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Name: enzovinceboy
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Literally. My dad is a completely unresponsive apathetic lazy slob. My mom left around two months ago and I've only seen her twice since. It seems as if I'm always the one calling HER instead of the otherway around.

Anyways I have bulimia and my dad has not done ANYTHING about it. I was supposed to follow up with an outpatient program but my dad never confirmed so i'm stuck by myself. He hears me purging multiple times a night but all he does it make fun of me for it. Then he acts concerned in front of the doctor, what the ****.

Anyways, I don't mean to sound like one of those spoiled brats...but I have no clothes. I go to a uniformed school and that is the only set of good conditioned clothes I have. I lost a lot of weight and so the only pairs of jeans I have were my brothers from grade eight. I'm in grade 11 now, 16, not 13. I'm wearing the same shoes I bought two and a half years ago, and i'm wearing a flimsy jacket I bought in september in the harsh canadian winter. I go to school two and a half hours away from my house, and i'm bussing so WARM clothes would be nice!

God, he doesn't even work. My parents both don't work. All he does is sit around watching illegal movies online all goddam day. Like what the ****, how about getting off of your *** and looking around once in a blue moon? All three of your kids are ****** up. My older brother (22) is completely lost, working part time at A&W and mooching all of our food. My twin brother is an agressive soon-to-be felon. And i'm the bulimic straight a over-achieving who nobody gives a **** about.

Theres a party tomorrow and I need clothes. I haven't been to a party in a while because i've become completely isolated and lonely (one of the side affects to an eating disorder). He's not willing to give me enough money to actually buy a new pair of jeans and a nice jacket.

I just want to kill him. Help?

It sucks not having any close friends who care about you, but knowing your parents don't give a **** is like the cherry on top. Depression City just beckons me.

NOT to mention I earned around 150 bucks working for Young Liberals of Canada. They mailed my check around two months ago...and guess what!? I NEVER received it! I wonder where that went. Hmmmmm....

The best answer my dad could give me was "It got lost in the mail". Bullshit, you took my money asshole.

Sorry i'm kind of rambling. But he's just so unresponsive. My high school guidance counsellor was even pissed at him and views him in disgust. He doesn't give a ****. Whenever I want to talk to him he's always making me repeat myself with a series of "whats" and "huh"'s, not to mention kicking me out of his office (sactuary) or bedroom.
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Name: hmmm | Date: Apr 21st, 2009 11:44 PM
I'm so sorry this is happening to you, but if your home has an office/sanctuary, I'm sure your family has some money 

Name: deven | Date: Jul 2nd, 2009 10:35 AM

Name: kay | Date: Jul 6th, 2009 9:00 PM
Have you tried concentrating all of your energy on something else? You mentioned you're a straight-A student, and you're 16. You should be off to college soon. I would suggest that you throw yourself into a whole lot of extracurricular activities (you don't need money to do some activities, like ones offered at school, or community service). Also, take up hobbies and skills that you can hone (there are also plenty of hobbies that don't require money). Just do stuff you're passionate about, and when it's time to apply to college, you'll have plenty of stuff for your application... and you can write an AWESOME essay about how you overcame hardships! And I promise you, with top tier colleges (ivies, liberal arts, etc.) all you need to do is get in, and then you'll get need-based financial aid, no problemo! Also, try to stay positive (I know it must be difficult) and just look after yourself. 

Name: BabyLovin | Date: Nov 13th, 2009 12:41 AM
enzovinceboy ::::
where do we start, well if you have bulimia and you know it, you should start working on that on your own, the first step to recovery is recognizing what your problem is. and it seems like you have already done that, since you're admitting you're throwing up.

-Bout your paycheck, all you have to do is get in contact with your job, and let them know you never received that paycheck, and they will do a research with their bank and find out if that check was ever cashed, and if it was they can get a copy of it and see who endorsed the check, and if it was never cashed, they can write you a new one.

Bout your dad not working... well how does he pay for bills? He sits in his office and watches movies, obviously you guys have electric, which cost money, and internet which also cost money.

Do you get allowance from your dad? Save it all up and go buy yourself some nice clothes, sitting down and venting all your anger and emotions isn't helping you at all. You need to actually do something about it. I'm pretty sure its not that bad. But you are a teenager and you are expecting to have everything handed to you.

But I hope that it all works out for you. & get better with that bulimia. 

Name: person | Date: Mar 21st, 2010 4:05 PM
get a life, get some money of your dad and run away. I know how it feels and running away is the best thing i ever done. my dad looked after me and my mum left us my dad never spoke to me he never even look at me. 

Name: Miranda Swift | Date: Oct 26th, 2010 11:03 PM
WOW! You poor thing! My advise would be a family meeting. Does your dad know that you feel this way? Tell him you feel like you`re raising yourself and he`s not doing his share around the house. If He gets angry, calmly respond that you are trying to tell him how you feel and that he shouldn`t take his anger out on you. If your story is true, than you are the mature one and need to take action. If he is a good father he will see it through and try to help. Hope this helps! 

