I am in my 6th week as I am 5 weeks and 5 days pregnant, I know I am just at the very beginning. I am so so so sad as I am afraid of having a miscarriage as it has taken us 9mths to fall pregnant... I don't want to lose this little blessing and try again for another 9 :(
I know this is sensitive but have any of you had a miscarriage? What week did it happen? Were there any signs and symptoms before hand? Did you know something was wrong? Or did you go to the toilet for a pee and find blood or was it at a scan that they found that there was no bub or it stopped growing?
I have small pains from time to time and I am sh1t scared that I am going to go to the toilet and find blood. I am so early on I know, I know there is more risk now and it is hard to get excited and talk about my pregnancy in depth when I am so scared that in a day or week it might be gone.
With this worry I am starting to wish I wasn't pregnant, I want this so much.
Am I a freak? (play nice Coart) ↓
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| Name: briseis | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 8:22 AM |
I had a missed miscarriage when I was 17. I missed a period, but was too afraid to test, and the following month I bled extremely heavily and for longer than normal with extreme cramping. The doctor confirmed that it was probably a 'missed miscarriage'. I've also had friends who have had miscarriages, and they just described it as symptomless, except one day they started bleeding heavily, and had extreme cramping. I suppose it depends on when you have the miscarriage as to whether you have symptoms or not.
But if I were you, I wouldn't look too much into it, incase you begin mistaking the signs of a miscarriage for something completely harmless. And to be honest, if you're going to have a miscarriage, there really isn't anything anyone can do to prevent it, which is another reason looking for signs makes little difference other than to make you worry.
If it makes you feel better, it really isn't unusual to bleed in early pregnancy, and some women do experience cramping early on as their bodies adjust. I've had both! But my bleeding turned out to be a cervical erosion caused by sex, and the cramping was either constipation or my ligaments stretching. Both signs of miscarriage! But yet nothing to do with it.
You're right; the risks are higher in the first 12-weeks, and all women who want their babies are as scared as you are. For me, I was so ill in the first trimester, I don't remember fretting that much about it. You'll feel better after 12-weeks. If you're worried about the pains, then have your doctor get you an emergency ultrasound; that's what I did when I started getting pains at 8-weeks. It'll give you reassurance if nothing else. I'm sure your baby is just fine. :) Smile! Of course you don't wish you weren't pregnant! ↑ |
| Name: christiansmommy | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 12:50 PM |
| m2b, have you EVER had a miscarriage? ↑ |
| Name: 04nidak | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 2:01 PM |
| I know this is easier said then done, but you need to relax...the stress isn't good for you. From what I've heard from other women, the possibility of miscarriage is a very common worry during pregnancy. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better and worry less, but I know there really isn't anything! I know exactly how you are feeling and it sucks, but the best thing you can do right now is keep taking your vitamins, eat healthy and try to relax. I'm sure that everything is going to be just fine with your little one! ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 2:30 PM |
| honestly, i think its every womans fear, miscarrying. for some it happen out of nowhere and then other times they know. i know you had trouble trying to conceive, but you did. everything happens for a reason. if your doc hasnt said anything bout you being high risk, on bedrest or chance of miscarrying like more than 50%..then i think you should calm down, breathe. your stress and worrying DOES hold a major key to all of it. ↑ |
| Name: jmp1079 | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 2:36 PM |
| Like everyone said this is a fear that I think every pregnant woman has. It is something to keep in the back of your mind incase your do start spotting or having cramps, but you don't want to constantly worry about it. I almost miscarried in the beginning of this pregnancy. I started spotting at 5 weeks, I called the doc right away and got in to see them the next morning. I was put on bed rest for a little over a month and now I am 40 weeks and waitnig to pop this baby out. I would try not to worry too much about it unless you see signs. Throughout the pregnancy there are different things you are going to be worring about. I know I was so scared around 18 weeks when my morning sickness finally stopped, but it was to early to feel the baby yet. I just didn't fel pregnant anymore. But once the kicks start comming that eased the fears. For now just enjoy the pregnancy, it is amazing and it goes by so fast...well until you are at the end and waiting for the baby to be here! ↑ |
| Name: christiansmommy | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 3:01 PM |
JUST DON'T THINK ABOUT IT. ACT LIKE YOU'RE NOT PREGNANT. (OF COURSE, DON'T DRINK, BUNGEE JUMP, ETC.) BUT, JUST ACT NORMAL AND WAIT UNTIL YOU HIT THE SECOND TRIMESTER, THAT IS USUALLY A SAFER STAGE.
BUT, I CAN UNDERSTAND, B/C REMEMBER HOW I WAS TELLING YA'LL ABOUT MY FRIEND, NICOLE THAT RECENTLY LOST HER BABY AT 7 MONTHS ALONG? WELL, NOW I AM APPROACHING HER STAGE AND I KEEP THINKING, "DAMN, I'M STILL NOT OUT OF THE WOODS B/C THAT CAN HAPPEN TO ME TOO" BUT AS LONG AS I FEEL HER DOING HER FLIPS AND AEROBICS EVERYDAY, EVERY HOUR, I FEEL BETTER. SHE'S JUMPING RIGHT NOW, AS TO SAY "MOMMY, YES, I AM STILL HERE".
