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you may have read my first page about my mom and her boss. well im having more problems. it always seems like my mom wants to be around her boss/boyfreind and she wants to always drick acholohol. we just went out and got alot. they are making smoothies for only them and they are doing stuff avery morning and night on every weekend. i am sick of it and i am very depressed because it seems like she doesnt want to be around us. i just cant take it any more. i cry every night because of it. my dad never picks me and my 3 bros up anymore. i have been talking to a counseler at school. o i am 14. i can only talk to the counceler on tuesdays. last tuesday was my first time. it helped but i didnt have enough time. i just cant take it any more. i am crying right now while typing. i am very depressed and i just hate everything. i think life sucks and there is no point to life if you are never happy. i am never happy exept when they arent together. i was thinking about moving in with my dad but i really dont want to. i just cant take it. i am under to much stress. my mom IS pushing us away for him. i can bearly even look at him. i dont know if i hate him or i am so digusted. i am starting to fall behind in school. i used to be really popular and i barly have one freind now. my teachers are mad at me cause im failing thier class. i need help. after all of the things that have happened in my life i dont trust to talk to anyone one on one. i try to talk to the councelers but i will admit i am kind of a tough guy at school and i dont want to cry but it is hard. my friends all dont like me much because i am never happy like i used to be. i almost start to cry during my classes. the teachers notice my change and they tell me to get some help. i just dont trust anyone that could connect to my mom or dad or my moms boss.i dont like talking to my mom because she tells her boyfreind/boss everything and i dont trust her. i am always thinking that she will send me somwhere. please give me som advice. ↓
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| Name: Lizzi | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 1:27 AM |
| Hang in there man! I'm really sorry things are like this for you. Maybe you should call your dad and see what kind of lifestyle he lives and see if you could possibly begin spending some week-ends at his place. If not your dad then how about a grandparent,could you stay with them,or aunts and uncles? There has got to be somebody within your family somewhere that you could talk to about all of this. You REALLY do need to talk about it. I'm sorry your mom isn't there for you the way she should be. Alot of women and men put their girlfriends/boyfriends before their kids and that's not right but it happens all too often I'm afraid. Still you should try at least to get your grades back up and rekindle your friendships with your buddies at school. Maybe you could talk with one of their parents about your situation? It DOES help to talk about things even if you don't come to a solution. I don't want you to be depressed though,you're only 14 and as hurt as you may feel life is just beginning for you. There is so much in life you have yet to see and do! This time you are going through now is just a small period in your life,it will eventually pass and then the next phase could be much better! I remember being a teen and going through depressing times thinking things would never change or get any better,I think ALL of us go through times like that. but it WILL pass and things WILL get better!!!! In a couple of years you will be able to work and drive and then that will start a new phase in your life,and then when you're 18 and graduated you can either go off to college or you can move out and live your own life as you want to. This isn't the end of the world,it really isn't,it just feels like it at the moment because you are 14! Things WILL get better!!! Keep looking for someone in your life you can talk to because this is important! Cheer up! :) Talking to a friends parent is a good idea if you like any of their parents,just an idea! ↑ |
| Name: dragraught | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 3:36 AM |
| ok this is just happening. it is about 9;30 and my mom and her boss are going to make smoothies. ok sounds good right?. wrong. they are making them with alcohol and we cant have any. that show what i bi*&^ my mom is??!!?? u know i mean they are just leaving us out so they can be together. i am criing. they are always pushing us away. i cant take much more. i want to tell my mom but her boss will say " well f&%$ you u have no say." his words exactally. i am sorry for the curse words but i am soo angry i could punch my mom right now. i mean i dont know what to do. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 8:32 PM |
| Name: baby69 | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 6:32 PM |
| you say you have 3 other bros. How do they feel about your mom and her boyfriend/boss. You say that you were thinking about moving in with your dad, but you don't really want to........ why don't you want to? You say that your mom is pushing you and your bros away, but why then is she with you when she is with her boyfriend/boss? It sounds to me that she is including you when she is around her boyfriend. Does it bother you that her boyfriend is her boss? You keep on stating it. You keep mentioning that you can't take it anymore.....do you want her to stop seeing this guy and being alone for the rest of her life, or seeing alot of other guys who wouldn't want kids around? When you sayd that your mom drinks all the time....is it all the time or when she is with her boyfriend? You sound really worried about your mom and her relationship. I sounds like your parents don't get along from your other posts. I hope this is not because your dad is telling you things that could not be true. What you should be doing now is concentrating on your school work and keeping the friends you have left. O by the way, if those friends that you lost were real friends, then they would not have abandoned you. They would try to help you. So you are better off without them. The councelor is a good thing to keep doing, every tuesday