| Name: Crazy_girl | Date: Mar 26th, 2007 8:33 PM |
| I'm pregnant and the only help i have is my dad any help with this ↑ |
| Name: Spoon | Date: Apr 5th, 2007 12:46 AM |
u got played by the father hun , but it sounds like he reli does wanna be in the babys life
but wot u reli got to think about is ur self. first of u got pregnant in the first place because of the man wanting to marry u now he's out. why do u still want the baby? do u feel u can look after this baby? what if this baby had something wrong with it? could you cope? all these thing you should ask yourself up until a week before ur 5 month of pregnancy then decided whether u want the baby still ↑ |
| Name: Nicholle | Date: Apr 16th, 2007 8:33 PM |
| Twisted Gerl- I feel your pain. I was 16 when I got pregnant with my son. I, too, was pressured by my mom, saying that I would ruin my life and I would be a welfare mom with no education and nothing to offer my son. My brother in law gave me the best advice ever. He said, you have put yourself in a situation where only you can make the best choice for yourself. I was not comfortable with having an abortion, nor did I feel like adoption was an option. I knew that if I had an abortion, I would be questioning myself for the rest of my life, but I also knew it would be harder to raise a child. I took that and ran with it. My son is now almost 13 and I have so much more to offer him than I ever thought. You have to understand that being a mom doesn't stop at food or clothes and diapers, and NO MAN is going to be able to be a mom for you. Put yourself in the mind-set that you and you alone are going to raise this child, if you have a man in your life willing to help then that's great but don't depend on it. I know that you can do it. Anyone can do it if they really want to. There are thousands of resources to take advantage of. AND don't be too proud to take a hand-out, the resources are there for girls like you. ↑ |
| Name: B_the_best_U_can_B | Date: Apr 17th, 2007 2:50 PM |
When i got pregnant at 13 and my 18 year old boyfriend supported me.I told me my early on in the pregnancy she helped me to decided what to do.But i knew deep down that all along i would never have an abortion.whichever dicision you make it will have effects for the rest of your life so u need to think about it and not rus in on things]boyfriend who do not stand by you when they get you pregnant never loved you and were just using you.
Becky ↑ |
| Name: imsoconfused | Date: Apr 18th, 2007 3:11 AM |
| my boyfriend just broke up with me so now im screwed. ↑ |
| Name: ShelbeLynn15 | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 7:03 PM |
| Hey my name is shelbe. i am 15 and i am doing a research paper for school umm.. i just put up a story if you would like to read it and answer some ?'s for me that would be great.. every thing will be keep confindetial if you would like. thanks shelbe ↑ |
| Name: jada | Date: May 2nd, 2007 4:40 PM |
| im more confident about having my baby even though im only 17.you have to really be able to take resposibility ↑ |
| Name: imarhcp | Date: May 5th, 2007 7:08 PM |
ok... your situation is tricky, but dont let anyone get in the way of your decision to have an abortion. the choice is yours, and in no way is it an easy one. if you want the baby, then go ahead. but your mother should stick by you, you may need her help.
i wish you all the best . good luck! ↑ |
| Name: hiz_wifey_1621 | Date: Sep 21st, 2007 3:42 AM |
| IM 16 AND IM 2MONTH PREGNANY AND MY BABY FATHER IS BY SIDE HE WANTS ME TO HAVE THE BABY AND MY MOM WAS NOT REALLY HAPP WHEN SHE FOUND OOUT BUT, SHE HAS PUT THAT BEHIND AND SAID SHE WILL BE THERE STEP BY STEP ALONG MY SIDE WITH MY BABYS FATHER ↑ |
| Name: hiz_wifey_1621 | Date: Sep 21st, 2007 3:44 AM |
| WHY DOSE EVERYTHING I HAVE READ SAY THAT THE GUY THAT HAS GOT US YOUNG PREGNANT NEED TO BE PUT IN JAIL THE GIRL SHOULD OF NOT OPEN THERE LEGS TO THEM GUYS THAT SAY "I LOVE YOU " AND DID NOT USE A CONDOM ↑ |
| Name: amy2 | Date: Sep 28th, 2007 9:09 PM |
| dnt listen to what any one says about abort or adoption, dnt let any 1 talk you in 2 to any thing, sit down withyour parents after all they gone b the 1s helping you.explain tothem that,if they make this chioce 4 u, u will blame them 4 ever if it the wrong choice. i was preg at 14 just turned 15 when i gave birth, my boy 11 now, i stayed in school went to college, i split with his dad after 7 yrs, like you i was so in love with him, things were not t best when we were kids he was out all t time doin the things that teenagers do, while i was at home with our baby and studying, but you cant expect more off a teenage boy, it will be mostly up to you, even if he says he will b there 4 u both. but believe me its worth it i have the best relationship with my little man,i wouldnt change my life 4 the world, while my mates where goin 2 teen discos i was heading out 2 t zoo with my boy, r goin shoppn,goin to t park feeding t ducks, and i was so happy. i dnt have any negative things to say about my xperience, he even came travelling with me4 my 2 summers off college, he was on his summer hols, so we headed 2 spain, its what you make it amylynn. think positive. ↑ |
