Well, here is my dilemma. I met this woman who I really liked a couple of years ago. I used to see her around from time to time and I thought we were friends.
Then, she had marital problems so she came to live with us for a while. I cooked her meals, cleaned up after her, she inconvienced me, but I thought she was a friend so I let it go. I did however get cranky a few times when I had organized dinner and she left it till really late in the afternoon to tell me she wasnt going to be home for dinner. I was constantly being a phone service for her, answering the telephone to her boyfriend....who I might add, is a creep. I also forwarded TONES of mail for her because she changed her address to THIS address. Instead of keeping her old address for mail and just going and picking it up.
Anyway, she moved out just after last Christmas last year and since then has come to collect her mail ONCE (arriving at the house unannounced) and she never phones to say hello and she didnt send me a Christmas card. ( I didnt send her one because I was waiting to get one from her first).
There was once a fair while ago when I saw her at the shops and had a coffee with her. But I saw her just before Christmas and I just said "Hello" but kept on walking. When I passed her (she was with her guy) I could hear them say "Why didnt she stop?"
Well....why bother, she doesnt phone me. She doesnt ask me out for coffee and I feel like I inconvienced myself for 4 months by her living here. I might have well of put up a stranger. She never paid rent or phone bills, or electricity here because I wanted to help her out, because I thought she was a friend. All that time and effort for NOTHING!
I dont think I was rude by just passing them by because as far as Im concerned, Ive wasted all the time an energy on that woman that I am prepared to give....what do you think? ↓
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| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 7:57 AM |
| Not TONES of mail....TONS ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 8:01 AM |
| Also when I had the coffee with her, she said I was glowing....then she corrected herself and said "Oh its probably the makeup your wearing"....rude bitch ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 8:03 AM |
| I mean, after she lived with us for 4 months, you would think we would become even BETTER friends wouldnt you? When she asked me if she could move in and I said yes, thats what I thought would have happened. I mean she was someone I liked! ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 8:06 AM |
| The reason Im asking this today, is because I was thinking about her because a letter come for her and Im so fed up of forwarding her mail (after a YEAR) after all I did for her and I got NOTHING back in return. Not even just a phone call every now and again to say Hi, so I threw her mail in the trash ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 8:15 AM |
| Sorry about all the mistakes in this post...Im tired ↑ |
| Name: SaRaH | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 8:43 AM |
| Then again you know me and it doesnt take much to piss me off, if all these letters where coming - i would of rung her up by now and gave her my 2 cents on it. And i tell you now she sure as hell wouldnt be asking why i didnt stop to talk...lol ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 9:12 AM |
lol!
Oh she gave me some body moisturizer when she moved out, and gave me some candy for Christmas last year. But thats just it, since she has moved out Ive only heard from her twice in a year!
Once was when I bumped into her and had coffee with her at the shops, and the second time was when she came around once to collect her mail.
Not ONE phone call in a year, just to say "Hi, how you doing?" you know? ↑ |
| Name: SaRaH | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 9:34 AM |
Yup a leach! She just used you. Well see this is why i'm a hardass and have trouble trusting people and giving them the time of day - Majority of people out there these days are only in it for themselves and look out for number 1.
If she really valued your friendship she would of been in contact with you. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 1:27 PM |
geeez hiddy!
write return to sender, does not live her anymore on her mail and throw them in the mailbox next time you past it...(that the nice thing to do)...or throw them in the bin (what i would do)
There is no friendship...i wouldnt even have bothered saying hello.
What you expect of a friendship is not what you received from this woman. she may have other ideas of how friendships are...to be honest i dont expect much from my friends...i have two very close friends and we dont ring each other often...but we dont need it either to justify our friendship...gone past that.