Name: Miranda Swift | Date: Oct 27th, 2010 12:10 AM
as i was looking through the comments i saw one about death. NEVER EVER EVER KILL YOURSELF IN TIMES OF STRESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don`t listen to people who tell u 2, you would miss out on SOOOOOOOOOOO much. and to people who suggested that you are assholes! To try to persude someone to take thier life is worse than hell! 

Name: Jennifer | Date: Nov 4th, 2010 11:20 AM
i have a really bad problem with my parents too! ]:O they dont even care its my birthday today and dont get me any presents and just scream at me and give me lectures :( i always end up crying 

Name: anna | Date: Nov 8th, 2010 9:37 PM
look, it seems to me like you've already identified your problems, so why not try to solve them? i don't really have any experience in what your going through, but if you think about it, another 2 years and you don't have to see them ever again. if your mom's the better parent, can you appeal to her? I hope you cheer up :) atm, i hate my parents too. so much that i've started learning japanese (im almost fluent now ^^) so i can move to japan as soon as i can :) and btw, i seriously hope things start getting better [3 

Name: braeden | Date: Aug 5th, 2011 1:04 PM
My dad is a ass whole 

Name: lisa | Date: Aug 24th, 2011 1:21 AM
Just because he's your dad, doesn't mean he's a good person in your life. Too bad. Act like a parentless person because you will have to be this way for ever from now on. It sucks that nobody cares and can have traumatic results in the future. Seek councelling seriously and if he laughs at you again, laugh at him back. He has no sense of compassion. He's of no use to you. 

Name: Haley | Date: Aug 24th, 2011 1:25 AM
He must have had an asshole for a father (or mother). or both. That really is no excuse to treat his child that way. Get away from him as soon as possible. If he thinks you are being a brat, he's clueless and you will never get anywhere with him. Also, if he is stealing your money, you should call the police and report him. 

Name: maija | Date: Nov 8th, 2011 12:30 AM
your father can be what ever he is
but you have the choice to do in your life what you choose to do to...think about it 

Name: maija | Date: Nov 8th, 2011 12:48 AM
dont blame anybody.... you can see the truth it is inside you...and that brings you to the feedom..you will find it..warm hugs from Maija from Finnland near the nordic pole ,we have same problems as you and that is why I love you..as a sister. 

Name: Kate | Date: Jan 21st, 2012 5:50 AM
My mum is a physico. She always laughs or puts her fingers in her ears when i say something. And I have freakin limited computer time. For example. just before facebook was being stupid and wouldn't log me in and i asked if i could use mums laptop and she said "No because it's MY laptop not YOURS!" she says. And I have a VERY important message from someone and when i say important i mean literally life and death important. It is f******* horrible and so is she. And mum always says to dad "Why do i always have to sort this stuff out you need to step in sometimes" and when dad does. "Murray, stay out of it!" WHAT THE F****! I really need help because it feels as if I am a total pain in the ass and I have actually thought about suicide but mum doesn't care! What type of mum is she!? I don't think she's even a mum to me. I sometimes call her by her first name cos i feel ashamed to be her daughter. I have lost faith in myself and just feel like a piece of s*** on the bottom of her shoe. And just then she said "Kate, what are you typing on?" and i said "something that might give me help" and she says "Murray did you hear that?" and dad says "Yes" and mum says "Whatever" and left. I REALLY NEED HELP! Oh and just to add my best mate, i look at how close her and her mum are. WOW! I wish i was her sister. I have actually seriously mentioned to her about living with her. And so she said "You'll regret it" Like hell i will! But please help me. I seriously need advice! 

Name: TOPMAN | Date: Mar 18th, 2012 1:25 PM

Name: asif youcare | Date: Feb 24th, 2013 4:06 PM
Dude I feel ur pain. I may not have divorced parents but I cant say 1 word without them interupting me and acting as if im a dumbass. Hope u feel better 

Name: Help you | Date: Apr 26th, 2013 2:55 AM
I've felt what's it's like to be in your shoes, but in a different way, and yes I agree it's horrible, hope you get better and so do your parents 

Name: Help you | Date: Apr 26th, 2013 2:56 AM
I've felt what's it's like to be in your shoes, but in a different way, and yes I agree it's horrible, hope you get better and so do your parents. :( 

Name: Amy | Date: Feb 9th, 2014 4:19 AM
Jessica, how about you shut up instead, you winging little bitch? He's just a kid! That poor kid is just crying for help...AND YOU HAVE THE NERVE TO INSULT HIM?!? OMFG you're an asshole! A smug, judgmental, arrogant asshole! Oh, and stop telling someone to kill him/herself simply because that person is crying for help! If you think you can go around wishing death on innocent people, then you're sadly mistaken! Don't you have anything better to do than that? Oh, and stop calling him a "faggot", you homophobic bitch, because that word is offensive to the LGBT! What if he was your kid?

@enzovinceboy: Don't listen to that moron because she's so arrogant that she probably doesn't care about anyone but herself. I'm so sorry to hear that and my parents are the same as yours, except that my mom never left my dad. As for Miranda, I wholeheartedly agree with her; please don't kill yourself because I'm sure that you have a lot more to live for. I would never wish death on you nor anyone and my heart goes out to you. Anyway, have you tried talking to someone you really trust? I highly suggest that you try talking to someone you really trust. Good luck! 

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