IT WILL BE OK. JUST DON'T THINK ABOUT IT. JUST BE HAPPY AND GET REST AND FLUIDS B/C THAT MORNING SICKNESS IS ABOUT TO HIT YOU WITH A VENGIENCE!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Angelcecilia2 | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 3:29 PM |
You're definitely not a freak -- it is a very common concern. And, not to make you worry more, it is a very common thing. Most women just don't realize they miscarried, because they don't even know they're pregnant. Worrying too much will cause stress on your baby...so just know that God gave you this baby for a reason...and take the best care you can.
I did have a miscarriage when I was 6 weeks along with my first pregnancy. The only thing I had was some spotting one day, that stopped, and then 2 days later started bleeding. I went to the doctor and he did an ultrasound...and found something that could be a baby, but was way to small for the 6 weeks I should have been...the next time I went back, there was nothing on the scan. I didn't even have the cramping that most people have...just the bleeding.
I totally understand being worried about the pains you're feeling -- because with Sarah, I had them and was very worried about miscarrying. But they were just ligaments stretching and my body trying to accomodate the growing life inside. Have you had any ultrasounds or anything yet? Once you see your baby, no matter how small, it will ease your fears a lot! ↑ |
| Name: Double_K | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 3:29 PM |
| I know its easy to say "think happy thoughts"---because it is a scary thing---but that is what you have to do---just try not to stress about it! :) happy, happy, joy, joy...... ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 4:03 PM |
lol christiansmommy no bungee jumping
m2b try not to stress, relax and go about your day, you should go have a relaxing shopping day at the mall or something! :) ↑ |
| Name: christiansmommy | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 7:21 PM |
| YEAH ZOE, I WAS SO JEALOUS-MY HUBBY AND I TOOK OUR SON TO SESAME PLACE IN PENNSYLVANIA AND HE AND OUR SON, CHRISTIAN GOT ON A ROLLER COASTER (NOT REALLY BIG) AND I WAS PISSED! MAN, THATS THE ONLY THING ABOUT BEING PREGNANT-NO MORE CORONAS! AND NO MORE ROLLER COASTERS AND WATER SLIDES! ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 7:30 PM |
| It is so natural to be afraid, but honestly you need to start looking on the bright side and at all of the good things. Having a positive outlook is so very important. Don't under estimate the power your mind has over you. You spent a long time trying to have this baby and much of that time was spent in a negative place filled with frusteration. Don't let that flow over into your new situation. I did have a miscarriage in 2004. I am a firm believer that all things happen for a reason so those babies (twins) were not ment to be here. I was a little sad and it did make me feel like it could happen again when I got pregnant with kendra. In face I ahs having my HCG levels tested every three days to make sure they were doubling. The last test they did not double. I was sent to the hospital to be sure it was not a tubal and the US tec could see a sac, but no fetal pole or yolk sac or a heart beat of any sort. They told me I was prob having a blited ovius. This was on a thursday. I spent the entire weekend at home upset after leaving the hospital and refusing a D&C. I went to the dr on monday and the baby still had not passed. The US tec there did a second US and sure enough there was my baby perfect and with a strong heart beat. I guess the point of this crazy long story is that had I not been having the HCG test I would have never thought anything was wrong. Had I agreed to the D&C the hospital wanted to give me I would have killed my baby. All of this because I was worried about a miscarriage. I hope this helps you to jsut take it one day at a time and not stress your self out. ↑ |
| Name: KarenM | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 8:17 PM |
| AMTB, you are definitely not a freak as every woman has gone throught his fear upon finding out they were pregnant. It's natural, however as everyone is saying...you need to relax...stress isn't good for you or the baby. To answer your questions, I had two miscarriages, one at 5 weeks the other at 7 weeks (the second was actually an ectopic so different symptoms but a loss none-the-same). Symptoms-wise I just started cramping like a bad period and then I bled. When I got preggo with Wyatt I worried in the first few weeks but learned to relax and enjoy my pregnancy instead. There isn't anything I could do to change the outcome, so if it happened, it happened. I understand your stress since it took you a while to get pregnant in the first place, but please try to enjoy yourself and your changing body versus worrying about something you can do nothing about. Pretend we are all there hugging you. In my heart I am beside you...hugs. Karen ↑ |
| Name: A Mom To Be | Date: Jun 20th, 2007 9:34 PM |
| Thanks girls, it is like a rollercoaster, I am fine fine fine and then I get a small cramp or ache and I race off to pee but mainly to check that I haven't bled. I have over a month until my first scan, arhhhhh! Anyway I am 5 weeks 6 days today so the end of my 6th week... one week closer. I guess that's a blessing. Once again thank you all. ↑ |
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