| Let him/her stay with you as long as they need to and offer emotional and financial support if need be,that's about all you can do. ↑ |
I realise that people are paranoid about the internet, but there's no way we can find out who you are just by knowing the gender of your sibling, y'know.
Try not to insult their ex-partner, don't say much at all, just offer a shoulder to cry on and an ear when they need to talk. ↑ |
| Being supportive is the best way you can help. Sometimes you may have to just listen instead of responding. Offer your advice on what you think when asked upon. Allowing your sibling a place to stay is a great help. This will give that person some time to deal with all the emotions. Also, be sure they consult a good attorney to help with all the legalities and custody of the child. Try to make sure everything he/she wants is detailed out in the divorce papers. Things like, the child's extra-activities expenses split 50/50, medical/dental/vision expenses(anything beyond what the insurance pays gets split 50/50 and which parent has to carry primary insurance, alternating the tax benefit every other year, summer vacations, alternating memorial day, 4th of july, labor day and thanksgiving holidays, splitting the winter holiday break and alternating spring break, child support paid on a regular basis by a certain time and make sure it is paid through the courts. This way there is a constant record of what is or isn't being paid. This will help to make sure payment is received because sometimes payments are delayed by the non-custodial parent on purpose. Have the sibling keep a journal/calendar of visitation times, phone calls, arguments, etc... This helps the sibling to be able to reference incidents that might not always be remembered in detail. Keep a paper trail. IF there are schedules of appointments that the non-custodial parent is aware of, then there would be no arguments when it is presented in writing. If your sibling is awarded primary custody make sure the visitation times are reasonable for the child to adjust and adapt to a regular routine. Make sure that the non-custodial parent helps to complete the child's homework (if in school) during their visitation. Try to have the sibling communicate with the other parent regarding only the child's best interest. Anything else is really non of that person's business. Being a listening ear is about the best advice I can give. I hope this info helps. ↑ |
