| Name: lilhun | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 4:34 PM |
| Name: MistyWaters72 | Date: Jun 20th, 2006 1:35 PM |
| Hi Roselle, have a read of the post regarding single parents and kids activities.. it might give you an outlet to at least get your kids mixing with other kids as well as you being able to mix with other single parents who are in the same place you are at the moment. .. just a thought :-) ↑ |
| Name: ELAINE | Date: Jun 20th, 2006 2:42 PM |
| Have faith in god and everything will go well and don't think you always need a man to make men out of your boys. Look what your ex has done to you he gave you full custody so is that the kind of man you want for your boys. He's not a man that wants to take reaponsabilty he left that all up to you. ↑ |
| Name: hakan | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 8:30 AM |
| Name: janna | Date: Jul 1st, 2006 10:31 PM |
| I am a single Mother of 5 (two boys), my husband and I adopted them and then he was gone. I too worry about my boys. I feel like I cannot give them the attention they need in that kind of way. My kids were in the foster care system until we adopted them and it seems like they were born on a different planet. They were not exposed to things in that time of life when kids are fearless. I just finished soccor season with all five (a new mother mistake...impossible), but I want them to be exposed to as much as possible. My husband is several states away as well. I try and include my brother and male cousins and uncles, but I also put a great deal of emphasis on what kind of men they will want to be. I worry about them losing two father, that they may think men are unreliable and that men go away and do not take responsibilty for their family so I make sure they know(without knocking Dad), that families are made up of all kinds of people and that this is just one way to do it and that that weveryone does the best they can. ↑ |
| Name: Ronny5 | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 11:24 PM |
| hey girl I am a single mom with 4 boys and one girl and it is hard but I did it and I had a stroke to boot !! you can too if you want to email me and talk there at [email protected] please feel free to I can give you alot of infomation about boys with no dads as my husband walked away and I have been a single mom for 13 years !! hope to hear from you !! Ronny5 ↑ |
| Name: keisha | Date: Jul 14th, 2006 1:48 AM |
| Hey roselle, I feel you pain. I was 16 when I had my first son and he left me when I was four months. I'm now 22 and my son is 5. I've had a few males come and go, but when you have children it's hard, because most guys only take intrest in you and not the child. So from me to you, I'm the only mother and father my son has ever known. I don't know about any sports and can't play them either, but what I can do is at least get him involved in those things in the community. We go fishing and skating, to the movies, out to eat, etc. Even though his father isn't around I am his hero. And your children will look at you the same after time passes by. The older ones may understand more, but the younger one will need a little more time. Just try to make time for them and do as much as you can with them. even if it is just playing a board game on a friday night. Fun doesn't always mean money. ↑ |
| Name: tish | Date: Aug 30th, 2006 8:58 PM |
| hi im not a single mom of boys i have a liitle girl i feel your frustration though i wish i could give you some kind of advice my daughters father has never been in her life not even seen her shes six i just take it one fay at a time and try to explain the male presence a father would have in her life i let her know who he is and just explain that for right now mommy is the foundation and hopefully as she getsolder she will understand and now that she still grew up welleduated and didnt lack anythingfrom not having daddy in the picture i just love her everyday and let her know she is special ↑ |
| Name: kayla hamlin | Date: Sep 5th, 2006 1:48 AM |
| Name: mike johnson | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 6:53 PM |
| do you wish to have my help.because i'm a single man ↑ |
| Name: sean | Date: Sep 15th, 2006 10:10 AM |
| Name: Hailone | Date: Jul 9th, 2007 6:38 PM |
Iam a single dad, dont worry, they have uncles right.
You will be alright, just be carefull on who you bring around them. ↑ |
| Name: Janie | Date: Aug 16th, 2007 3:54 AM |
Just be careful...watch out for guys that are too good to be true. Possible predators - will use you to get to your kids. I personally would wait to date until my kids were grown...that's what Dr. Laura says to do. You must keep your kids safe. A single mom that lives near my mother in law thought she was "in love" and found out he was molesting her son. True story. Be extra careful and do not leave them alone.
Take Care.
