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OK, I started this gym membership basically for me. I could go any time in the morning and drop the kids off for an hour, i could shed the pregnancy pounds, it would make the day go by faster, and the kids would get to play with other kids. Well my husband loves the gym too, problem is he wants to go three days a week after work. He says you can't really get much. So we got in this big argument after he came home from work today. I wanted to go get my hair cut, but he wanted to go to the gym. I told him that there were plenty of things that needed to be done around this house before going to the gym. First the kids wanted some attention cause they haven't seen him all day, second the yard needed mowing, etc. So he cut the grass, took a shower and took off to the gym. So here I am sitting here on another Friday night alone. He was in college full-time and worked full-time for four years while I raised the kids, now he is done with school and here we go again, another excuse to leave me here alone with the kids. Now I do go to the gym during the day about 2-3 weeks, while he is at work. I am just sick of trying my best to have a great little family that does things together and he keeps taking off. I have told him that Friday nights from now on are a no no. But he insists that Friday nights are the best time to go to the gym cause nobody is there. How do we cram in alone time, gym time, work time, church time, kids time, school time, in 7 days? Would you be mad or is this my fault for starting a gym membership to get in shape? Last night we had a meeting at my sons preschool and it was his bright idea that he would watch the kids while I went alone. That was real fun. My dad even offered to come over and watch the boys while we went together with out the kids, but he insisted that I go alone, now I feel like because he had the kids last night, I have to have them tonight. Its as if he gets me back some how for having to watch the kids. I have told him this but he denies it. ↓
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| Name: kimber | Date: Aug 17th, 2007 11:23 PM |
| I meant 1-2 hours a day. ↑ |
| Name: kimber | Date: Aug 17th, 2007 11:27 PM |
| I guess what I am trying to say, is that I feel as if I am constantly waiting on him to get home etc. just to make me happy. It is hard to be happy on my own while attending to the needs of my children. Even going to the mall is not really that much fun unless he is with me. I don't know, maybe I just need to make some friends. Help. ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Aug 18th, 2007 12:03 AM |
| yep....i was feeling the same way....well right now my hubby can't watch them much cause of the type of job he has, but as soon as fire season is over, I'm taking my fkin' life back!!! why don't you guys go to the gym together? the gym i'm starting at has a drop in day care thing while you're workin' out....so we all go together. just make sure that the nights you do go that everyone eats an early dinner or something....that what we've been doing...we'd go Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday and on saturday we'd go in the morning so there's really only two nights that we have to go. then one thing hubby and I did, was cause he works all week, weekend he wants to relax, but naturally i'd like a little help....so Saturday is his day, to relax, unwind from the busy week, and he can go and do whatever he pleases...usually he'll go and work in his garage..BUT in return, Sunday is family day, which mean nothing else but the four of us. by giving him that one day to himself, he doesn't feel so "controlled" with his time-off, and me and the kids get the quality time that we all deserve. ↑ |
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