Hi my names Irene,
ive decided to start a new topic "Just let it out"
which means, whatever is on your mind and you need to let it out of your system, they say letting it all out brings the stress off you,
so ladies, heres your chance, let it out!! ↓
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| Name: sweet quiet mom | Date: Jan 31st, 2006 5:13 PM |
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| Name: ????? | Date: Jan 31st, 2006 6:36 PM |
lmao sweet quiet mom, you are stressed, hope u feel better after that yell.
i need to start orginising house before i get too fat lol ↑ |
| Name: Tammie | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 2:23 AM |
| Great idea!!!! I am frustrated with children. I love my own but I am sick of everyone elses. Play dates, Car pools, sleepovers, school projects, dance class and skating. That Mom's Taxi business is for the birds. ↑ |
| Name: 3 time nursing mom | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 4:22 AM |
| I strongly desire for 1/4 of my 3 yr olds energy. Not a speck of dust would be left in the house if I had it! ↑ |
| Name: LittleRed77 | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 11:00 AM |
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better, thanks irene for this cool idea of yours. what a relief to just let it out! ↑ |
| Name: natalie | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 11:01 AM |
| im always way too tired, i always want to sleep, and hubbys too busy to watch the kids, i need a break ↑ |
| Name: To Natalie | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 11:10 AM |
| Have you tried asking your pharmacist for some iron tablets? I think 200mg ones are available over the counter. (much stronger than you get in the multi vitamins) Take one every other day, with 500mg vitamin c (Otherwise your body won't absorb the iron) for a couple of weeks. I did when I was run down and exhausted, and I soon found I had that much energy I was painting walls in the middle of the night! ↑ |
| Name: Natalie | Date: Feb 2nd, 2006 9:17 AM |
thanks for that advice, ill do that!''
how funny, painting in the middle of the night, that sounds like me b4 pregnant, wouldnt mind again, maybe get the nursey ready ↑ |
| Name: Stacey | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 5:10 PM |
| i just want a massssssssaaaage, and sleep ↑ |
| Name: xxxvvvxxx | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 11:18 AM |
| too many ppl on this forum judge everyone, just give advice if you want to, if you dont just keep your thoughts to yourselves, God is the only one who can judge! ↑ |
| Name: Becky | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 2:46 PM |
| My daughter is 21 and still leaves at home she does work but she wont go to college she went last semester and this semester she did n't apply her anwer is nothing and would not want to go angin she is very intellgine is bright she just want to work in part time job with no future at all in this job , but she loves to go out and have fun with her friends she helps when she can ....I just don't know what to do My e-mail is bsantana@ mckinneyisd.net ↑ |
| Name: Agnes to Becky | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 4:05 PM |
| Becky, I read a great book about this. The parents said that the adult child must either get a full time job to support themselves and move out or go to college full time. That person finished school, then moved out and got a full time job and is now a very well know leader in the educational community. Sometimes even the best people need a little push to get going! ↑ |
| Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 4:21 PM |
| Thanks for starting this Let It Out board, because I don't know where else to post this issue! I'm a working mom with a husband who stays home with the kids. He does housework and when he does get money, he pays what bills he can. He also keeps track of what bills need to be paid when, etc. He truly does his fair share around here and I have to say that in that aspect, he's a great husband and father. Here's where my problem comes in: Once I step foot in the door coming home from work, he's gone. The same goes on the weekends, I get up with the kids and he sleeps in, then when he wakes up, he showers and leaves. I know for sure that he's not having an affair, so maybe I shouldn't complain, but it seems that he'd rather be anywhere but here with me. He'll go to his brother or sister's house or to a friend's and just talk with them and hang out all evening. I've usually gone to bed with the kids before he comes home. If he comes home before I go to bed, he immediately sets full-force into some project, like straightening the kitchen drawers or sorting through the toddler's old clothes. I've stood at the door in tears and told him I'm lonely. I've called and asked when he'll be home. He'll say 15 minutes and arrive 3 hours later, sometimes. We haven't been out together in almost a year. We had a date set the other night and had to cancel because the baby had a high fever and was too fussy and ill for the sitter. He said we'd make it up Saturday night, but here I sit Sunday morning, still a year since we've had a date! It's been like this (him being gone) for over a year now. Over the summer, when he didn't have to watch the kids (I'm a teacher, off all summer), I still never saw him or got to spend time with him. He was up out of bed and out the door every day, with rare exceptions. I'm tired of chasing after him for his attention like some little teenage girl chasing after a crush! I thought about telling him last night that I just give up, that he knows I want to just spend time with him and that if he doesn't want to spend time with me, that I'm not going to ask anymore and if HE ever decides that he wants to spend time with me, he knows where to find me. What do you guys think? ↑ |
| Name: To Angnes | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 6:29 PM |
You know Agnes here is something to concider. Ask him which of the stay at home parents (and he has to know some) leaves when the working parent comes home? And as a rule not the exception will they allways have the weekend mornings to sleep in and the weekend off? Where on earth did he get the idea this is stay at home parenting????? I'll bet you there wouldnt be one other stay at home parent (mom usually) in this forum who has the luxuery he is enjoying. Get him to list three. Bet he cant.
