|
I'm 15 (yeah, really young, i know) and my boyfriend is 18, and his mom hates my guts.She's constantly talking about how i'm such a whore and I corrupted her son and whatever. All this does is add stress, she goes on about how if i had been on b.c., this never would have happened, but i was on b.c. and we used condoms, just in case. but i still ended up pregnant. I'm having her grandchild, why does she treat me like this? Is it just because i'm young or did i probably do something? ↓
|
|
| Name: Angelcecilia2 | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 6:17 PM |
| A lot of moms are protective of their sons...when my husband and I first got together, his mom didn't care for me. It took a while, but we get along well now. She's also probably scared of becoming a grandmother, wanted to believe her son wasn't having sex, and it's easier for her to target you, because you aren't her own child. ↑ |
| Name: .:Lexi:. | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 6:25 PM |
| well, maybe, but he has a daughter, who was born on thursday to his ex. so she knew he was having sex, and she has like 6 other grandkids, i'm just wondering why shes choosing me to hate. I hope she gets over it, i really can't handle the stress right now. ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 6:27 PM |
| Probably b/c you are only 15. I'm sure I would feel the same way honestly. It seems irresponsible. She doesn't know if you were on bc or using condoms. Did you say your boyfriend just had another baby last week? Oh god. ↑ |
| Name: Angelcecilia2 | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 6:31 PM |
| how far along are you Lexi? ↑ |
| Name: .:Lexi:. | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 6:32 PM |
| Name: harper1990 | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 7:41 PM |
Lexi- My BF's mom was the SAME way, when I first told her that I was having her son's baby. At the time I had just turned 16 and Mason was 18. I was devastated, she even tried to press charges against me. Though, as time went along...I think I was about 5 months pregnant she gave up and began to be involved in the babies life. After seeing how happy Mason was, and of course my growing belly, she softened up and finally opened her arms to us.
When I gave birth to Charlotte, she became one of the most dedicated grandmums I have ever seen. It's absolutely unreal. Now, Charlotte is 6 months old and everyone gets along JUST fine. We are all one big happy family.
Things will work out for the better, trust me god will not give you more than you can handle. ↑ |
| Name: Lola | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:04 PM |
I can't believe yer bloke had a kid on Thursday!
Maybe that's why she's so crude! Lol ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:19 PM |
| im with lola on that one. ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:21 PM |
| all i have to say is WOW!!! ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:22 PM |
| Name: tattudemom | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:57 PM |
| She's probably one of those moms like on Maury Povich whose sons have 20 kids and they blame all the girls for "tricking" him. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:58 PM |
| lol i love those shows, except they make me want to throw my tv or something at my tv, depends on the amount of stupidity. ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:59 PM |
| lol...thats all i can say..... ↑ |
| Name: hazelsweetp | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 9:33 PM |
| Lexi ..some women are like that, I am sure my mother in law has said similar or worst about me and my relationship concerning my husband. My motto is some people just may not like eachother or get along. I don't like my mother in law and have no desire to really want to know here or like her for that matter but can be nice for the kids and hubby's sake...Don't feel pressure to have to get along with your in-laws there is no rule that you have too. Most of my in-laws don't like me but that doesn't affect my relationship with my Dh and it doesn't mean he doesn't love his family.....You can go through a list of reasons she may not like you but be yourself, love your boyfriend and your child. IF you want her in your childs life and if she wants to be in your childs life I am sure you can atleast find a common ground for the future, but if you feel that she is being unfair to you ask her whats going on? why do feel the way you do....... maybe talking with her will help you both understand eachoher. ↑ |
| Name: ginamom | Date: Apr 16th, 2007 3:26 PM |
oh poor you, that just is not right. I hope things
work out and I agree talking to her may work ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 16th, 2007 8:02 PM |
| Hmmm ... if she's an evil psycho like my fiancé's mother, then talking to her won't help. But ignoring the problem won't help either. I tried both with my fiancé's mother. Neither works. Don't stoop to her level, but next time she calls you a 'whore' or says anything which remotely offend you, give as good as you get, but do so in a way which is tactful. Don't call names. Don't offend her. Just say things like 'Is there a reason you keep going on and on about birth control? Can you just explain to me what difference it makes now? Or is it just that you get a kick out of criticising others?' Very rarely do women get on well with their partner's mother. Just rise above it, and when I say 'it', I mean her. ;) ↑ |
|
|
