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Name: loli

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I'm sick and tired of the following:

-Family member's telling me about how they just don't see it. The autism isn't there. Meanwhile my child does show it in minor ways around the person and the person clearly doesn't understand the signs.

-No I'm not going to do chelation. I don't have the money.

-No, I'm not going to get more than five opinions. Sorry if you can't bring yourself to accept reality and I don't have the money.

- Yes, I'm well aware Jenny Mccarthy claimed her son was cured. I'm also well aware that she's misinformed.

- Yeah I heard that you do a special diet and no the special diet isn't to eliminate protein!

- Yeah I know my child is really cute, sweet and adorable. Having autism doesn't mean you are physically ugly. I don't care how many times you've seen that on tv.

- No it's not like Rainman. Please quit pretending you know what you are talking about.

-I'm doing just fine until others treat me like a crazy mom just making this stuff all up. Guess the pediatrician is too.

- I think I enjoy my autistic child more than your company right now. At least my child isn't a rude judgmental jerk.

- Yeah I know...my child isn't sitting still in a restaurant and just threw a tantrum over strange food. I'm walking out the door with my child so you won't have to see and hear it.

-Oh your child just tried to get my child's attention? Can't you see my child is busy looking at interesting stuff right now? That's just the way my child is...you don't have to give me your ugly dirty looks.

- Oh so you think my child wouldn't respond that way if in your home huh. Okay well let me pack a bag, write a list and test this theory. Make sure you have a guest room for my child and I to sleep in and I would also like my own bathroom with a huge bath tub too. Make sure breakfast is ready by ten.

I am not sick of my autistic child. I'm sick of the ones sarcastically described above. As a matter of fact, I prefer being around my autistic child than them. ↓

Name: I know | Date: Jun 8th, 2008 8:23 PM

I there, I do understand exactly what you are saying! I often say I don't have a problem with my kid, it's the others that are the problem. I defianately get the part where they say- "at my house they wouldn't be this way." In sheer anger I once told someone to do just that! You should have seen their look of horror that I might mean it!!They didn't take me up on it of course, cos deep down they know that they are talking rubbish!
I had a so called friend that would forever claim that she could get my little one to do what I couldn't- it really got me down until I saw that this wasn't true!
I had a situation a year ago now where a women (who was a parent of a child in the same class) proclaimed that she had realised what my sons "problem" was- me! I was so infuriated and sarcatically responded - "yeah, I can see your point. After all 12 specialists with 10 years study together have 120 years together and experience know nothing!" She soon shut up but it did hurt at the time. ↑

Name: I know | Date: Jun 8th, 2008 8:29 PM

Sometimes you've got to let it go over your head as they don't get it, but we do and that's what counts! Keep your chin up cos I'm sure that you are doing a great job. It's a brave thing to face them head on and to keep doing it and that's what we do.
We do an important job and never forget this. Just smile and laugh to yourself although on a bad day I've got to admit that I just want to scream into their face.
Just cos he looks fine doesn't mean it's not there and we know that and yeah our kids are great! They teach us so much- a different viewpoint and how not to care- because my little one doesn't. He carries on reagardless to what others are doing or thinking.
Hope that this makes you smile and know that you are not alone. ↑