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Hey i'm 19 and findd outt thatt i'mm gonna have a baby in aprill. I don't now how to telll my momma. Help i'm scarred ↓
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| Name: Beth | Date: Aug 31st, 2005 6:39 PM |
| I think if you have a good relationship with your mother you should just be honest with her now since you just found out because otherwise she will find out and she might be a little hurt that you didnt come to her sooner. I think you should first find out what your options are..having it, aborting it, or giving it up for adoption. Your mother was in the same situation when she found out she was pregnant with you so maybe she can be a comfort to you in this situation. Good luck with everything! ↑ |
| Name: Brandi | Date: Aug 31st, 2005 7:29 PM |
Thankks beth my momma didd have meee when she wass my agee.
So i will telll her soon. Justt nervouss abouut tellling her i guesss. ↑ |
| Name: T | Date: Aug 31st, 2005 7:37 PM |
hi girls i have an msn group called the pregnancy club if you would like to join my group that would be great you can e-mail me at [email protected] you do have to be an msn member or have a hotmail e-mail addy to join but dont worry Hotmail is free and heres the link to get your free hotmail e-mail addy ok http://www.imagine-msn.com/hot
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copy and paste the link ok.. My group is for pregnant women of all ages its a place were you can meet other pregnant women and talk to them just like this Forum but your in a group there will be plenty of women to chat with about your progress and your due date even add photos of yourself as you grow bigger it also has plenty of info on pregnancy about all pregnancy questions if you would like to join dont forget to e-mail me ok thank you so much it would be great to see everyone there and i hope you all join.. Tonita xx ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Aug 31st, 2005 11:36 PM |
| brandi, how old are you? beth is right, you have to be honest with her but it would also depend on how comfortable you are with yalls reletionship... ↑ |
| Name: Mama2 | Date: Sep 1st, 2005 8:11 AM |
| hey i was 17 when i got pregnant with my first and my mom is my best friend and that made it so much harder to tell her because i thaught i disappointed her. so it can still be hard even if your close with your mom but chances are shell understand and shell deffinatly love you anyways. ↑ |
| Name: Brandi | Date: Sep 1st, 2005 2:06 PM |
Hey thankks forr the supportt i plan on telling my momma tonighte.
I may gibe up the baby for adoption or maybe get ann abortion.
But my momma didn't do theat for me so i don't know. ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Sep 1st, 2005 8:52 PM |
| if your 19, then whats the problem with keeping it? why is it going to be soo hard for you to have a baby? i mean, why not open up? i mean, it seems like you just decided that you dont want it...is there more to it? ↑ |
| Name: Brandi | Date: Sep 1st, 2005 9:12 PM |
| Well i guess i can keeep it but, not to sure ican stray with my momma cause she onlhy has one roome an it;s tought just me an her right noww. ↑ |
| Name: JEN | Date: Sep 1st, 2005 9:31 PM |
| i was 19 when i found out too, plus by boyfriend at the time was a total loser. i was terrified to tell my parents because i was young and unmarried. when i did, my parents were upset, like disappointed. it lasted a few weeks but when they realized that i was not going to abort my baby, they just excepted it and were supportive. you just have to give them a little time. my son is now 13. it does not seem like that long ago i was only 19. i raised my son for 5 1/2 years by myself and it was hard but well worth it. then i met my current husband and we have a six year old son together and one on the way in january. it will be a little scary( maybe have a friend, cousin or sibling with you when you tell your mom. it wont be so frightning.) also, please take into consideration that your babys heart already starts beating about 10 days after conseption and already has arms and legs and organs developing a lot sooner that you would expect. if you are due in april, your baby is well on its way in development and is not just a blob of cells. i hope you consider keeping it or adoption and i know this sounds bad, but there are websites on abortion and although disturbing and graphic, you may want to check it out. it may change your perseption on abortion and seeing the stage of development of your baby may shed some light on your decision. figure out how many weeks you are by your last period(not when you think you concieved) and look at photos of a fetus that age. i wish i would have had that around when i was younger. i had an abortion at 18 and it has always haunted me. did it hurt the baby while it was being killed? was it a boy or a girl? especially now that i'm a mom and have learned from my pregnancies, i really regret what i did. there's no taking it back. good luck in your life. things always have a way of working themselves out. one more thing. even if your mom gets really upset, just remember the saying, "this too, shall pass." ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Sep 1st, 2005 11:55 PM |
