I just needed to have a bit of a rant... as i am loosing my temper very slowly with rude people in the street that i dont even know !!
Most of you know my circumstances with having to leave my daughters dad.... and boy do i get reminded almost every single day !!
NEVER in my life have i copped so much shit since having izzy.......... i'm 22 and a single mum.... i get stupid remarks from assholes down the street ALL THE TIME !!!
I dont even have to be doing anything and someone will give me a smart ass remark about how silly young mothers are...
The other day i was walking through the pharmacy when some woman walked past me.. gave me a dirty look.... then said to her son " I think its so funny seeing silly young mums " i mean HONESTLY what the fuck did i do to her ??
Or i have bus drivers giving me shit about how " big " my pram is... and that if i dont fold it down then im not coming on !!!
i think almost every single time i have gone out with izzy someone has been rude and ignorant.. it makes me really sad because i KNOW im a good mum.... young or not izzy is being brought up in a healthy / happy way and as best i can.
BAHHH sorry just needed to let it out. ↓
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| Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 3:49 AM |
| you know the funny part.. im not EVEN THAT YOUNG !!! there are mums so much younger than me... yet i am still getting shit from random people. GRRR ↑ |
| Name: Joeys_Mam | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 6:35 AM |
| I'm really sorry to hear you have to put up with all that crap. Their behaviour towards you is a reflection on them, not you. How can they call you 'silly'? For what? Having a daughter in your 20s? Madness. :( ↑ |
| Name: mother2five | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 12:28 PM |
Rosey, I have been partially in your shoes before......I have not had to experience being single......but seeing that we had our oldest when we were only 17.......you can imagine the crap we/ I caught! I was even walking out of a Victoria's Secret once.......I was already married at the time and probably 19 pushing 20 and a couple of girls walked in....one looked even younger than myself.....I had my oldest with me in her stroller and that young little brat looked at me rudley and said don't you learn being in here is what gave you that in the first place..........WTF!!!!! Lol I was a married woman....no I did not plan to have my family so young......but things have turned out to be perfect, we have a normal comfy life just like everyone else. People should keep their rude comments to theirselves they don't know you or your situation, and it's easier said than done believe me....we still get rude comments about the number of kids we have when we go out and I have learned to either ignore it, or turn it around on them to embaress them right back. Just hang in there, your prince charming will come along when the time is right Rosey. And really weather your old, young married or not there is always going to be some rude ignorant ass who feels the need to give you their 2 cents.....
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| Name: mother2five | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 12:31 PM |
I meant to say you just have to let it roll off
*and it's easier said than done believe me....we still get rude comments about the number of kids we have when we go out and I have learned to either ignore it, or turn it around on them to embaress them right back. * ↑ |
| Name: Lola-May | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 12:48 PM |
22 is not THAT young. Geez! People need to mind their own business.
We get the ignorant remarks and looks too.
Jason is a tattoo artist and he's covered in tattoos and looks a little intimidating I suppose. I have tattoos too but not as many as him.
Jason took Silas to the park yesterday to let me sleep in and this old couple came along with their grand kid and took one look at Jason and left. Like he's going to do something???
When's the last time you saw a guy covered in tattoos on the news for kidnapping, or molestation or anything really?
It's always the seemingly "normal" looking men.
We get dirty looks just walking down the street.
I guess being 22 and also having tattoos makes us terrible parents eh? ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 1:02 PM |
| People are jerks, plain and simple, and don't know how to mind their own business! I get it all the time! ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 1:16 PM |
it really is sad that people have nothing better to do than to judge and put down complete strangers.
hubby and I have never noticed looks or heard comments about us while out in public. but we sure do get looks when one of our kids is acting out in the grocery store. mainly Lex. Anika loves shopping. but it's not even that bad with Lex...he just gets bored and doesn't want to sit in the cart anymore...can't blame him i guess..lol...but people look at us like we don't know how to control our son. pisses me right off...
i personally have nothing but the greatest respect for single parents. and YOUNG single parents too....we think being a married, sahm is difficult. young single parents have a much bigger challenge, and find it so amazing how most of them cope and handle things. they live their life, bust their asses and raise their children as best as possible. and i think most of them out there are doing a fantastic job at it!!!!
i know it's easier said than done...of course when you hear rude comments like that you're going to feel bad...you can' t help it. but fuck em!!!!! they don't know you...you don't know them. don't let some asshole stranger's opinion get the best of you!!! they aren't worth the effort!!
you know in your heart that what you're doing is the best for your child, and forget the rest!! :-) ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 4:47 PM |
For me, I am alone alot because Chris is always deployed. When I was pregnant, I would avoid going out in public for as long as i could because the way people stared at me. Yes I was 19 but I would wait till I was practically out of every food item in the house before i would go shopping., just because i hated how people treated me.
And now that Tyler is 18 MO and Chris is once again deployed I get all the stares, this time its worse, and when he is tired and cranky for being in the cart for so long, all people do is stare.
I posted in due dates that one time this old man and his wife were questioning how old i was and kept saying "are you sure he isn't your brother? You don't look old enough to have a baby" As I was shopping at the Bx, which is on a military post! This old man was prob the same age i was when he and his wife had children.
Its not like we aren't the best parents we can be! and the reason why im by my self isn't because i was some slut that just happened to get knocked up, he is from a loving couple that is married and happy, and the reason why my Husband isn't here is because he is off at war, so save the rude comments.
I cant stand some people!! UGH!!
and when I'm at the mall, its bad too, like i shouldn't be allowed at the mall or something because i have a baby! ↑ |
| Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Nov 11th, 2008 3:35 AM |
Man i just cant understand what fucking business it is of theres lol. i was sitting on the bus oneday with my friend and we had to fold our prams down... and some woman came on the bus and started bitching about how big our prams are... and back in her days she didnt need prams that big blah blah blah...then she started going off about how i probably dont have a husband !!! Wtf ?!!??
Anyways... she was the most ugliest fat bitch ive ever seen in my life.. i cant imagine HER with a husband either.. and i was damn right to tell her that too =D
Gosh theres only so much of peoples shit i can take a day... some days get so stressful i end up just going home. ↑ |
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