| Name: emalee | Date: Sep 29th, 2007 7:06 PM |
| i think, personally,you keep the baby and be with your boyfriend, because any boy that tells you he will help you with that and support you, meens the world. it will be very difficult to keep the kid, my mom had me when she was 15 too, and im perfectly fine, and shes doin better then most. you can do it, i dont beleive in abortion either, but yyou need to do what you know is rite, and in the lon lun, it WILL be okay. ↑ |
| Name: PippaLou | Date: Oct 23rd, 2007 4:34 PM |
| HIA; I HATE THE WAY PEOPLE SLAG YOUNG MUMS OFF SO MUCH. IT REALLY ANNOYS ME!!! THE POOR GRIL WANTS FXCKING HELP NOT PEOPLE TELLING HER THAT SHE ISN'T MATURE ENOUGH ETC!!!! IT IS HEART BREAKING! LISTEN IT IS YOUR CHOICE IF YOU WANT TO KEEP THE BABY OR NOT, THE WAY I SEE IT IS IF YOU DON'T WANT TO KEEP THE BABY THEN DON'T KILL IT BY HAVING ABORTION! THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO CAN'T HAVE CHILDREN AND ARE WILLING TO LOOK AFTER YOUR BABY AS THERE OWN!! BUT THAT IS WHAT I BELIEVE!!! GRRR ANYWAYS I AM ALOT NICER THAN I SEEM LMAO !!! MWAH HOPE EVEYTHING GOES WELL LET ME KNOW X [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: annie7224 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2007 8:41 PM |
Listen, You do whats right for you but if youdecide to place that baby for adoptionWe are INTERESTED. we can't have children and would love to be parents, and we would like you to be involved in your childs life if that is what you want. I figure the more people that love the child the better off that child.
Keep us in mind [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: jennie7439 | Date: Nov 13th, 2007 11:21 PM |
| My name is Jennie. I'm 28, happily married for ten years, and desperately wishing I could adopt. Do not let anyone tell you abortion is the answer. You know in your heart that it's not. I have a little girl, Evie and wish more than anything that I could give her what I had growing up. My sister was my best friend - still is. But I can not have any more children. My e-mail is [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: mom to be | Date: Dec 6th, 2007 4:14 PM |
| I want to say to the 15 year old that's expecting no I don't agree with abortions, but you have to also understand where you mother is coming from aswell. She has feeling too, she's looking at her situations. Your mother could be hurt and confused just as you are and all you could think about is yourself and the molester (20) year old guy that has lied to you. First of all it's not all about babies! We meet boys and think we're in love but do you really know what love is? If he really loved you he difinitely wouldn't touched you, and on top of that he didn't believe you. What kind of mess is that? Don't put yourself in another foolish relationship even after him, that boy don't have a clue, he just want some. Save yourself for marriage and wait from this point....Go apologize to your mother for being selfish and than ask her if she could help as much as her heart allow her too, and You prove to yourself that this is really what you want. This the end of your life and the beginning of your baby's life it's not about you anymore so get over it! If you are going to keep it then do that, but at this point you are considered an adult and No body owes you nothing, not even your mother. One more thing don't just tell your mom what you are going to do ask for her to support your decision. For all the people out there that has experienced this thank you for your support....but some of you all have been very selfish on how you've addressed this situation times are hard and only God knows what this person will endure! ↑ |
| Name: LaSadgirl21 | Date: Jan 3rd, 2008 8:44 PM |
| YOU KNOW WHAT I THINK THAT U SHOULD JUST KEEP THE BABY MY SISTER WAS 15 AND PREGNANT FROM A 22 YEAR OLD NOTHING CAN HAPPENED TO U OR UR BOYFRIEND UNLESS HIS OR UR MOM PRESSCHARGES ON HIM OR YOU BUT DONT GET AN ABORTION CUZ SOMETIMES AFTER THAT LATER ON IN LIFE U MIGHT WANT A BABY AND U CANT CUZ THEY DID SOMETHING WRONG AND U CANT GET PREGNANT....... GET BACK TO ME ↑ |
| Name: cherish18 | Date: Jan 21st, 2008 4:27 PM |
| stay with the one you go dont hear what the 20 year old gots to say he will brian wash you and get back with him its just not worth it ... if he left you once already think about that .. ↑ |
| Name: munchgin66 | Date: Jan 24th, 2008 7:19 PM |
| Do what your heart tells you. Your mom can't force you. If u live in California its the law. Your parents can't make you do something you don't want to do. The boyfriend you have now can help if he wants but the dad needs to be out of your life paying child support. Im 15 and I think I might be, if I am I'd be 8 weeks. My grandma suspects I might be, my ex boyfriend and I have already talked about it if I am. He said to do whaler I feel I should do. But the way our families and our religion (catholic) his dad would want us to get married if I kept it. He just turned 18. He's told me no matter what I choose he's always going to be there for me. Your mom needs to no that you're commited to having your baby, get a job. Show her your ready. I would never get an abortion. I think its wrong on so many levels. A lot of girls at my schools are either pregnate or have had there babies. 3 girls have had them. 1 had an obortion, she regrets that. 1 is still pregnant she's due in march. Your friends and family will support you. ↑ |
