So with three days to go before the wedding(2 now) a little under 20 people decide to let us know that they aren't in fact coming even after saying they were.
What the hell is wrong with people?
Has no one ever been to a wedding before?
Do they not realize that when you RSVP with a yes, arrangements are made to fit them into the mix.
Seating is thought of.
Food is PAID for.
Wine is PAID for.
A bigger venue was found and booked.
At this point it's not even the money aspect that bothers me the most, it annoys me more than anything.
The thing I think that bugs me the most is people's lame ass excuses for not coming.
I am so disappointed with my friends right now.
It's not like this is my birthday party or a housewarming party, this is my fucking wedding!
Car trouble, work, no money, school, broke up with boyfriend...just a few of the excuses.
People have literally known then when and where as far as what city the wedding is in since January. The hall was booked in April or May...plenty of time to save up a little money to come out for it.
Silas being born was the most important day of my life. As far as having the most important day of my life with friends and family around goes, the wedding would take that title and now my nearest and dearest friends aren't making any effort to be there.
What a sad realization to have right before a major milestone in my life.
I know it'll still be fun and I know it doesn't matter how many people are there because it's about Jason and I but it still sucks.
My friends(the ones bailing anyways) suck.
It doesn't help that I got my "lady troubles" today...makes me cry a whole lot easier. ↓
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| Name: bmes | Date: Oct 2nd, 2008 1:33 PM |
aw....i got my lady troubles yesterday!! ha ha...
but honestly. about people bailing at the last minute...it ALWAYS happens, and you have to expect it. as far as their excuses...i know hubby and I save money for things ahead of time, and it's always our luck something always comes up and we have to spend our saved money on something else....like our hot tub heater breaking....our car breaking....300 here, 500 there....it happens. also when i was working i requested days off for weddings, reunions, etc (FAMILY stuff, not just friends who were getting married), and last minute my boss tells me he couldn't give me the days off, and that the request book is simply just that...a request!!! not guaranteed....happened to me THREE TIMES in two years!!! fkin' REALLY pissed me off....
all i'm saying is, as annoying as it is, shit happens, and i'm sure the majority who cancelled didn't do it "just because". so don' hold it against them. as far as the one who broke up with b/f....she's probably feeling sorry for herself, and is being selfish thinking she doesn't want to be around people who are getting MARRIED when she just lost her b/f....on mine and hubby's wedding, his bestman, broke up with his g/f the day before our wedding, IN VEGAS!!! ha ha ha....so they were broken up and she was still at the wedding and he had to be the best man....he was one sulky baby that day!!! lol...
so...sorry i'm blabbing....but yeah....hope you see my point. i understand it is YOUR DAY!!! and one of the most important days of your life, but other people have their own lives, and things come up in their own lives. just enjoy your day with your new husband and the people who ARE coming and forget about the rest, cause it just really isn't worth it!!
good luck on the weddding day btw...and congrats to you and your hubby in advance!!! :-) ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Oct 2nd, 2008 1:36 PM |
That's to bad, it is disappointing when you invite friends and family to share a special time with you and for what ever the reason they cant make it.
I like weddings they give me a worm fuzzy feeling inside. The only thing about them I don't like is that I ball like a fricken baby, lol! ↑ |
| Name: VonDoomsMom | Date: Oct 2nd, 2008 4:44 PM |
| I know what you mean. My husband and I got married in the courthouse. We are both from the midwest and we were new to Florida when we got married so we didn't know anyone from down here to invite and my mother told me she didn't think anyone would come all the way down to Florida for a wedding. Financially, I couldn't really plan to have a wedding up there so I gave up the idea and we just got married at the courthouse. Two years later my sister got married in cancun and EVERYONE(like 50 people, most of them people who would have been invited to mine) went there for her wedding. She had it at an all inclusive resort and everyone shelled out more than $500 per person plus airfare!!! Needless to say I am still pissed at my mom for her shitty advise! ↑ |
| Name: momof3 | Date: Oct 2nd, 2008 9:50 PM |
| I hope you still have a wonderful wedding. I know that it would mean alot to you to have everyone there, but they are the ones missing out, not you. This is your day and don't let anyone ruin it for you. Let them miss seeing you look more beautiful than ever before, let them miss that first kiss between you and your husband!! Have a great wedding. And good luck. ↑ |
| Name: VonDoomsMom | Date: Oct 3rd, 2008 7:57 AM |
| oh yeah....I got distracted by my own wedding memories. I hope you have a beautiful special day. You'll be so busy you won't miss those that couldn't make it anyway. ↑ |
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