So after that last fight my hubby and I got into, I was feeling frustrated beyond belief so I let him have it...
I remained calm and collected and waited until he wasn't in a bad mood to bring it up. Trying to get my point across when he's on a rampage is useless and tiring.
So I told him that I wasn't impressed at all by his behavior and I don't know what's going on with him but he has to stop putting it on me.
I told him that he needs to learn to control himself because I'm getting really tired of it and that no matter how I react to him flipping out, it's apparently the wrong way.
If I yell back then I'm being angry with him for no reason.(because he never does anything wrong, you see)
If I don't say anything or walk away then I'm pissed off at him and avoiding the issue...even if the reason he's mad has nothing to do with me.
If I speak calmly then I'm being "passive aggressive".
He says he's not depressed but I think differently because happy people don't go around lashing out at their loved ones.
I told him that it's not fair to me and it's ESPECIALLY not fair to our 2 year old to have to witness his tirades and temper tantrums.
I pointed out that every time he gets like that, Silas starts whining or acting out as well and then I'm left to deal with it because he can't seem to get his shit together.
I told him that I've tried everything that I know or can think of yet nothing's changing, if anything it's getting worse.
I told him that he needs to quit "saying" he's going to quit drinking but then still go out every weekend and getting drunk. If he wants to quit then he should quit.
I flat out told him that I will NOT be living the rest of my life like that so if he wants this marriage to work then he has to make an actual effort.
So Last weekend he didn't go out drinking and he pointed out how nice our weekend was and how he didn't drink.
So I pointed out that we also didn't have a fight...maybe there's a connection? ha ha ha! ↓
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