maybe she is one of those type of persons?...i dont send xmas cards either....yet one of my friends sends them annually...she knows im too lazy to post one back....:-) ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 1:32 PM |
| Hiddy some people are users in life. and this is one. move on honey and dont give it another thought. what a loser! god I hate when people do this. ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 1:36 PM |
| heres my situation. I have a friend also that when we talk we are glad to . but we dont do it often. she is great to chat with because she is funny and I get a good lauph . this is also A friend I was chums with for 20 years. But I couldnt count on her for support if I begged her. she is so unorganized its rediculous. I have come to the conclusion (sp) that its her prob not mine. I have it set in my mind. so now when I call. I dont have any expectations of her so Im not disopointed. But this did take a while to figure out. It use to really hurt me. ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 4:38 PM |
| There everywhere these types Hiddy. And they dont care about anything you do for them. Thats the intent. When you had enough of the crap and ya either let them know or ignor them ya never know what you will get. Its a crap shoot. Its live and learn all the time. Me I just walk away. I got beter things to do with my time and my life. They arnt worth the spit ya shine your shoes with. Just can be......heheheh like gum on your shoe. Try as you might to disloge it form yourself..........frigg there it is?! in some cases. I just had an experience with a similar piece of gum. That would be the Carol Brady I talk about. Wingnut through and through. Full of bull and becomes just completly ungluded if you ignore her. I kid you not. Festering all the while until she blows. Then the only thing she can do ........is more bs. Cuz thats the reason in the first pace ya tried and get the gum off. So not alltogether surpriseing......more predictable than anything. Like writing on a wall.....ya see it coming. I think all of us have experienced something like this. Just write her off. Chalk it up to live and learn. Grow thicker skin like Sarah and look at the bright side. Whats that? All the foolish things the nuts do.......and just have a giggle. What a life ya know? How they manged to get that far is really either a science project or just oblivious to anything, anyone other than themselves. Who wants to be a part of that sort of world. Not me. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 4:41 PM |
I would not bother with her anymore!
She is not worth your time and is not a friend if she treats you like this! ↑ |
| Name: mspeachpit | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 4:45 PM |
| my ex-roommate pretended to be my friend just to get to my hubby! ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 4:58 PM |
| oh my gosh peach............oh my gosh!!!!!!!! People, friggin amazing! ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:00 PM |
Peach that is awful!
I hope you gave her what for! ↑ |
| Name: mspeachpit | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:01 PM |
| no. funny thing is, see, i suspect they had sex (its a long story, been told before), he denies. last time i saw her she wouldnt even look at me! soo...what am i supposed to think, ya know? ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:02 PM |
| Oh dear how long ago was this? ↑ |
| Name: mspeachpit | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:11 PM |
| 15 months ago. while i was off having my daughter. ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:13 PM |
| ooooh gads. It just gets worse peach. So sorry hon. I really am. Truly heartbreaking that one. ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:14 PM |
| oh I remember you sharing that now Peach...so very sorry ↑ |
| Name: mspeachpit | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:15 PM |
| yeah, see why i dont exactly like him anymore, winn? ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:17 PM |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:17 PM |
| I think she used you to her advantage and you let her do it. Let it be a lesson learned. If you are still getting her mail call the post office and tell them she no longer lives with you so you won't be accepting her mail at your home anymore. When she comes again to collect her mail meet her at the door and tell her the post office should have it and close the door. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:17 PM |
| Hiddy I think she used you to her advantage and you let her do it. Let it be a lesson learned. If you are still getting her mail call the post office and tell them she no longer lives with you so you won't be accepting her mail at your home anymore. When she comes again to collect her mail meet her at the door and tell her the post office should have it and close the door. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 5:18 PM |
| sorry didn't mean for that to pop up twice! ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 9:42 PM |
I dont expect much from my friendships either, I have friends that we organize things and either I cancel or they cancel, we call each other at no set time or date, they dont badger me, and I dont badger them, Im a person who likes my space. So as you can imagine, it takes a LOT to get me riled up.
But what I cant believe is that this woman stayed with us for 4 months, in the same household as me, my husband and my daughter and she NEVER wonders about how we are???? ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 9:44 PM |
Peach,
now that it is refreshed in my mind......I understand......really I do...... ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 9:46 PM |
I just think shes a man pleaser. I think that she moved in here because it was easier for her to have a relationship with the new boyfriend than trying to do it under the roof of her marital home.
The husband still loved her and he didnt want to split with her.
She lay up on her bed and giggle with the new boyfriend over the phone like she was 17 years old. This woman is 47. Im pretty sure she never gave a rats arse about me, and it was all about getting away from her husband as quickly as possible so she could date her new guy. ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 9:47 PM |
| Yeah, Ive had that happen to me too peach. With someone I met online. ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 9:47 PM |
| Just takers hiddy and for givers its hard to grasp it?! No escaping them. They are all over like I say. But that really takes the cake. Four months and not a word, of pleasent.. anything. I feel for you. :| ↑ |
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