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| Name: Jackie | Date: Nov 20th, 2005 3:52 PM |
| Mar .... How far along are you in your pregnancy ? How old are you ? There are options out there ..... alot of couples are looking to adopt a baby - and - if you decide to parent this baby, there is alot of help that would be available to you. If you want to talk - call me toll-free 1.888.759.5188 Jackie www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: Melissa & Tim | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 1:06 AM |
| (Engagement picture) Hi, we are Tim & Melissa Hennis. Thank You for taking the time to read our letter! We admire your incredible strength and determination to find a loving and stable home for your baby. We feel that placing a child for adoption is the ultimate act of unselfish love and we really hope that the openness in your adoption process will give you the support you need and deserve. As you learn more about who we are, we hope that you will consider our home for your baby. We both have always dreamed about having a family. From the time we met, we wanted to have a family together to be able to share in the closeness only a family can have. For the four years that we have been married we’ve dealt with miscarriages, tubal pregnancies and failed IVF. Our strong desire to have a family of our own and to be able to share our love is so big that the transition of deciding to adopt was an easy one, there was finally a light at the end of the tunnel. (Wedding picture) We met through some friends, started dated and got engaged after three years of dating. We are true soul mates and best friends. We got married in our home town with lots of friends and family and had a beautiful wedding. Shortly after being married we purchased our first house together and have spent a lot of time making it a wonderful home. We are both from the Ohio area. We love the outdoors, camping and fishing mainly. We have taken a lot of weekend trips to different cabins just to get away and we also go to Canada twice a year for fishing trips with both families, and just can’t wait to have a child to share all of our wonderful family vacations with (Picture with Jimmy) Tim works for the Village that we live in and has been employed there for 5 years. Because of the flexibility of his job, it will allow him to spend quality time with his family. Tim is a happy, fun loving person with a great sense of humor. People are drawn to Tim’s personality being he enjoys life and is a kid at heart. Tim is quite the handyman and is able to fix just about anything around the house. Tim enjoys golfing and bowling and helping out family and friends. Tim is the type of person that know matter what he is doing when someone needs something he stops what he is doing to help someone else. His thoughtfulness, wisdom, and tenderness will make him an amazing father. Melissa has been employed with a local Hardware store in her home town for over a year. She is head cashier over 4 part time cashiers. Since we got married, she has stepped down her career to deal with doctors appointments and dealing with the chaos we have had for the past four years with infertility, also working this close to home it makes her available whenever something comes up at home. Melissa’s skills such as listening, empathy, understanding, and genuinely caring about others would be wonderful attribute to being a Mom. Melissa had a very active childhood that has continued throughout her adult years. She participated in activities such as softball and cheerleading. Melissa also did a lot of babysitting in her teen years. She has always been drawn to children and loves to take care of them. She has a big family and even bigger now that she’s married with lots of little ones around. She always knew and dreamed about having a family of her own. Growing up, her family was constantly together. Her parents instilled a strong work ethic, helping others, and to be respectful to others. Melissa is a very kind and patient person who always see the best in everyone. (Family pictures) We both come from very close-knit families. Tim has 1 sibling and 1 niece and 1 nephew. Tim’s family lives close so we are able to see them often and share holidays together. Melissa has 2 siblings and 5 nieces who all live about 45 minutes from us, which we also visit a few times each year. We are excited about having a child to enjoy spending time with and celebrating holidays with. We live in a 5 bedroom home in a nice family-oriented town. We are excited to welcome a new addition to our home to fill it with toys, giggles, and more love. Our community has some really good schools in the county and all of them are very close. The weather is beautiful changing from season to season, and we are a few hours drive from many amusement parks, zoos, water parks and much more. We have both been raised Presbyterian and come from loving homes. We continue to be strong Presbyterians and enjoy having God in our lives. (Picture of Lyndsey) Now meet Lyndsey, she is Tim’s daughter to a previous relationship. She is five years old and is in Kindergarten. She is a very fun loving, well mannered child with lots of energy. She gets to spend every other weekend Friday – Sunday with us and also an overnight during the week. We also alternate holidays with her biological mother. We all, (her father, her mother and two step parents) all get along very well. We try to make the transition for her as easy as possible. Lyndsey also, (on her mother’s side) as a younger sister which makes her a wonderful big sister and she would be a wonderful sibling for your child too. She is very good with younger kids always being the leader and looking out for them. She keeps trying to figure out why we can’t have a baby brother or sister for her. (Picture of Tim & Lyndsey) Tim spends every minute possible with her and is a great father. I have never seen a man that can act like a fiver year old as well as him just to make her happy. He enjoys playing in her room and also in the backyard with her. He couldn’t be a better father. Melissa also spends as much time possible with Lyndsey, she is a very loving step mother. She loves Lyndsey as if she were her own biological child. Lyndsey enjoys time with Melissa because she feels secure with her. She shares a lot of secrets with her step-mother. Melissa has given her such a big shoulder to lie her head down on that she relies on Melissa to tell her what is bothering her, and no matter what it is either she will help her or get someone who can. (Picture of Melissa & Lyndsey) A child that we welcome into our home will grow up in a home full of unconditional love and tenderness. We will make sure they feel safe and secure in our love and know that we will always support them. We believe in the value of education and will provide these children the opportunity to go to the college of their choice. They will discover their own unique interests and we will do our best to help them reach their goals. We are excited to welcome a new baby in our loving and caring home to make our family complete. If we are selected, we want to assure you that your child will always know they were adopted, loved by you, and what a tremendous gift you gave when you placed him/her for adoption. We are open to having communication, sharing letters and photographs. So, if deep in your heart you feel that we are the right fit for your baby and that we are the kind of family that you would want your child to be brought up with, please contact us at [email protected]. or our adoption agencies at (Family Picture Tim, Melissa, Lyndsey and Jimmy) With lots of love, Tim & Melissa Hennis ↑ |
