Hey there, I have a bit of confusion going on, and I need some advice or comments on the subject. O.K. here it goes. My husband and I met in early 2005, he has a son from a previous marriage, and I have a daughter from a previous marriage....at first I thought he had custody of his son, and that was one of the reasons I decided to date him. Well, as time went by, and truths came out I was O.K. with them...I then met his ex who at the time seemed fine to me (a bit nutty, but I delt)
Well we started discussing marriage, and then I found out I was pregnant. We kept the pregnancy secret up until my second trimester (still not having problems with the ex) Well, once she found out that I was pregnant things started to change but not badly...then we found out it was going to be a boy, and things started getting a bit more nasty (constant phone calls, refusing visitation, ect...) Then the big bomb.....my husband finally asked me to marry him Christmas 2005 in front of both of our older kids, and needless to say the _hit hit the fan!! We started getting constant calls one after another without messages, statements that I was negletful, lazy, poor choice, ect.....Well, I gave birth to our beautiful little boy in 2006. A child I had waited for, for 12 years that I thought would never happen, and then to my astonishment received a suprise visit from my husband's ex who decided to tell us how we were going to live/revolve our lives around her son as she glared at my 7 month old baby one day. Things were just nasty, nasty, nasty....the ex had and has been so very hateful.....My husband and I got married this spring 2007, and had to keep it a secret so that his son would be able to be a part of our wedding, which by the way was very beautiful and will hold a special place in my heart forever.....we were both able to say our becoming a family vows to the two older children before we said our vows to each other......Well, two weeks before the wedding the ex physically attacked me in front of my two children at her son's baseball game simply because I was video taping it (my husband was sitting right next to me when it happened) I pressed charges and she was arrested blah, blah, blah.......well I still don't know if she is going to trial yet or if she will take the plea bargain cause her court dated had to be rescheduled to a later date, then my husband also had another court issue with her concerning custody and child support that has since been taken care of with the exception that she still seems to have it in her head that I am unstable, yelling, and slapping her son all of the time to where she doesn't want him left alone with me for any amount of time(I've never so much as raised a hand to him) so those orders are still temporary.....
What I am confused about is the ex tonight e-mailed my husband reguarding some school issues, and then invited us to go trick or treating with her and her family (oh did I forget to mention she is married and has two other children..... one of which she tried to claim was my husbands shortly after they divorced 11 years ago, and one with her current husband?) Oh and she also stated if we ever needed any information concerning the child and my husband wasn't availiable to do it, that I could call her and she would have no problem giving it to me. So what gives? Why is she "trying" to play nice or making it sound so on e-mail? Now don't get me wrong I would love for nothing more for her to be civil to me, but how do you react to this from a person who has stated she doesn't want to co-parent, thinks I'm abusive and neglectful, lazy, unwilling to cook ,feed,or cloth her son(we have had to go and purchase clothes as well as shoes for him because what she sends him in 99% of the time is too little/big and just not presentalble--he has a closet and dresser full of clothes at our house that are all his and he doesn't have to share or worry if they are clean or fit either), ect........the list goes on and on
By the way, I am a full time student pursuing a medical education, full time mom, and work part time in the medical field-back office, attend church regularly, involved in the community and school. As for her she stays at home, takes some online classes (if she is still doing so) goes to church sometimes, and doesn't seem to do much more than that.
So give me some insight to this if you can other than leave it alone.............It has and at times still causes friction between me and my husband because she uses the child as a pawn to get her way, and I think my husband is still scared even after I have shown him that she can't keep the child from him that she will, or possibly even turn the child against his father. ↓
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