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Name: briseis
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My fiancÚ and I prob won't be getting married for another 3 years or so yet, so I'm going to give my baby my surname until we are married.

For those who are TTC, or are pregnant or who have had babies out of wedlock, are you or did you give your babies your surname or his?
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Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 3:31 PM
brooke is getting my last name as i am not married and not with the guy. but if i was with the guy or engaged she probably would have gotten his last name 

Name: nicole miller | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 4:34 PM
His. We got married shortly after he was born though. I didn't want to have to change his name - and I was married before, so had I given him mine... it wouldn't even be my family name. If that makes sense. I'm glad that I did it that way now. 

Name: breemichelle | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 5:26 PM
briseis, if you plan on staying with the guy and marrying him, why would you give the baby your last name? There is nothing wrong with it if you do, but it's just unusual. How does your guy feel about it? I would think he wouldn't like it. 

Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 5:28 PM
if i was in your shoes, Tyler would definitely have His last name 

Name: natalee-j | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 5:30 PM
Welll... this is what ive been struggling with for ages, I havent got a name for my son yet and he is due in 2 weeks. my last name is james and my boyfriends last name is harvey. i was thinking of putting them toghether so it would either be Harvey-James or James-harvey but i dunno lol.... 

Name: briseis | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 5:32 PM
I just don't want to have a different surname than my son, and seeing as it will be another 3 years before we're married, then I thought I'd give him my surname. He doesn't seem to mind, as long as the babies surname changes when we marry. 

Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 5:36 PM
see to me, it would be so much more of a hassle to change your child's name, specially if your gonna change it in 3 years i don't really see the point 

Name: briseis | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 5:38 PM
Yeah but what if something happened between my fiancÚ and I and we seperated (I don't think we will, but I can't be sure!) I just want it so my son always has the same surname as me. 

Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 5:46 PM
well, this is just me, but i wouldn't be together with some one if i wasn't willing to have our child take his name, unless, i was keeping my last name when we got married 

Name: AivenorBB? | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 5:57 PM
Well I am married, but getting divorced, so when the baby is born it will have my name instead of his.; 

Name: briseis | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 6:00 PM
Well. We're all different. :) 

Name: AivenorBB? | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 6:03 PM
:) Yup, the only reason he/she will have my name is cuz hubby doesn't want anything to do with it, thus the divorce. He is signing over his rights, so its my baby and all my baby! HAAHAAHA 

Name: Daisy-UK | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 6:14 PM
I could understand if you won't be the daddy but if you are, I would give the baby his last name. It's much more difficult to change your childs last name than yours. Why are you waiting 3 years? You could just go to a jp for a simple wedding than have your grand event later then you'll have his last name as well. When changing childrens names you have to go through family court and social services get involved even if he is the natural father. Very expensive as most states won't allow this to happen with being represented by an attorney at least in NC and PA. 

Name: Karen- | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 7:43 PM
I gave Tyler my last name.. spur of the moment.. but it was no big deal to change it.. 20 dollars and a form. 

Name: lynne | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 8:52 PM
Andrew has his dad's surname. 

Name: Daisy-UK | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 9:25 PM
Karen, what state are you in? Should be that easy everywhere 

Name: Karen- | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 9:45 PM

Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 9:48 PM
yeah here in texas you can change your babies last name or alter the birth certificate for 2 years after the baby is born 

Name: krystinakoleen | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 9:50 PM
My twins i had i gave my last name because it would be easier with paper work for Dr offices etc. But my son has my husbands last name (we weren't married when he was born) and i found it was just as easy..my parents advised me on giving my twins my last name for that reason. But if you honestly plan on marrying him it doesn't really make a difference 

Name: Kristy84 | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 9:51 PM
We gave my little girl a hypenated last name...I'm keeping my last name when we get married this year,..I'm an only child so it's important for my children to have my last name too...all my subsequent children will also have a both of our last names 

Name: roseywosey | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 10:54 PM
im giving my baby the dads surname. and were not married.. or engaged.. it just seems right. everyone has there own opinions tho. 

Name: BabyDrae12 | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 11:21 PM
Im not married but engaged,,,And I know im gonna be with him forever so I am giving Drake his my fiance's last name. 

Name: soon2bmommy | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 11:23 PM
Our baby is going to have his last name. We arent planning on getting married. In my opinion getting married is just a reason to spend money. If we know we care about each other, we dont need a piece of paper to prove it. We know we love each other and thats all we care about! 

Name: Meagan | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 11:49 PM
I am engaged and we will eventually get around to getting married... lol.. but my son has his dads last name and this bub will too... When we get married Im not to sure i want to have his last name.. I will be sad to let go of my name! 

Name: Lola | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 10:55 AM
I'm having my kid keep my surname.

Even though I'm still with my partner...

I want him/her to have it because my Dad never had a son, well he did...and he passed away from cot death at 2.

So...basically...I want to keep on my father's name just to make him proud :) 

Name: roseywosey | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 10:56 AM
aww thats sweet lola, good idea too =) i'd do the same in that situation. 

Name: sezbi | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 11:04 AM
i gave my son his fathers name..he doesnt see his son and we arnt together or married. 

Name: briseis | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 11:28 AM
I live in Northern Ireland, and it's simply a matter of changing the name via deed pole. You don't need lawyers to change your own kids name, provided both the biological parents sign and agree, and signature are witnessed by someone outside of family/friend circle. 

Name: briseis | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 11:48 AM
Actually once we marry, the entire birth certificate must be re-issued to show the child as a child of the marriage. Changing the surname from the mother's to the father's is easily done. However it is pretty much impossible to change it from the father's to the mother's. 

Name: NoahsMama06 | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 3:10 PM
I'm married and was when I had Noah so I didn't have to consider this, but If I were you I think I'd give the baby your surname. I wouldn't like my children having a different last name than I do. Either that or hyphenate it. My mom had me a year before she married my dad and she gave me her last name and had no problem changing it when they got married. The only thing that I've noticed concerning the name change is on my credit report they have my main name as my married name and then they have my aliases as my maiden name and my name with my mom's maiden name. So it didn't come completely off my record. 

Name: Opheiliamath | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 5:22 PM
I'll be giving Christian he's fathers last name but hyphen it with mine. Even if we were married it would be the same way, having my last is very important to me.

P.S Changing last names is very easy. No need to worry about it when the time comes. 

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