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Name: lil_dancer77

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Hey everyone,

I was just wondering if any of you have experienced a loss of friends since you became pregnant? My ex and i had some mutral friends, one in particular that he really didn't like and niether did his friends, they used to call her a slut and all sorts of other names behind her back, she was my friend so i always ignored their thoughts on her as i thought she was great. Since she found out that i was pregnant with my ex's baby, she will no longer talk to me, thats fine its her choice. The last thing she said to me was i knew alot more about what was going on with you and him then you realised and if you have this baby, you are going to ruin his life. So since making the decision to continue my pregnancy, i have lost her as well as him...
Alot of people have said to me that there is more to this story then what i can see? Anyone else see it? Coz i can't!!!! Im just a little hurt that i lost a friend becasue of something that doesn't really have anything to do with her....But i guess she was not really a friend in the first place? ↓

Name: Lizzi | Date: Dec 24th, 2006 7:07 PM

Sounds like she was hooked up with him already secretly or wanted to be at least and viewed you being pregnant with his baby as a jealous threat. Seems like a perfect explanation to me for her ditching your friendship. Think about it! ↑

Name: lil_dancer77 | Date: Dec 26th, 2006 5:37 AM

I think you both maybe right!.... In the big scheme of things though i have much more important things to worry about. He has not talked to me for nearly my whole pregnancy...(he talked to me for a week after we found out, then told me he had another gf and he is not going to be there anymore) so i have accepted that and i am getting on with things now, as my daughter has to be the most important person from now on! She will be here in May and i want to be strong and ready. I know there is nothing i can do that will change his mind and make him want to be involved so im not going to go down that path, i have never said to him he cant be, but he has proven to be someone i really didn't know in the last few months. As for my "friend" im letting go of the hurt i feel about losing her also, as im sick of doing things for people and then getting stabbed in the back!
Thanks for your input, the facts are the facts and i thnk your both right... ↑

Name: mel211985 | Date: Dec 29th, 2006 12:02 AM

hiya i lost alot of my friends when i fell pregnant i was 16 and studying my a levels when i was pregnant so perhaps thats y. Things were easier when i only had my eldest then 5 months ago i had my 2 daughter and i havent heard from any of them not even to say merry xmas. I suppose they got there own lives you just get on with it when you got kids dont you? ↑

Name: Meagan | Date: Dec 29th, 2006 12:08 AM

I have lost alot of my friends.. But i also moved 3 hours away from them! I have two friends that no matter what we still keep in contact and ring each other all the time! its difficult loosing your friends but you find your true friends! ↑