| Name: mar | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 5:45 AM |
| for Jackie, im 20 yrs old, 16 weeks pregnant. Plz understand, sorry, but i want 2 hav abortion, why wud i want dis baby knowing im just a victim of rape?? But sad to say, my parents dont want me to hav abortion so i want to have miscarry. Im not taking good care of myself 2 d xtream that, most of d time i wore tight jeans,workin out w weights,dont eat nutrious foods. Plz give me an idea how to miscarry. Please im begging you...you all out there. Thank you. ↑ |
| Name: mar | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 6:04 AM |
| for Melissa & Tim, thank you for ur good offer but i cant accept it. I have a career and besides im here in Philippines. Please understand my situation. Thank you!! ↑ |
| Name: Melissa & Tim | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 12:42 PM |
| I do understand your situation. And being raped is something your going to have deal with the rest of your life. You know there are good counselor out there for this type of thing. As far as your baby goes. I understand you don't want it because of the situation but remember that is a precious life living inside of you and it's not the babies fault that this happened do not punish the child. There all types of adoption agencies out there, if it's just that your not interested in us that's fine but please look into it. Remember, everything happens for a reason and maybe this reason was so that you could give the most precious gift of all to a family that has dreamed of having a child. As far as your career you can continue your career. Just because your pregnant doesn't mean you can't continue with your life, women do it all the time. Please email me at [email protected] My prayers are with you, Tim & Melissa ↑ |
| Name: Jackie | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 3:25 PM |
| Mar ... I am so sorry that this happened to you. I would suggest seeking professional counseling, if you havent already. This will help you understand that this is NOT your fault! As far as the pregnancy - only you know what is best. I personally do not belive in abortions, but in a situation such as yours .... if you feel it is the only way for you to put this bad situation in the past and start to re-build your life, then that is what you need to do. Of course, depending on how far along you are. Please think long and hard about your decision - what is best for you and the unborn baby ..... my offer still stands - if you need someone to talk to or somesone to listen ..CALL ME! Take care of yourself! Jackie ↑ |
| Name: Jackie TO Michelle | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 3:28 PM |
| Michelle - this site is for support - no bad mouthing! We are trying to be supportive of Mar and her feelings - what happend to her is absolutely terrible. We are not being selfish - we are trying to support her and let her know that there are options out there available to her! Hope you aren't always so angry! Jackie www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: cc | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 3:44 PM |
| mar i no this is really hard for you but there are better options than killing your own blood....i think you should go on to google images and see what a baby looks like at 16 weeks...if you calll that not human that what is it?i no it must be terrible having bin rapped but think about it...are you going to let this person make you have to live with nowing that you killed a baby...that was eating,breathing because of you! im shore you will make the right dicission! just remember it is alive! its a human been! not a couple of cellls...and its not like just pulling a tampon out..and your baby will not come out in one piece! pleasse rethink what you are doing to yourself and your unborn baby!! x x x ↑ |
| Name: Melissa & Tim To Michelle | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 5:30 PM |
| I was ignoring her situation I was trying to tell her there are options for her. I can't imagine being raped but she had ever experience a miscarriage or a tubal pregnancy she would probably stop and think about her options. Abortion is KILLING. Her body has a living human being growing inside of it. Yes she was raped and that is terrible and that is something she will have to deal with the rest of her life and my prayers are with her and I truly believe that God will be with her in this bad time and help her make decisions that are best for her and her child. I also was trying to tell her even though she doesn't want this baby if she forces herself to have a miscarriage or does decide to have an abortion she may cuase so much harm or have complications from the aboriton so that when she is ready to have a family that option might not be there for her. Don't be so judge mental and try to understand what people are trying to tell her. There trying to make her understand that Killing doesn't solve anything. ↑ |
| Name: michelle | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 7:44 PM |
| to melissa tim jackie - I to said for her not to perposely have a m/c. but i want her to know its her choice she wants an abortion then im letting her know some people think its okay in this situation and know one should try to change her mind. I know you al want to adopt so bad you cant see my point we all have different oppinions and I understand yours im sorry if i affended you but i think she should be able to stand up for herself and she made clear she wants an abortion. maybe she will change her mind and its good you wrote so she can see that side but i too have an oppinion. I have had 2 miscariages and a healthy 5 year old daughter i was raped by a family member groing up and adopted so I would also in her shoes have an abortion Thanks for letting me state my opinions I didnt say my view is the right one its just how i personally feel being in a similar situation to hers ↑ |
| Name: concerned | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 11:45 PM |
| I am so sorry to hear what happened to you. Its absolutely horrible. You should still take care of yourself though.. what happens if you dont miscarry? If its not what God intended its not going to happen that way. You should defenatly try to seek some help outside of your family and let someone help you do whats right for you. Take care. And I wish you the best of luck no matter what you decide. ↑ |
