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Name: simplybria.
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Okay so my mom has been with this man for about seven years . When i was younger i used to get along with him.As i got older things changed, he tried to take on the role of being my dad and started demanding different things about boys and everything.Basically being annoying and stupid . My mama always took his side and i always kind of resented her for that kind of stuff . Eventually we moved out because of that and their own r/s probs. So why now , hes constantly over here and i just feel if if knows how i feel about him why is shy doing this ? I know thats her bf but i thought i come first before anyone ? I confronted her about it a couple days ago and nothing has changed . I feel like im going to end up hating her and i told her and still it seems like thats what shes asking for .
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Name: simplybria. | Date: May 3rd, 2009 2:54 AM
what should i do ? 

Name: jamie_ogren | Date: Jul 11th, 2009 4:24 PM
maybe she's got alot going on.
or maybe, since he's over all the time, do they fight? she may feel trapped in her relationship.
it's so... so easy to hide. you have to pay a little more attention.
any new bruises cuts on the face, burns, anything..

also, try to listen to her conversations with him, or a close friend or anyone.
if she seems a little TOO happy, or a little sad, or if she whispers on the phone, or anything. you can always tell.

this might help you understand her situation a little better, when you find out, post again, and id be more than happy to help seeing as ive been in this situation before.

i should stop writing for now.
it's nap time.

feel free to email me sometime
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Name: alyssa | Date: Oct 7th, 2009 10:55 PM
i understand how you feel completely my mom doesnt even know me anymore! it hurts and im ready to pack my stuff and move in with my real father. 

Name: BabyLovin | Date: Nov 11th, 2009 12:49 AM
It sounds to me like your being a little selfish. I only say that because I don't know the whole situation, but by you saying you don't like him because he's asking you to do stuff. He might not have tried to take the role of being your dad, he might have just taken the role of being the man in the house, which is completely understandable. Now, your mom should not always take his side, but there shouldn't be a reason for her to be put in the position to take sides. Maybe the situation was something obvious that he was in the right and you were in the wrong, but you are taking it the wrong way. Just like it could be vice versa. Again, IDK what the sitaution was. Is it just him that you feel about this way? or is it any man in her life? It might just be jealousy, this is something you need to sit down and think about, because it might not be fair to your mom. You might be denyin her the right to be happy, because you are jealous that you should be the only person in her life. BUt what ever the case maybe, you should NEVER hate your mother!!!

THink about what really bothers you in this situation. Is it just because you don't get all the attention? Is he really that bad? Their relationship problems, should not concern you unless it gets physical. I suggest you to speak with her and if it doesn't work out... then maybe it is as you say...

Again, this is my opinion.

Good Luck! 

Name: Dee | Date: Jul 3rd, 2010 10:35 PM
That sounds like a bad situation. I hate my moms boyfriends. They are constantly annoying me, picking on me, and trying to make me laugh. They aren't funny. I hate being put after my mom's boyfriend. It truly sucks. But if she's going to do that, take some time away from her. Maybe live with your dad or aunt for a week and then come back and maybe tell your mom everything you feel. Don't complain about him, give her reasons and let her know all your feelings. I know its extreme measures but it might help you get some air. 

Name: sam | Date: Oct 15th, 2010 3:21 PM
my mom is the same way. she always choses her boyfriend over me. she says that she is going to leave him and does and a few hours later they are back together. she talks crap about him behind his back, but she "loves" him when hes there. i dont undertstand. she doesnt even know who i am anymore and i resent her for that. 

Name: breebree772 | Date: Nov 17th, 2010 12:18 AM
my momma has her boyfriend .right? well this chick started drinking a little more with this guy and idk wtf happend but all a suddn she has been getting jelous of me! everytime he looks at me, or smiles at me, or if we joke round she gets all giggly and touchy with him while giving me a sideways glare. or she .... its awkward for me. i know im prtyy. but does my mom have to get like that? shes really creeping me out & putting the hate on me. i dont like it nope. idk wot this hs 2 do here but... 

Name: Jocelyn | Date: Mar 13th, 2011 3:53 AM
my mom isi doing that now ! i have memory lose ocassionaly and she always takes his side over mine what should i do? 

Name: Faleasha | Date: Sep 2nd, 2011 3:39 PM
I realize that this was written over a year ago, but i felt i should contribute.

My mom's doing the same thing. I don't understand it either.

I've tried to talk to her about it and we always wind up fighting about it. like, he can do absolutely nothing wrong in her eyes.

Her boyfriend is a complete asshole to me and my sister, and it doesn't seem to bother her.

I feel like there's nothing i can do about it except move out and abandon the situation.

i would have moved out a long time ago, if it weren't for my little sister having to stay and deal with this. i couldn't leave her. 

Name: ... | Date: Jan 2nd, 2012 3:31 AM
i know how you feel 

Name: Herro | Date: Dec 10th, 2012 5:25 AM
That is almost exactly what i was like when I was younger I used to love him but now he is rude and Inmature I have a step mom and I love her the boyfriend is rude tries to act like the man acts like he is my dad and everything I HATE him ANSI really thing he is cheating on my mom 

Name: mary | Date: Dec 25th, 2012 4:17 PM
My mom makes me sleep on the floor for him to sleep on my side of the bed. 

Name: MARY | Date: Dec 26th, 2012 2:39 PM
My moms boyfriend punched me in the face and she my mom didnt say a word.He twisted my arm and she didint say anything!I hate my moms boyfriend!Everytime he looks at me in a certain way i say what are you looking at.That's when I'd get in trouble. And she will say oh don't talk to him.I look at her.and say nothing. 

Name: jay | Date: Feb 18th, 2013 12:18 AM
My mum is always putting her stupid boyfriend before me or my sister. She has dirty pics and vids on her phone which she let me use, and then she blames me for finding them. When I said I didn't like him, she broke up with him and was depressed. So depressed that she lost all money and I had to pick up the pieces. What do I do. I feel like killing myself. She always takes his side and I just caught her half naked walking to him openly, covering herself up from me. What a slut... birch, I hate her and hate my life. 

Name: brother-in-arms | Date: Jan 20th, 2015 10:23 PM
First off, my heart goes out to you! I unfortunately am in the same situation. My mom has been seeing this man for 2 years, and though he is verbally abusive and a video game addict, she always jumps to his side whenever I confront him for the way he's talking to or treating her. My advice; just wait it out. That's my plan of action, to wait it out until I can move away and then move as far away as possible.

Stay strong, Bria. 

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