nasty to her too and it was effecting her. I decided i couldnt take it anymore and that i had to protect me daughter and my unborn child and told him to leave. he is now upset and says he will change but i cant trust him. since leaving lots of lots of lies has come to light and i dont believe anything he says anymore. now i have my scan tomorrow and he wants to come but i dont want him there because he will just upset me. what shall i do? any thoughts? ↓

Name: kitkatkazz | Date: Apr 19th, 2010 9:06 PM

Hi, Pls stay strong don't let him talk you round.... I've been there and you need to get help and talk to your doctor and explane what hes done to you they can help you also go to the c.a.b aswell they should be able to give help like seeing a solitor and asking about a having a help and if hes likely to try and hurt you you can have him stoped from him coming any where near. It will give you some space away from him and you should make sure you always stay calm this is something that will help you if he things he can get to you or upset you then hes won! I if you do need to talk to him write your self notes down and never show your feelings if you can help it. This will help you to get control of the suitualtion and he won't expect it.. I was married to someone who wanted to control me and make me feel unhappy about myself he would tell me he was going to have my son taken from me! This did not happen because I was the one who looked after my son! if you can get help and if you can talk to someone who is close to you do! trust me he can not make you do anything you don't want to do. its your life and your children are very important to you so you must stay strong and you can do this you've done it before and you can do it again. cos your a mum and thats what counts..... take care of yourself. xx ↑