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Name: HEATHER

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ALL OF YOU PLEASE HELP ME. I NEED ADVICE. I HAD A SON 2 MONTHS AGO. I HAVE LIVED WITH HIS FATHER SINCE I WAS PREGNANT. PREGNANCY WAS BEAUTIFUL AND WE GOT ALONG GREAT. NOW THAT MY SON IS HERE..WE DONT GET ALONG FOR ANYTHING! HIS FATHER IS THE SWEETEST GUY BUT I DONT SEE MYSELF WANTING TO BE WITH HIM ANYMORE. IM JUST SO SCARED BECAUSE THIS FEELING OF TAKING MY SON AWAY FROM HIS FATHER. IF I MOVED IT WOULD BE 5 HOURS AWAY AND THAT MEANS HE WOULD HARDLY SEE HIS FATHER. I DONT WANT MY SON TO GROW UP AND SAY THAT HE DOESNT HAVE A DAD..I CRY ALL THE TIME BECAUSE IT SO SAD BUT I CANT STAND IT HERE ANYMORE. MY SON IS NOT IN ANY DANGER UNLESS YOU INCLUDE HIS PARENTS ALWAYS FIGHTING..I KNOW WHAT THAT CAN DO TO A CHILD. I WANT THE BEST FOR MY SON AND I WOULD HAVE LOVED HAVING BOTH OF MY PARENTS. NOW I CANT IMAGINE WHAT MY SON WILL FEEL. HELP ME ANYONE WHO HAS WENT THROUGH THIS. ↓

Name: gaiamom | Date: May 19th, 2007 5:17 AM

HI, I feel that if you dont want to be with him anymore, and you stay for the baby it will only bring suffering and devastation to your child, I know 5rhs away are a lot but maybe if you live with your baby in peace and give him a healthy and loving enviroment, plus seeing his father once a month lets say, it will be heathier for his development and growth
Good luck if you want to talk ...father of my baby lives a country away by the way my email is [email protected] ↑

Name: tattudemom | Date: May 19th, 2007 1:52 PM

Do you think your relationship is completely beyond repair, or could you work on it? I mean, is this a one-sided feeling? If your man does't know you're feeling this way, he can't know what will make you happy, or better yet, how not to make you unhappy. You need to be very direct about what it is you're fighting over. Maybe some counseling is in order to work through the most important issues. You did say he's the sweetest guy. I'm only suggesting that you give it a last ditch effort if he's unaware because if he knows how you feel and hasn't changed, that's one thing, but if he's oblivious, don't you think he deserves the chance to at least address the issues and/or change?

If it's the opposite and it's definitely over, just make sure you plan plenty of visits and maybe set up webcam/IM communication, phone calls, and keep the dad included the best you can. Your son will be fine as long as both his parents respect each other and work together for his good. ↑

Name: Mizz Laura | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 8:44 AM

I know what it's like to live away from your father. My dad is 6 hours away from me! But I also know that living in a house with screaming parents is so much worse. It can scar kids and ruin their views on relationships and this could affect them in the future. If the father wants to see his son then he will have to make an effort. You could both compramise on the situation. hope this hepls. ↑