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Name: ryans mom
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My son has autism I just wanted to talk to some parents who were having some of the same troubles as me. Ryan is awsome looks totally normal and plays normal at least by himself. But as soon as he speaks its apparent. He mostly speaks gibberish. There are a few words and phrases that he will use mostly because he has them memorized and sometimes phrases or comments he will repeat.

It wasen't always like that though we have come down a long road of threapy and diffrent tried alot of diffrenet treatment with alot of diffrenet teachers and doctors, I put the leg work into it because I reallly thought these people were full of shit.

But now he is 6 and although we have made alot of progress it is 3 1/2 years of threapy later and he is still autistic.

I quess my question is what is the next step, what else can I do for my child? How can I make things clearer for him? I would love to be able to talk with someone with autism to pick there brain. I have often thought if I could just get a moment inside his brain then it would all make sense to me and then I could explain things in a way he would understand.
But we keep going over the same material and everyday it looks like something new. Everyday when he calls me dad to get my attention I have to remind him that I am mom then he mimic me and calls me mom. Does he know my name is mom? Can he just not remeber? How can I help when I don't know what is wrong?
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Name: boys58 | Date: May 20th, 2008 4:30 PM
i am a mother of a 8 year old autistic boy and i know how you feel. mine is 8 years old and says gerberish words still just like your boy. i am sure he knows that you are mom. he just is having a hard time with wording it out. he has a limited amount of words that he can say so he may be having a hard time telling you that so he calls you dad like he does to his dad. also that may have been one of the firsts words he was able to say as well so it is easier for him to say. my boy autisim, adhd ,and epilepsy and for those reasons a lot of things he says are also memorised with gerberish. the seizures can also worsen his autisim. anyway, also you need to know that autisim can't be cured. it can only be helped by therapy at school. just make sure that he is in a public school that has a disabled class for him and as much speech therapy that they can provide. good luck. Sabrina 

Name: niki_kob | Date: May 20th, 2008 5:42 PM
Hi, i am a digital animation student that will be participating in an international fair in France beginning of next year. i wanted to make a short animation about the way an autistic child views life and what its like to live it. i want to help people understand what the child and family lives through. I was hoping someone could help me so i could do this the best and most realistic way. Thank you 

Name: Cadesmom | Date: May 24th, 2008 7:46 PM
What Ryan is doing is perfectly normal for an autistic child. That's how they learn speech, by mimicking. Don't get frustrated. My son was exactly the same as your son, when he was 6. Now, he is high school and doing extremely well. We actually thought that he may never speak and then when he spoke but only copied, we thought that he would never have a thought ofj his own. Well he doesnow. As a matter of fact we sometimes wish that he would stop talking. That's all he does. He just keeps asking questions and talking about everything that enters his mind. Ryan will develop speech along the way, you'll see. Somethings never change though....becaue my older son always called my husband, his stepfather, by his first name, my autistic child copied him and to this day, calls his father by his first name. But who cares....we know who he means. Have patience and realize that your son will always be autistic.....but his strengths and accomplishements will eventually shine through, you'll see. 

Name: I know | Date: Jun 1st, 2008 5:54 PM
I do understand what you mean. It can be so frustrating when you put so much in and feel like your bashing your head against a brick wall. Have you considered that you may be trying too hard? After all it sounds like you are putting A LOT of pressure on yourself and that's not good either.
I hate to sound awful but your son will ALWAYS be autistic. This will never change- just how he copes will change.
My son to this day still gets "stuck " and will have the exact same conversation with you up to half an hour and he gets so frustrated.
I find that autistic children learn visually. We had a Visual guide with pictures that symbolised what was required. Maybe you could show him a picture of you several times a day and say "Mom" and ask him to repeat. Autistic children seem to find it hard to understand certain concepts. Kurtis still calls girls "he" rather than she as he can't grasp this concept.
Give it time but also remember you could use any obsessions that he has if they could be incorporated- just an idea that I have found works like a gem! 

Name: autimommy04 | Date: May 19th, 2011 2:32 AM
I wish people would understand Autism doesnt just go away with therapy. I am an adult and autistic and I have an adult sister with Autism and a child with Autism. We can learn to cope with it and how to teach our children the way they understand NOT push for a cure of something we all do not understand. Learn to understand your child and accept him for who he is. Don't expect miracles but rejoice at each new break through he has. 

Name: MylesMomChelsea | Date: Feb 28th, 2012 2:52 AM
My son is 5 years old and sounds very similar to yours. His name is Myles. He is very cute as I'm sure yours is, too, and physically normal in every way. I very much relate to your entry. It is frustrating not to be able to help them more or understand what they're really thinking. It would be easier to know what to do if we had a better understanding of what it is like to think like they do. I am at the point of accepting I will never know but by being his biggest fan and living a calmer, happier life with him, my other kids and husband, he has the best chance at a happy healthy life even though its different than what I envisioned for him. Hope that makes sense. 

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