sounds good. There is never enough time in those sessions, but to just talk to people helps even if they can't give any answers. Telling her boyfriend what you say maybe a way of trying to find ways to help you. This can't be all bad. He might be able to give her help. Two heads are better than one sometimes. You state also that your dad doesn't pick you and your bros up anymore. He doesn't sound like a dad that cares for you guys and he is trying to get to you mom. Your mom might be under so much stress. It sounds like she has her hands full with 4 of you. That in its self is hard. I'm asking all these questions to get a feel of what you are saying more better. See I have kids and went through a hard divorce, my ex said alot of bad stuff about me and made one of my kids believe things were not true. Some of the stuff were lies and some were just exagerated to where it would be bad if it happened that way. Some of the stuff you state sounds like what my kids' dad stated to them and they either believed it or just blew it off. So I hope your dad is not saying stuff and you are believing it. You need to see what your mom is trying to do for you and your bros. Maybe she thinks, as I did, that her boyfriend can help you do things. I found a guy that loved my kids and he showed them things they never dreamed of, and brought them places. Sure one of my kids didn't like him ( he was taking the place of their dad is what she thought) but after they seen how happy I was and how he treated them, she started to come around in her thinking. I don't know your mom's side of the story, but being a mom that went through it with a kid at the same age as you are now, I hope I can help you with this. I have had this guy in my life for 2 years now, the kids adore him. I think if you gave this guy a chance and I can see he is trying, by the way he and your mom include you kids, you will be happy and have a long time of fun. Also you have to see through your mom's eyes that she wants to be happy in order to take care of you kids properly, If she isn't happy, it is harder to function and be able to raise you properly. Also after all you kids are out of the house, she probably doesn't want to be alone, this guy ( as mine did so far) maybe the one to make her happy for the rest of her life. Please respond, I want to know your thoughts on what I said. I hope you get some help out of this. ↑ |
| Name: help4u | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 6:47 PM |
Hey Dragraught.... Lizzi even says....This isn't the end of the world,it really isn't,it just feels like it at the moment because you are 14! Things WILL get better!!! Do you really even listen to what people say to you on here? We have all told you the same sort of things but you seem to be stressing things you can't control why? You need to worry about things you can control like the school work ....is it your moms fault your grades are down? Why if you were so popular before in school are you not now.... because of her? Her boyfriend? Popular people are popular because they are out going, fun to be with and get involved in school activities. Where do you fall into any of these?
Ya ....your parents got a divorce and you don't like it well none of us that has been through this liked it either. You need to start focusing on the things like your grades and friends .....if you spent as much time worrying about your grades as you do your moms reationship you would be getting all a's in school.!!!!
As far as your friends how many did you really have if they were your friend then they would still be no matter what your parents do. One more thing buddy what's with the smoothie thing you want to drink booze with them too? Are you really telling us the truth on how your mom is or just how you feel she is? I'm sorry if I'm being harsh but we only see your side of things. When you say you don't trust anyone wow!!!! how can people help you through this? When you don't listen or trust any of us? I would say keep talking to the councelors at school this can't hurt ya buddy. ↑ |
| Name: help4u | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 7:19 PM |
Hey man Dragraught I took this from your post to lizzy and copied it here......(well thx for telling me that. the one on the im stuck in the middle page. i would do that but my dad is a depressant and i am afraid he will get mad or sad. i am literally afraid of him. ) OK then so your afraid of your father now that's not good....he wont take you guys on visittations and he does things like ...(i am POed because i had confrences tonight and my dad promised he would be there to take me after me and my mom finished going to all my teachers. he never picked me up. i am waiting for the next time my dad calls me so my brother can answer it and say i dont know if i can talk im not feeling well. thats what he told my brother.) taken from anouther of your posts same here( i think it also might have been my dad. he always told me its not right and they shouldnt be doing it.) and one more from your posts( the same thing happens to me. my dad refuses to talk to my mom. so he tells me what to tell her and somtimes its like to call her a dirty f*%#ing wh*&$. )
Reading all of these tells me dad could be the person who you should be mad at not mom. She at least includes you in her life does HE? ↑ |
| Name: dragraught | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 9:59 PM |
it wont get bettee they are kissing in front od us and i hate it. i hate him!
i dont know why but i do ↑ |
| Name: help4u | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 9:37 PM |
| Ya know there Dragraught you really don't listen very well we all tell you things will get better. You seem to really not believe this so if you thinkg its so bad with your mom and hate her new boyfriend why not go live with your dad? ↑ |
| Name: help4u | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 9:42 PM |
| Next you need to learn not to HATE!!!!!!! This is not going to help you at all !!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: dragraught | Date: Feb 20th, 2007 10:07 PM |
| i am sorry i am just soo mad. i know i dont hate him and i dont want to live with my grandma. ↑ |
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