| Is it possible that it is because your son is older? The older child usually does get into more trouble than the younger child..... ↑ |
yes but even when he sees her do something wrong, at the most he just says something like 'honey don't do that'
my son can do the exact same thing and he's all over him like white on rice! its not just every once in while either. it's all the time! ↑ |
hmmmm.
o.k well we are a blended family as well......and we all treat my youngest( ours together) a little bit differently.....he is the baby of 5...our last "baby"....we expect more out of the older children because they are older.....
and no none of the other kids are offended that he gets treated like the youngest......everyone is comfortable and knows their possition in the family....everyone is loved....but he does get away with more than the others ever did.... ↑ |
| i completely understand what you are saying but it does affect my son. sometimes he says that my husband doesn't love him. you must admit that if your child said that it would break your heart ↑ |
oh yes it sure would....
It is time to talk to him...... ↑ |
| well it could be that he acts that way because it is not his son, but the odds are very likely that he treats him harder because dads tend to thing that "you have to be hard on boys" and they don't have the heart to punish girls as harshly. My dad always got on my brother more then me and my mom always always got on me more then my brother. It think that it very common. If you feel like he is doing it becuase you son does not belong to him then it is you job as his mother to make sure that he is treated fairly. that means that you have to start setting rules for both children and predetermined punishment for breaking the rules. You and your husband need to sit down and make the list of rules and go over them with the children. Then you both have to follow the guidlines for punishment. You children will become better behaved and need less correction because they will know the boundries and your husband will not have the chance to over react on your son because the punishment will be preset. Also this helps to not let anger get involved in the punishment. If you can say well "jonnie" not throwing toys is a rule and for tryowing you race car you now have to sit in the other room for 5 min. then set a timer for when jonnie can come back in. It will be hard at first, but it will lower the frusteration level and you husband will have less of a chance to yell. Good luck. I can tell you that my husband did this with our boys when they were 4 and 5 (each form other relationships) if really made me feel comfortable in letting another person tell my son what to do. The trick is to be consistant and not let then get away with it just because dad is not home or it will not work. Good luck ↑ |
i agree with jillw...preset punishment or discipline...It makes you more comfortable and you wont feel like he is picking on him...i had the same problem with our stepkids from both sides
but alot of it was me...i was too paranoid and didnt give my husband room to just be himself...i forgot that men think and behave differently...now i look back and just think...oh he wasnt treating her or him differently...hes a dickhead with all of them...LOL ↑ |
just a p.s
he does actually love them all...thought i better put that in!!!
He's just a spazzoid when it comes to discipline...he is one of those men that can let everything slide and then go beserk screaming oneday over the same thing that he lets slide...LOL ↑ |
I believe he does love him but maybe hard for him to show it. He had a bad history with his father so I can't help but wonder if this is the reason for his "poor judgement"
He does kinda spazz out sometimes though.lol ↑ |
| It's probably because your son is older and a boy that he instinctly goes for him first. I don't think there's anymore to it than that. I don't think he purposely goes after your son because he's not really his or favors his daughter over your son. I think it's just the (older and male thing). ↑ |
