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Name: Samantha1007

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I am 23 yrs old and have been married for almost 3 years. There's a lot that has happened with us in the past couple years but that would be too long for me to type. But to sum it up, I feel like half of me don't want to be married anymore and I feel horrible for feeling that way. I have changed since my husband and I got married. I use to be quiet, shy and do whatever anyone told me. That's kind of what happened to us when we got married.. I feel we really rushed getting married; we dated for 1 1/2, he proposed to me and a month later we got married at a court house. I wanted to wait but he was impatient, so I went along with it. He's a great guy and I love him but I feel we don't connect anymore. I'm more socialable now, I love to be around ppl and I'm out going now. He is the total opposite of me. A lot of our problems got so bad last month we almost did get divorced but I got scared and figured I would try to work things out despite my confusion. Things were fine but the feelings came back. I'm gong to a Psychologist and he is helping but its driving me crazy I feel this way. I just want to live life because I didn't as a child or teenager. The therapist says my cognitive development really isn't fully complete..... has anyone felt this way or have any advice. It's like I have two sides.. one side wants to try because that is the right thing to do.. but than my other side wants to do things on my own because I always had to "please" everyone else... it makes me sad I feel this way because I'm not a bad person :( ↓ ↓

Name: Sharelle Jackson | Date: Nov 27th, 2010 7:58 AM

Hi there, I went through about 2 years of having doubts about my marriage before I finally made the call to end it. In the end we were so far apart that really it was a mutual decision. "Started off friendly, and within 12 months we are constantly fighting. It is a hard road, but all I can say is if there is doubt there, and it remains for a long period of time irrespective of what he does to try and please you, then it is not right. ↑

Name: Heather | Date: Mar 3rd, 2011 4:10 AM

I know exactly how you feel.I, too got married very young and very fast.in fact my first daughter was at our wedding! Over the next 11 years, I tried to be everything he asked for, and every time we had problems, I would try harder.it took that long to realize that I was the only one trying so hard. The best advice I can give you is: be honest with your husband about who you are. If the problem is going to be solves, you both have to be willing to put effort into the solution.one of you can't make all the sacrifice.otherwise, be true to who you are.you will die inside otherwise, and you can't truly love anyone else if you don't love yourself. ↑