Janie ↑ |
| Name: steven | Date: Aug 21st, 2007 9:46 PM |
| hey please this isnt a proper subject i got 2 daughters and 1 son my son is great but its like saying with me being a single dad of the past 6 yrs my daughters are mascukine please my daughters are feminine they will grow with the masculinity in time im sorry to dis your query but its true ↑ |
| Name: alisafi | Date: Aug 27th, 2007 6:36 PM |
| I have been raising 2 boys on my own for the last 9 years in a country thats not my own ↑ |
| Name: chatjunkie | Date: Aug 27th, 2007 11:32 PM |
| hi my heart goes out to you not for your boys but your lack of confidence i am a single parent of a teenage boy and to the best of my knowledge he seems to be a very well grounded content person who knows exactly what he wants to do with his life i reared him not as a boy particularly but as a child and teenager wiyh lots of love and disiplane if u do the same u can't go far wrong a crash course in sports also helps as they spend quite a long time with this being theis only topic of conversation good luck ↑ |
| Name: maureen | Date: Oct 1st, 2007 10:16 PM |
| I have an 18 year old, it's hard. ↑ |
| Name: maureeen | Date: Oct 1st, 2007 10:20 PM |
| I cant seem to keep my son home, he's 18 a senior in high school, I know this is his age but his atitude has changed and not for the good. ↑ |
| Name: LP | Date: Oct 2nd, 2007 2:41 AM |
| I have been a single mom for 15 years. My 3 sons are all in their early 20's. It is extremely hard. Get your rest. Eat well. Love with all your heart and be there it is not going to be easy but they will know who stood by them when they really needed someone. As for the basketball you can learn that one together. Just get out there and play with them. Warnings, well, don't be their best friend you ARE mom. Be tough and dont ever be afraid to ask for help or to let them know you are NOT superwoman. Don't let your house be the clubhouse, cause then you'll have 4 x4 x4 x4 x4 and testosteron bouncing off the walls. Don't feel sorry for them if they get in trouble, make them pay for their mistakes not you. Good Luck, and remember boys always have a special place in their hearts for mom. ↑ |
| Name: ash | Date: Oct 13th, 2007 1:16 AM |
| you r the main infuence in thier lives moms can do it i aint single now but i was and i was terified but as long as they know love and trust they will be fine go to the libary or ask at school they will help but have fun if they score a goal they will be happy thats all you have to do just enjoy it try and get out though you r a person too ps i have 4 kids ↑ |
| Name: reeba | Date: Nov 10th, 2007 5:37 PM |
| Name: tampa boy | Date: Nov 19th, 2007 9:03 AM |
| Name: Laura, in north Texas | Date: Nov 28th, 2007 12:03 AM |
| I feel for you! I have 6 kids, all boys, ages 10 - 22. I actually wanted a lot of boys. My very general take on boys is that they are rough and tumble but still need a lot of love and physical affection, and positive encouragement, and firm boundaries.. Even when they act like they don't. Also, boys really love their mom. Don't be afraid to be lay down the law and stick to it. They feel safe when they know you are in charge.And you are the only one who can teach them right and wrong. I never had any qualms about saying, "So and such is wrong. Don't do it." This also helped me firm up issues in my own mind about right and wrong. I never let the kids talk mean or disrespectfully to me. I said very firmly, "Don't you ever talk to me that way. It is wrong. If you speak in a civil tone and use civil words we can discuss things. But don't talk disrespectfully to me." You must respect yourself and your God given position of authority and protection over them if they are to respect you. Here I was looking for help and now I am lecturing! But it really pays to start while they're young. My third was a ring-tailed toot. From the time he was two I was pregnant or had a newborn and was exhausted most of the time. He was so challenging that often I let him get away with stuff the others couldn't. I am paying for it now! I am now divorced after 23 years of marriage and trying to control him, now 15 years old. My others are great.. But you can do it! Persevere! Pray every morning for wisdom and strength, and that God will show you how to love them the way He does. If anyone out there has advice for a single mom of a really cute, s-hanging-all-over-him, selfish, trying-to-be-cool, failing- classes 15 year old, I welcome it. ↑ |
| Name: bethany | Date: Dec 10th, 2007 12:48 AM |
| Name: marina | Date: Dec 12th, 2007 6:18 PM |
| an dn katalabeneis tis gunekes kamoia fora, k dn 3rete ti ennooun me auta pou lene, mhn apelphzese steile mou: marina4ever13, kai sou uposxome oti 8a sou dwsw apanthsh se oti zhthseis. ↑ |
| Name: HEATHER | Date: Jan 3rd, 2008 1:51 AM |
| Name: nanette | Date: Jan 9th, 2008 8:07 PM |
I am a single mom and my son is at the age where he is pushing my buttons. He talks back all the time, and when I tell him to do something he moves like a snail (just because he knows it makes me mad) Or sometimes I will tell him to do something and he will say NO!! He thinks I am funny when I am mad. It sounds like little stuff but it is on a daily basis and I am overwhelmed. My son is very smart and is it the accellerated courses at school and he is even starting to give his teachers a hard time.
Any advise ↑ |
| Name: trace | Date: Jan 11th, 2008 1:26 AM |
| Name: trace | Date: Jan 11th, 2008 1:30 AM |
| maybe you need to stop trying give him the choice to do the write thing and if he chooses the wrong thing . take somthing away or don`t take him anywhere. ↑ |
| Name: BJ | Date: Jan 13th, 2008 10:17 AM |
| It is by accident that I have stumbled on ur adventure. Be proud of yourself for what u have achieved,so far, and just sit back and enjoy your life making your own decisions from now on. Yor boys will respect u in the long run because u are a strong woman, u would have to be to take this step. In leaving their father you made the decision that u can do a better job raising them without the meaningless crap that might have forced you guys to be arguin. I have four girls and i left my husband a year ago. The gender doesnt matter, and your inbuilt want to feel appreciated in the way that ur ex didnt will overwhelm u for a while but your kids will be fine. All they need is love and attention trust me... ↑ |
| Name: gio | Date: Mar 21st, 2008 7:21 AM |
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