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Name: stiggysgirl
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My son is 8 yrs old and everyday is a battle. Everything we try seems to just seem to just end up in a bigger battle. We are now trying this program by James Lehman called Total Transformation. Which in the beginning appeared to be working. But now again we seem to be going backwards again. My husband works a job where he is away from home all week so its just me dealing with all the behaviors. And I love my son with all my heart and soul but anyone with a child with ODD can understand there are times you just don't like your child. The hard thing for me is we spend 5 yrs of fertility treatment to get our son. And the moment I held him in my arms my heart melted. And now each day my heart breaks as he says all these mean things to me like he hates me and and doesn't want to live with me. We are now trying a phychiatrist again to see what we can do. We had a visit the other day and she said his diagnosis is this ADHD, ODD and mood disorder. That was just to start. She hadn't even done the evaluation yet. So I feel very alone in my quest to help my son. And it seems the more I try to help the more I am pushed away. We have taken back the control in our house and I understand that with doing this makes the ODD worse. But the Total Transformation Program helped us understand its not our fault with his behavior even though he makes us feel as if it is. And we just have to change the way we were doing consequences. But the big thing is I just don't have anyone to talk to about this and feel so alone. His behavior goes from loving one minutes to screaming at me the next its just so hard. How do you get through your days? I mean its hard when every minute that he's home from school with me is up and down and such a play on my emotions. Does anyone have any advise?
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Name: STEPMOM | Date: Oct 26th, 2008 1:26 AM
HELLO JUST HANG IN THERE IVE LEARNED WHEN MY DAUGHTER SAYS THING LIKE THAT I SAY I LOVE U TO .I KNOW IT HURT TO HEAR THEM SAY IT BUT U HAVE TO REMEMBER THEY DONT MEAN IT 

Name: ga mom | Date: Nov 4th, 2008 8:21 PM
Gosh!I feel your pain. I have a little guy who is soo sweet and soo hard to handle. We started clonadine for our mood regulation disorder and it has helped. the side effects are increased appetite, which works since he has a hard time being still long enough to sit and eat food. (He has adhd and mood regulation disorder). He sometimes crys in his meltdown phase but this is so much better than "I hate you" with hitting kicking and spitting. I work in health care and investigated this drug from front to back before we tried it. I feel like its right for us. Ask your doc, maybe it can help you 

Name: angel | Date: Jan 1st, 2009 9:21 AM
Two years ago my son was diagnosed with ADHD , undergone behavior therapy but did not finish the course by his own choice. We did not follow the doctor's advice to give him straterra bec we're afraid of the side effects. I think we have the same problem with regards to our son, i dont want to go to another doctor just to confirm that he has ODD but still I cannot tolerate the fact that my son tell me mean things. It really breaks my heart to imagine the things that might come his way if he did not change for good. Looking for advice 

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