| Name: FayBaby15 | Date: Jan 26th, 2008 3:46 PM |
| HEY I FEEL YOU ME I HAVE A BOYFRIEND DATS GOING TO BE 20 YEARS OLD N IM JUST 15 N HE WANTD ME TO HAVE HIS BABY THEN I HAVENT BEEN GETTN MY PERIOD N HE GOT SCARD N HE LEFT ME SO I DONT KNO IF IM PREGNANT OR NOT ITS BEEN 3 MONTHS SINCE N I STILL DONT KNO ↑ |
| Name: FayBaby15 | Date: Jan 26th, 2008 10:44 PM |
| IM 3 MOUTHS I THINK CUZ I JUS FOUND OUT TODAY THAT IM PREGNAT MY MOM GAVE MEH SOMETHING WEN SHE FOUND OUT THAT IM PREGNAT N IM AFRAID DATZ ITS FINA HURT ME OR MY BABY ↑ |
| Name: screamo_emo | Date: Feb 1st, 2008 11:03 PM |
well go with what you think and think ahead im not trying to get you scared but it might be hard to do that you might evn have to drop out of skool?and when you do it gets harder ?you dont have a education to make money to raise the baby but like i dont know what to say i woul say have an abortion but its your decision ?but do you think you can raise the baby and give it a good life? best wishes to you and hopes?
-nicole ↑ |
| Name: nicodemus | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 5:02 AM |
you should most definately get an abortion.
if not, you would probably end up taking care of some kid for another 10-15 years, which would limit you and your future boyfriends ability to become something useful to society other than ordinary under-educated parents. ↑ |
| Name: goaba | Date: Aug 6th, 2008 1:39 PM |
| hi, my heart really went out to you, i want to encourage you that there is a reason and a purpose for everything under the sun, and that God is the creatoe of everything on earth, he had that child in mind even before it was conceived, it might be a mistake on your side but not on God's plan. so all i could say is hook up with a church and they will give you all the support you need dont even think of adption, of course raising a kid is not easy but i tell you the lord will not give you anything that you cant handle, in future that child might be your saviour who knows, never underestimate the plan of God, i just pray for Gods spirit over your life and baby, and to give you wisdom and understanding through all this, for he says he will never leave us nor forsake us, do not lose hope my dear and be blessed. ↑ |
| Name: lisasing | Date: Aug 7th, 2008 1:48 AM |
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| Name: Mimi1702 | Date: Aug 21st, 2008 6:43 AM |
| Don't let anyone tell you what to do. You decide for yourself what you want to do. It's your choice, and you have to live with it...and not others. I personally donnot agree with Abortions...only under certain circumstances. I don't agree with Adoption. Every parent should be responsible, and enjoy their child(ren)on their own. This baby iside of you is not just a Fetus. This is an actualy human life that has every Organ we do. This baby didn't ask to be here...neither did it do anything wrong. I can care less what people say about you won't be able to provide. I'm 16 , and I have a 17 month old girl. She doesn't want for ANYTHING. She has a roof over her head,shoes on her feet,clothes on her back,Diapers,Wipes,Lotions & BodyWash. She has NEVER went without anything. My baby has things that someone who's in their 30's with a college Degree has. Her father is still in her life...we're still together after 3 years. I'm still in school getting A's and B's. Ranking #5 in my Class. So there isn't an age on mothering, because it's what God has for you. People are going to say what they want to say. Everyone who is "21" and older with a baby is not finacially fit. My child's father is 23...and he's doing good. He's with us everyday, and he has always been there for us. Do what you want to do....and for all the teen mom bashers...their probably not financially fit either. So therefore keep your baby, and you don't need a man to help your raise your child. It's always that baby first, and dudes later. Your baby will be with you always to the end. You depend on God, and no one else. He's the only one who has the plan. I'm doing good, and like I said my daughter wants for nothing. Always looking nice, and with new shoes on her feet. From Jewelry,shoes,Name Brand clothes,and everything she wants. No non name brand Diapers. I just said this to show all the Teen mom bashers that your child can have nice things when your a teen mom. I hate it when people say that dumb stuff...and how is your living situation. My daughter is my life, and she is shown love every single day. I tell my baby I love her more than 50 times a day. So me being a teem mom has nothing to do with raising her....just look at it this way! My blessing came earlier than some. ↑ |
| Name: margo | Date: Aug 23rd, 2008 7:10 AM |
