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Name: harry

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hi everyone,iv,e just joined for some advise,me and my ex have been split for over a year,his mother has helped look after our two lovely girls 4 and 18mths,my ex lives in a camper and i still do his washing and let him have a bath because if i didn,t let him here he,d go to his mothers,she,s in ill health so i feel it,s the least i can do for her help with children only he takes it all the wrong way,guess i,m giving him mixed messages but i want things friendly for the girls.He,s a crap dad does nothing with the kids just comes here and makes a mess,instant stress,another child,harder work than little un,s,iv,e found it really difficult since my youngest was born,just had to give up a job i luv because not practical for kids,i have no family but i,m getting there,he just brings me down,makes hard work harder,anyone got any advice ↓

Name: atomicsnowflake | Date: May 16th, 2007 8:33 AM

Yeah, tell him that he's got to learn to look after himself. I had this problem with my ex. I told him that he had to leave my house, but he just stayed on and on because he didn't want to leave - it was too comfortable and too convenient. In the end I had to threaten him in order to get rid of him.

Once he'd finally gone I was so happy to have my life and place back.

You're gonna have to tell him straight, or he'll keep on doing this for ever and ever. Like you say, it's just like having another kid around. Why can't he go to a launderette to have his washing done and have a bath at his mother's place? I know she's in ill health, but it's not really your responsibility to keep helping him like this. He sounds like he needs to grow up! ↑

Name: enigma | Date: May 16th, 2007 10:27 AM

atomicsnowflake .... I see your response and am battling with the same as you .... I have also asked my daughter's father to move - and he is making no plans to - what do I do? Pack for him? ↑

Name: enigma | Date: May 16th, 2007 10:30 AM

harry ....
I agree with atomicsnowflake .... you have to stop feeling responsible for your ex ... you are keeping the door open and he is taking full advantage! ↑

Name: atomicsnowflake | Date: May 17th, 2007 12:18 PM

You could try changing the locks when he's out - or go to court. I threatened mine with court and then he knew that I was serious and he found a place to rent. I still had to help him find it.....AND......move his f*cking furniture in for him! ↑