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Name: rachel32
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I am really new at this, I don't usually talk to people I don't no, but really I don't know what else to do.. I am a step mom of a boy who is 8 . The docotrs tell us that he is ADHD, or ADD, they really don't know themselves I think. There are so many Questions that I would loved to get answered. I don;t know where to start but . About mid Oct I got him up to get ready for school and while he was he decided to urinat on his floor, When I walked in he was dressed and wiph the floor with his Pj's. I asked him what he did and why , but he could not tell me, said he did not know. He does just about anything you can imagain.
He has an older brother (10),he does not have this disorder, but his little sister
(5) and the doctors say that she had ODD,witch to my understanding they are all about the same kind of dissor. (He and his sister still have to wear pull-ups to bed). Anyway tonight after we had supper, the little guy was in his sisters room playing with her dolls and the houses. I walked in because he was really quite, Looked around the back of the bed, he was sitting there with no pants or underwear on. I asked him what he was doing and he said nothing, I tried to tell he that people just don't go and take off their clothes of no reason at all. I asked him again and again, he still would not answer me. I sent him to bed. I don't know what else to do. A few weeks ago when his dad would go in his room around 11pm or 12 to get him up before we go to bed for him to use the bathroom, he would have no pull-up or pants on either. That happened for about 2 weeks then stoped, Now this is happening..
There are so many more things that he has done, but this is what is bothering me tonight.. If anyone can help in anyway it would be GREAT!!!!
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Name: irish Amy | Date: Jan 8th, 2008 12:08 AM
Hi Rachel, I am awaiting an appointment to see if my daughter has adhd, I already have a 4yr old son with autism, one of the questions we were asked about my son was if he took his clothes off mainly his pants, at the time he didnt, for the last 3 weeks or so he has started to do just that, when he does, I usually just put on his p.j. bottoms and leave him without his pants, Now while I'm not saying for one second that your stepson has autism or that I know a lot about adhd, I can only presume that this would be a sensory issue for him as it is for my son, please Rachel dont punish him by sending him to bed as it could be causing him great discomfort to have his pants on, maybe the waistband is too tight or uncomfortable, or maybe its the material rubbing against his skin, as for peeing on the floor, it took us a year to toilet train my son and when he had no pull up on he didnt even realise if he wet the floor, or other! no point getting angry, as frustrating as it can be, believe me I know! lol, as getting angry will only make him more anxious and if I'm not mistaken is that not one of the big issues with kids with adhd? at least he realised and tried to clean it up, this is more than likely a phase he is going through with the pants so could you try to put him in loose trackie bottoms til it passes? I hope I'm not coming across as condesending or anything like that because I certainly dont mean to, and good on you for caring enough about your stepkids to post on here, many would'nt be bothered, I hope I have given you food for thought and at least some help, I wish you and your kids all the best x. 

Name: irish Amy | Date: Jan 8th, 2008 12:12 AM
Rachel, maybe he needs to see an O.T., he may have lots of sensory issues or difficulties, good luck. 

Name: rachel32 | Date: Jan 8th, 2008 12:24 AM
Thanks, irish Amy

I understand what your saying . The pants that he had on tonight were gym pants, they were not tight at all. I thought the same thing at first too. I am not sure why he does the things he does, I just hope things change soon. This is also hard on the other kids. I have a 10 year old daughter, and he has a brother and a little sister. It was in her room were this took place. She was out with me watching TV at the time.. It would not have been very nice if she would have walked into her room , to find him there with no clothes on. About a year ago he also got a lighter and burnt some of his toys, clothes, blankets, shoes, and our computer desk, ( the corner). I don't even know how he got it and how he did it without us knowing. About 2 years ago he got a BIG knife and went after the babysitter with it. Thank God that has not happened since. You must think we don't look after our kids. Don't get me wrong I am not say ing YOU, but people in general.. I work 5 days a week and his dad works 5 days a week as well. I am with them 90% for the day, and on the weekends their dad is home. I have all the homework, showers, suppers, and everything,. My hours of work are mostly in the mornings after they go to school, and home just as they get home. I feel sad for him but I also feel that he has to be puinshed in some way. Just about every week there is something new added to the list of things that he does..
He is on Meds for this and has helped somewhat. Thanks again for your reply, it's good sometimes just to get things out..... 

Name: Danielle | Date: Jan 8th, 2008 4:16 AM
I tried what Michelle said about "cure adhd". We don't have any extraordary problems now. You might want to check 3 things. 1) Is it one of the side effects of drugs that he is taking? It is on the food and drug administration website. 2) Is it a food allergy? That was the real problem with my children. You can find that out by having a diet of fruits and vegitables for a week. Then checking for behavior. You have to take him off drugs for a week too. Then if the behavior is good, start adding some foods and watch for a reaction. If the reaction is bad then read what is in the food. You can narrow it down. 3) check private schools for adhd children. The best schools are boarding. These are simply some ideas for you from my experience. 

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