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I am thirty years old with young children. I am happily married, but unfortunatly i just discovered that my parents, who have been together for almost 40 years, are getting a divorce. I am having huge difficulties dealing with this, and I don't know how to explain it to my own kids. My father is moving away to be with another partner, and won't be able to see his grandkids. My children are really upset, but i don't know if i can hold it together enough to talk with them. Any tips on how to keep my cool? ↓
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| Name: dh.33 | Date: Jun 27th, 2005 8:50 PM |
| I am very sorry to hear that your parents are divorcing. It must be very hard to get through and to understand. You have to just accept it, as much as you can, for the sake of your own kids and for your parents. They were obviously unhappy and needed to get away from one another. Tell your kids the truth - that grandma and granddad just can't live together anymore. They'll probably understand more than you think. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy | Date: Jul 5th, 2005 2:46 AM |
| My parents just got a divorce not to long ago I'm 20 years old. It was very hard on me and still is because I get brought into the middle of it. Just try to talk to your kids about it and tell them why the people that are getting a divorce are getting a divorce and it's not their fault. Talking to other people usually help. I hope I was able to help you out a little bit and if I didn't sorrry. let me know how it goes. ↑ |
| Name: Wendy | Date: Jul 13th, 2005 7:22 PM |
| Why do you have to hold it together for your kids? Don't they need to know that you have emotions and feelings? If your upset about your parents divorcing, show them a good example of healthy feelings and cry and talk at the same time. If you try to keep your emotions hidden from them then they won't know that you love your parents and this upsets you. Kids are more resilient then we know, and speaking from experience, they handle our emotions well and learn from them. Be honest with your kids about your feelings and if you start crying then just let it come. Believe me, your kids will have more respect for your true emotions then if you hide your emotions from them. ↑ |
| Name: megan,14 | Date: Nov 13th, 2005 8:42 PM |
| please someone talk to me. my parents are getting a divorce and it's my step-mom first divorce and my dad's 3rd. i was a child of my father's first mariage and i do not know my sister, mother, or 2 little brothers. advice any one? ↑ |
| Name: jessica | Date: Dec 8th, 2005 1:30 PM |
| i am 11 i live with my grandparents my parents devoeced whaen i was 5 i still am really sad have any ideos to help me not to be sad i see mom 1nce a month and same with dad ↑ |
| Name: jessica | Date: Dec 8th, 2005 1:31 PM |
| Name: hhhh | Date: Feb 3rd, 2006 10:51 AM |
| Name: These tears I cry | Date: Aug 7th, 2006 12:32 PM |
| I'm very confused right now because i really want to live with my dad but I have to leave my little brother and sister. They are still young. So do I say or do I go? ↑ |
| Name: pj754 | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 12:42 PM |
To these tears I cry:
You said you wanted to live with your dad. I take it he's remarried? Hon, as much as you are stuck in the middle and live with your mom, try talking to her about how you feel. I'll bet she isn't willing to give you up? My youngest son, loves his new baby sister to death but I still have to make him visit his dad. There are times, he doesn't really want to go but once he's there, he seems to have an ok time. Depending on your age, you probably don't have a choice. Yet, if your parents are willing to make the change for you them by all means talk with them about how you feel. Although, I'm sure your mom would be heartbroken. Since, I don't know too much about your history, this is the only advice I can offer. Try making the best of both worlds. There will come a time when you can make your own decision but until then you have to make the best of it. ↑ |
| Name: Anitra | Date: Sep 12th, 2006 1:28 AM |
I am so sorry to hear about your parents divorcing. I am going through the same thing with my parents it's at the very beginning stages. My parents have been married for 37 years and my Mom wants to end it because my father had an affair 26 years ago she took him back, but now realized recently he is seeing someone else. He of course denies it and claims it's a friend and he's lonely. He is also verbal abusive towards her and she just can't take it anymore. I feel terrible and I am not handling it well because I am happily married and don't have children yet, but I hope to get pregnant this year. I just feel the
pressure of dividing my time with everyone during the holidays.
As for your children I would tell them the truth about your parents
that they can't live with each other anymore and Grandpa has to
move away and we will not see him that much, but we can write to him. I don't know how old your children are, but that would be
a good thing to say to them. I know how you feel like I said I am
in the same situation as you and I will have to tell my children about my parents. Be strong for your parents and try to hang in there. ↑ |
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