| hi there there isnt much we havent been thoigh with our daughter nd yes told her abut ll the things that can be used and all but that idnt matter.she is now preg. and she acts like she is the inly one on earth that has ever been pegant. me right now i just dont hink her boyfriend is going to be there and they dont understand money worth crap i have so much to say dont know where to start anymore. lol. but one i hvae to say i have read some of the things other girls wote man it sounds like the mothers did not want to talk about it or what but anyway there ie so much stuff in still and elsewhere i lnow somw of them girls knew anyway.get that way by fingering oh my god..i had mever herd that one....but anyway my daUGHTER HAS A ROOM FULL OF STUFF FOR TE BABY I AM TRYINH TO MUCH TO HARD ON HER TO SHOW HER HOW HARD IT IS GOING TO BE ESP. WITH THE MONEY BECAUSE WE CANT afford it. so i dont know yet what is going to happen so any replays are [email protected] like i said lot MORE to talk about.... ↑ |
| Name: margo | Date: Aug 23rd, 2008 7:55 AM |
| i dont know but is there a way that you can find out the dna of a baby before it s born? the i is her first love and she wil allways xcare about him this one she sayes she love but action speak louder then words. so i was wonering if you could find out ↑ |
| Name: keithbikes | Date: Aug 24th, 2008 7:42 PM |
| I agree with most of the people who posted advice. You need to make the choice that is going to be best for you and your child. Remember, you do not need a man in your life to be a good parent, to be successful, or to stand on your own. You just need confidence in yourself. Also, take a good long look at yourself. Remember that raising a child at any age is difficult and there are so many things against you. You want to be able to provide the best for your child when you have it. You want to be stable mentally, physically, and finacially. You do not want your child going out in the world without having a 100% chance of having a good childhood, decient teenage years, and an opportunity to have a full life. Do not be selfish. Most young girls that keep their babies struggle and later have issues. Do what feels right for you. If you feel that this is not the time to have your child and you can not go through an abortion, then the only other option is adoption. But you have to make sure that you can live with yourself and that decision. Go and educate yourself on your choices. There will be pros and cons to everything, but at least you will get enough information to make your decision. If you choose to keep the child, then remember no matter what, that child is a gift to you and you are obligated to do the best for them. Never, ever make your child feel that you had a choice not to have them or give them up. Do not ever think that what if....????? If I never had this kid where would I be???? Do not pass on any quilt to this wonderful gift that you are about to have. Keep in mind there are thousands and thousands of women who can not have children, and would do anything to be in your place. ↑ |
| Name: margo | Date: Aug 25th, 2008 7:52 AM |
| it sounds like you are in a mess right now..how old is the ther guy that said he woud hekp you with the baby? was your father i your life? because i kep hearing her baby father is not going to do what her father did to her. i dont be in abotion so i would never make my daugfhte do that she knows this. but it is going to be so hard for you with school and going out with your friends when they are all going put and you cant because you have to stay home with the baby. i am not saying this to scare you but you have alot to think about.some guys just say that will be there just because so they can get what they want and as stupid girls fall for it everytime not just you hney thee is alot of girl who do it then they found out.just think about it there is alot of things to do then having a abortion.there is plaxces you can go and have the baby and to give it to a mom that cant have one and here is open adoptionalso were you are kind of in the child live there is alot of choices these days just think about them all. i know your nmom thinks it will ruin your like nut sometomes things lie this hekp it i dont know how to eaplain t but my daughter was on a real bad path but now she is on a real good one i dont know they allways say god works in missery ways just maybe this is one of them//but girl allways remember i wish the best for you and your baby and family because what ever you abd yourmom say to each other right now she wil allways be there fir you o matter or what happens and were wil the guys be most of them will be off making another child because they just dnt get it yet or dont care...so be safe and just think about some of the thngs i said ok..good luck ↑ |
| Name: kay127 | Date: May 1st, 2009 6:45 PM |
| i cant even begin to explain how i feel....im 17 and i just found out that me and my boyfriend are expecting a baby as well...from our esitmate im about 2 months along..only problem is how do i tell my parents without putting mine or the baby's life in harms way? my father is not one to deal with things like this very well and my mother told me she would not help me...im lost and i dont know what to do =[! please help! any advice or something would be great! ↑ |
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