In a family out of the home wrok along with stay at home work does not end at 5:00pm. And runs 24-7 regardless of weather its mom or dad.
You might suggest before saying anything that you (if its at all possible) might like to give staying at home with the children a go. I am certain you could think of plenty of good reasons to accompany this proposal. Or depending on the situation tell him it would be best for the family if he entertained going back to work. Just be sure you have the sitter and dollars involved covered before hand. Now lets see his reaction on either avenue. My guess....he wont want either. Heck of a deal he has going right now. Should that be the end result....put your foot down and tell him if you have to work this hard with him you can work equally as hard without him. In other words buck up and smarten up or get out.
Yes I know you said he is a good cleaner uppper and all the rest. But so are a lot of other stay at home parents and they dont buzz off the second the mate is in the door. And I bet my life they dont get the weekend off as a rule. Be certain to asure him he will have no difficulty in being with the kids and having time with them. Suggest you live close to oneanother to help the children. Every Saturday or second Saturday you will be more than happy to drop the children at his doorstep bright and early ....so he can enjoy the day/weekend with them. Kind of puts a whole new spin and light on the prospect--to him I mean. Oh...than for sure he is going to be busy on the weekends and have a couple of weeks a month where he wont be buzzing off at 5:00pm.
Do it your way, girl....just some suggestions to get him to see where you are comming from and that this parenting thing doesnt stop on the clock according to his social accitivies. I tell you this, you will find out what is really running through his mind if you insist on finding out. And will see the reaction on his face being presented with any of the above. Work? Seperation....and HAVE TO GET INVOLVED WITH THE KIDS AFTER SCHOOL AND ON THE WEEKENDS TOO??????!!!! If that man doesnt get a wake up call using these tackticks than he never will and you need than to just except it. Sounds like you have difficulty accepting it already...?
Most important you know your husband...you know which buttons to push...but you must be prepared to willingly accept what you propose. If you are not matters will only become worse. So excercise caution and if any of what I have written is too risky for you ---ditch it now and move to a better solution.
I had a husband who though it was a done day when he got home. He was in for a huge surprise. I did tell him I would go back to work. "No problem though you need be prepared it could involve shift work". And when really picked with him and had quite enough of his behavior told him just exactley what I told you. "No problem, I can work this hard for my kids and myself...but an adult husband behaving and thinking like a teenager I didnt need". "Yup...you certinally can see the kids...its right on the top of my list. Your a good father to our children I would never take that from them...you bet weekends anytime you like I'll be there with bells on. No trouble at all."
I had a new husband and when he forgets...I gently remind him.
Good luck Agnes. ↑ |
| Name: ........ | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 12:15 PM |
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| Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 5:09 PM |
| 4:15 this morning, he's still not home. His sisters say he left hours ago and said he was headed home. He's wasn't answering the cell phone, so I decided to just leave a message and "Just let it all out". This morning I checked his messages, he never even listened to it. Now, I have to start all over again. Grrrrrrrrrrr ↑ |
| Name: cheryl | Date: Feb 7th, 2006 10:12 PM |
| Hey Natalie I totally relate. i too am tired alot. my husband isn't around to help that often. And even when he is home if i want to go to the store and get out for an hour or so I always end up hearing don't be going to long incase she gets fussy.....i am beast feeding but she also will take formula if she gets fussy i think he can handle it for an hour ↑ |
| Name: To xxxvvvxxx | Date: Feb 7th, 2006 11:06 PM |
| Hi amanda. Posting Again are we!???! ↑ |
| Name: xxxvvxxx | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 3:37 AM |
what are you talking about, whos amanda,
you got wrong person, this poor amanda chick seems to be getting blame for alot of things lately, ↑ |
| Name: xxxvvxxx | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 4:37 AM |
| I have yet to hear form anyone who has used the term "poor amanda" except for pitifull amanda. We know she cant produce a proper sentance (like yours) and puncuation is (like the way you ended the sentance, in your last post) all very amanda. And actually you signed your nickname last with three Vs' this time only two. Trouble with counting also. Right amanda! Oh no, I made no mistake in addressing you...just trying to keep up with the spelling of your nickname. Is it just one V next time or maybe, just dope a couple XXs' ? ↑ |
| Name: xxxvvvxxx | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 8:05 AM |
to the girl who is assuming because i used this nickname that possibly amanda has used, your very wrong, i dont know a amanda but i have seen on some other posts around that this amanda girl is not ver popular,
i dont know who you are, i really dont care if you dont believe me honestly, its quite funny though that im trying to convince to you that im not who you think i am all for a girl i dont know,
just coincedently i used this nickname as i didnt want to use my real name, lol
its too funny,
im in australia , lol dont tell me so is this amanda girl aswell, then ill really laugh!!!