| a baby is a serious situation, you cant just say one minute that you want to give it up and the next minute that you guess you can keep it. i think that you need to think about these kind of things before deciding what your going to do. how close are you and your mom? what kind of reletionship do yall have? why do you think that you couldnt stay with her? and wheres the dad to the baby? ↑ |
| Name: sarah cannon | Date: Sep 6th, 2005 6:25 PM |
| i told my mom i was pregnate and she now has nothing to do with me.ill be 19 with a baby also next year.im still with the dad and we are getting married.let me tell you,if your ahppy then don't let what your mom says bring you down because god gave you a gift and im sure you will be a great mother good luck sweetie. ↑ |
| Name: karen | Date: Sep 6th, 2005 8:13 PM |
| yea, your right about the mom thing. i think that they should be there for their children..im mean , your 19..not 12 and even if you were 12 i think that your mom should be supportive. my bfs mom isnt very happy about it but theres nothing she can do but get over it. as long as you and the dad are happy and can provide for eachother then go for it. i am 18 years old and i live with my bf and our moms are no where around. my mother lives 8 hours away and my bfs lives about an hour away so we depend on each other whether people accept it or not. dont let what your mom thinks get to you because to all that matters we cant be under mommas arms all our lives..we have lives too that we need to build on. my grandma is mad because my mother isnt " helping" me like she supposed to ( which she says) but i love my mother and i am growing up, she has her own things to worry about and so do i. i may always be her daughter but i also growing up with my own things...my own family. no one has to be excluded but she cant pamper you and expect you to not have a family of your own one day. good luck ↑ |
| Name: Brandi | Date: Sep 6th, 2005 8:17 PM |
| Hey Karen and everyone thanks for the support and being there for me. ↑ |
| Name: Anne-Marie | Date: Sep 12th, 2005 2:46 AM |
| Try giving her a picture of your latest scan. The reality of the image might jolt her into the protective grandparent, rather than the angry mom. ↑ |
| Name: stephanie | Date: Sep 23rd, 2005 2:56 PM |
| girl at least your 19 and pregnate.i am only 16 and i just found out a couple days ago that i am pregnate and i am 13 wks and 3 days. it was had for me to tell my parents expecally my father. who is over protected. after i told them a lot of stuff happened. my dad wont talk to me. he wont let me see my boyfriend wont let me talk to him or n e thing. but my mom took it well. she is happy just upset about the fact that i am only 16 ya know. but you really should tell her because it will feel a lot better and you wil have some one to talk to about it .so just sit her down and tell her that you need to talk to her and tell her that your haven a baby. ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Sep 23rd, 2005 3:21 PM |
| hi i just found out im pregnant last night,,,and it never happened b4,,, i thought it would be impossible but now its here, has anybody taken the clearblue test? ↑ |
| Name: Brandi | Date: Sep 23rd, 2005 3:27 PM |
| hey jenny how old are you? I'm 19. ↑ |
| Name: kristy | Date: Oct 3rd, 2005 5:07 PM |
| I'm ready to have a baby but i'm only 14 ↑ |
| Name: ME | Date: Oct 3rd, 2005 6:20 PM |
KRISTY....you are not "READY" NO 14 YEAR OLD IS READY TO HAVE A BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was 17 when my first was born, and I was lucky to have my family there for me!
AT 14 I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD EVEN BE HAVING SEX!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Kristina | Date: Oct 4th, 2005 12:31 PM |
Brandi, you're young but there's been younger. You can be a mom. I don't believe in abortions personally because that there is a tiny soul inside you now. Another human full of dreams and loves and concerns. I'm 17 and it's hard being pregnant and I'm scared of when the baby comes but I believe that I can do it. You have to believe in yourself too.
Kristy- No 14 year old is ready for a baby. You're still a child yourself. You have the rest of highschool, college, you have to find yourself first. You don't need a baby. ↑ |
| Name: Brandi | Date: Oct 4th, 2005 5:02 PM |
| Hey Kristina thanks for the words of encouragement, I'm not feeling to well today. How are you doing sweetie? ↑ |
| Name: Kristina | Date: Oct 5th, 2005 1:46 AM |
| Hey Brandi. Today is not such a good day. I can't have anything with milk in it because it makes me so sick. I thought it would have went away by now. (The sickness feeling) So I had one scoop of icecream and have been sick ever since then. School is good. I'm proud to say I'm the highest student in my business class. *grins* u? If you have AIM my sn is: dimpleszajac. I try to get on whenever I can. ↑ |
| Name: yashica | Date: Oct 23rd, 2005 3:42 AM |
| i feel that things happen for a reason. when the time is right for you to tell them. them then you will tell them. ↑ |
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