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I'm 23 years old. I have been with this guy for 2 years now. We started out as friends and then just to have a lil fun. He was in a relationship and I knew. Shes a doctor and works 60 hours a week. We started to get very close over the time, taking vacations, sleeping over at my house... Now I'm 3 months pregnant and he's mad at me. He wanted an abortion, I couldn't do it. Now he says this is all my fault. Now he has to tell his girlfriend that he has a kid on the way. He keeps blaming me for messing up his life. Should I just leave him alone entirely? I was really hoping this could find a way to work out? Is there any dads out there that have been in a similar situation? Thanks. ↓
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| Name: Jessica | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 9:45 PM |
| hi. i think you should just get away from him and then later get a dna test done and if he is the father, sue him for child support. either that or give the baby up. you don't need him to sign anything. just when you give the baby up, tell them that you don't know who the father is... i hope this helped... ↑ |
| Name: Rebeca | Date: Aug 10th, 2006 10:33 AM |
| My cousin is going through the same thing. We live in Ca, us. and her man ran off to Mexico. So know we cant get a hold of him at all. But remember hold in there and keep your head up. Cuz ur better off. he is the one that is going to miss out. you can be mommy and daddy. yes it will bard. But if that what you got to do then go for it. But you really should keep him informed. Like send him pic. of your baby. And you really should sue him for child support. he was man enough to poke you. so he is man enough to help your lil one out. And you lil one should know its father. So i hope this helps you out. Good luck ↑ |
| Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 10th, 2006 2:51 PM |
| He's an asshole , your fault , well hello were did the sperm come from , if he was so concerned about not making a baby with you well he could of used a condom, birth control and sex is a two person game, you don't need a man like this in your life , I would just leave seek child support if you can , being a single mom is tough but you can do it. ↑ |
| Name: nawlinssinglemom | Date: Aug 10th, 2006 2:53 PM |
| Ash, I am sorry that you are having to deal with this, I know it can't be easy. I just wanted to comment on the post where they advised you to give up your baby and say you don't know who the father is, that is so wrong. As an adoptive mom to a beautiful, happy 4 year old son whom I adopted at birth, please don't, if you decide to place your child for adoption lie even a little bit, it will only come back to hurt you, and especially the child. If you don't name the father it makes it very difficult for the adoptive family to move on. In my son's case the presumed father would not sign the paperwork and it took over 3 years to get everything through the court system, it was a nightmare for all involved. I am so blessed that it worked out in the end and my son's adoption was approved and finalized, he is the light of my life and there is no way I could image life without him. I have known others that were not so lucky and their children were taken from them and returned to their birth fathers when things weren't done legally, it is heart breaking for all invoved especially for the child having to go live with someone that they do not know. Anyway, enough of that, I wish you luck with your decision and take it slow you have time to decide what is right for you and your precious one. Take Care ↑ |
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