my husband finds it funny too, its cool,, i dont want to argue over something so silly,
whatever this amanda girl did it must be pretty bad cause it has you stired up. ↑ |
| Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 4:41 PM |
| So today he comes in 2 hours AFTER I'm supposed to be at work. Anyone know what I can download divorce forms for free? ↑ |
| Name: Irene | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 5:16 PM |
Agnes hun, how are you?
im sorry your going through this , But you need to sit him down and ask him to come clean and be honest about everything hes doing, where he is etc,
it may not be nothing, well atleast i hope it isant, but you cant go on a day further without not knowing, and if he refuses to sit down and tell you anything, threaten to leave him, then im sure he will tell you,
im really sorry once again, if you need to chat with me you can by IM or email [email protected]
take care and i wish you well.
God bless xx ↑ |
| Name: Maxie | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 7:31 PM |
Hi Agnes I was the one who responed to you about "ask him to name three people who stay with there children and have it as good as him".
I get carried away sometimes and FIRED UP espically when people are treated poorly. My point...oh yeah..forgot to sign my name. I have been so busy the last couple of days that I havent checked to much on the board or email.
Anyway sorry. Irene is a wonderful lady I assure you. She has become a wonderful email chum to me and treasure our chats.
If you need couple of us to talk to I offer aswell. Slightly embarrassing to admit I had to help my husband grow...and ohhhhhh....it is sometimes ongoing...but he has many other wonderful qualities about him I just love. He has changed and yup I do so remind him once in a while. Thank goodness he snaps back up right away.
My email Agnes is [email protected]
Take care ↑ |
| Name: lili | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 12:23 AM |
Why should I bother preparing a meal only to have it eaten while watching the milionth rerun of king of Queens? I spend all day with the kids is it asking too much to have an actual conversation with my husband that does not go like this me: "how was your day?"
him: "okay, tiring"
me : " anything interesting happen?"
him: " no, I missed you"
me: " me too"
him: "I lovbe you" end of conversation. Am I wrong for feeling angry? I feel like I love him but lately I get angry at him for not getting it. ↑ |
| Name: E | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 2:38 AM |
| Not that I want to let a bad guy get away, but I'd like to make an analogy that may/may not help. I am staying at home with two toddlers. Often, when my husband comes through the door I feel like going out and away, away, away. I feel that I have an emotionally exhausting job that so many women here have moaned about. I know that my husband can take a break at his work when HE wants to take it, not when somebody's nap lets him to. If I had the nerve like Agnes' husband has, I would really dump the kids on him in the evenings - but I am staying and keeping working and let him rest - why, I don't sometimes know. ↑ |
| Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 3:44 AM |
| Whereas I see your point, I've been the stay-at-home Mom, too, and he just never came home at all then. Also, I don't get a bread whenever I feel like it at work. I never really get a break at all. Even lunch time is consumed with either typing or meetings. I really don't care that I am home with the kids in the evening, as I said I don't mind it. I just think that's not how a family works. ↑ |
| Name: To Lili | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 3:45 AM |
| Give him a TV dinner and tell him that's what goes with the TV. ↑ |
| Name: Mary | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 4:32 AM |
| I been feeling so down lately. Sometimes I feel that my husband dose not love me. That he only cares about having sex and its the only affection I get. If I tell him how I feel he sees it as me complaining. I have a three year old and a two month old and at the end of my day my body hurts so bad. All I want is for him to remember to say I love you and to be there. Dose any one else feel this way? ↑ |
| Name: E to Agnes | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 12:25 AM |
| Dear Agnes, your feelings are valid, there's definitely a problem with your dh and you know best. I was just letting my frustration out. ↑ |
| Name: lili | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 12:25 AM |
"Give him a TV dinner and tell him that's what goes with the TV. "
Lol! I love that I think I will do just that this week:-) ↑ |
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