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Name: karen
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ok..i dont know how to make this sound...however it sounds, im trying to be very mature about it. i want to breastfeed because of all the advantages that come from it. im hoping that my baby will take the breast over the bottle so i can have it that way. But when i think about it, how does it feel? i mean us being women, im pretty sure our husbands and bfs doing things with them as well. i dont want to feel like that with my baby. like i dont even want to think twice like that but it scares me because my husband and i do it and its very pleasing between us, so im just scared that ( i dont know how to put it ) ill feel weird letting my baby do practically what my husband does? help me please, i really dont mean it to be a sick person, im just scared...?
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Name: karen | Date: Aug 17th, 2005 8:04 PM
ok..i dont wanna be like that women that wrote the arousal from breastfeeding. and thats what im kind of scared of, i mean, no one thinks of thier kids like that and i surely dont want to. i wanna know how people breastfeed without thinking twice... 

Name: Anne-Marie | Date: Aug 17th, 2005 8:13 PM
You know what? I reckon when it comes down to doing it your body will just take over and the real woman inside of you will become apparent. Your loving, giving nature will shine through to your baby and if anything it will be harder for you and your partner while you are breastfeeding to enjoy your breasts as you did before, but it is a short transisional time so dont worry about it too much.

Like now while you are pregnant your baby's needs come first when they are feeding. My advice is to enjoy it when it happens because it is not for long. Take care and good luck :) 

Name: Christie | Date: Aug 17th, 2005 8:19 PM
Before you breastfeed, I would think that most mothers would questions themselves about this. I know that I read alot about being aroused and so on before I had my daughter. The relationship between you and your child is much different than the relationship you have between you and your husband. The breastfeeding relationship between you and your child will create a bond like no other. There was a point in time, especially at the beginning of my breastfeeding relationship, that I felt uncomfortable with my husband handling my breasts. That point eventually ended and I realized that my baby nursing and my husband were both very different situations. The feelings for your husband during the act are sexual and the feelings for your child are far from it, although pleasing too (just in a different way) Once you start breastfeeding you will understand. Someone will never understand the nursing relationship until they have done it themselves. My daughter is almost 14 months old and our nursing relationship is wonderful. I just stare at her with amazement. The bond is so wonderful. 

Name: karen | Date: Aug 17th, 2005 8:40 PM
thank you for trying to understand what im saying. i guess since yall have experience that yall would understand. i know that our reletionships are far from the same but im just scared that once i breastfeed that i wont let my husband touch my nipples because i would feel so weird. well, hes going to the military after i give birth so it probably wont be a problem. its just that i hear all these womens opinions about it and some get aroused and i see women that can just eat and breastfeed at the same time like nothing and thats kind of what i want to be. thank yall again. 

Name: Emily | Date: Aug 31st, 2005 11:53 PM
karen since reading the arousal by breast feeding by the other woman I have too become concerned but I was already planning on doing most feeds from a bottle with breast milk.I planned this because I was scared my baby would become too atched and wouldnt be able to cope having to leave her and for her not to enjoy her feeds and get proper nourishment.I have 9 weeks left and will get back and let you know how it is.How long do have to go? hope I made sense of what I said im v tired. 

Name: CJ | Date: Sep 4th, 2005 7:55 AM
Believe me, it is not the same feeling. Usually the sensation your sig/other give us is from stimulating the nipple only, however, your baby will latch on to the nipple and part of the areola. So you wont feel the same sensation at all. Good luck! 

Name: Tia | Date: Sep 7th, 2005 1:40 AM
I had the same concern. I also have a lot of friends who would never consider breastfeeding because they think it's preverted. It's not like that at all. I nursed my son for 13 months and it was a very calming, relaxing feeling. It wasn't like a sexual experience with my husband I promise you that. Your motherly instincts will kick in and you'll see it's a very natural precious bonding experience between you and your child. 

Name: Priscilla | Date: Oct 1st, 2005 11:08 PM
It is NOTHING like your feelings with a man. But it is equally rewarding. It is comforting, and afterwards you want to take a nap, and you know all is right with the world. We really are made in a wonderful way. And it is a delight to be 'used' in the right way - by a baby - literally helping them with a part of ourselves that they might LIVE and live better! It is really worth it. Check out LaLeche League. They were so helpful to me. You are so smart to check this out in advance. What a smart mother that baby is going to have! 

Name: Heather | Date: Nov 2nd, 2005 9:45 AM
It's totally different. Don't be scared. I am a very sexual person with my husband and you won't feel that with baby. You may not want your husbands hands on you for a while, but you won't feel icky.
Love, Heather
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Name: JadeAngel | Date: Nov 20th, 2009 6:22 PM
it did feel weird for me the first couple of times, but after a few times the weird went away and it was all natural feeling. i've read that it can have a worse effect on women that have been sexually abused (sounds messed up but take the hint) so if i didnt have a problem with it, i doubt you will. you'll get use to it quickly. especially when the ''chomp chomp, OUCH'' comes along, lol 

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