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My best friend who was a stay at home mom recently got a great job and a nanny to look after the kids. I love my children and all, but I am kind of jealous! I want my own job and life too! My husband insists that I stay home for at least three more years, but I don't know if i can make it that long. Any suggestions on how to get my own life back? ↓
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| Name: Rena | Date: Jun 29th, 2005 8:12 PM |
| Believe me working full-time is no fun. I work full-time and my mom watches my son. My heart sinks everytime she shares one of those special moments with him when I'm around, because I wish I could be with him rather than rushing around trying to do basic things like grocery shopping. I feel like she's raising my son, instead of me. She spends ten hours a day with him (during his awake hours) and I only get three, and during those few hours I'm often running around to try to get things like laundry and cooking done. My husband and I hardly get a chance to have any fun on weekends either, because we're trying to get caught up on all the chores we couldn't get done during the week. Living this schedule has also put an enormous amount of pressure on my marriage. I am desparately trying to transition down to only part-time work. Working full-time seems like a great idea a first, but when you live in the chaos daily it starts to wear you and your spirit down. Maybe you could consider working part-time just to get out of the house and have some adult intereaction. There's also play groups, MOMs clubs, MOPs clubs, Mothers and More clubs, etc. Good luck! ↑ |
| Name: Julie | Date: Jun 29th, 2005 9:32 PM |
| If your husband "insists" that you stay home with the kids, you should maybe try to insist that he watch the kids once in a while, a couple hours on a weekend or something, while you go out with friends (shopping, lunch, whatever grown up stuff you want to do). I try to do that, probably only once or twice a month, but it really helps me be myself (and appreciate my husband and children more when the day is done). ↑ |
| Name: Janeice Wallers | Date: Jul 27th, 2005 10:21 PM |
| I think your husband is right. Stay home for at LEAST 3 more years. Your kids need you and you need them. Work will start to get in the way of your life, and your kids and its lots of stress to its not as fn as itseems accept the company you get and the friends you make there. Thats about it! So listen to your husband he'll love you even more for that and so will your kids, in 3 years look up the jobs in the paper and start your hard working hours. ↑ |
| Name: Linda | Date: Aug 10th, 2005 1:53 PM |
| I'm a stay at home mom as well. I didn't have a career before I had my baby, so it wasn't a big adjustment. I share your desire to get out and get your own life. At one point I did want to get a job, but I decided against it. The only person I would really want to watch my child is my mother-in-law, but familiarity breeds contempt, if you know what I mean. When my husband is home, or I can get someone to watch my child, I run errands and take a little extra time to find me again. It's so easy to lose sight of who you are and what you want when you're busy caring for your children. I can tell you this, I know most moms that work outside of the home, miss alot of their childrens milestones, and are probably jealous of those of us that are fortunate enough to at home and see those first smiles and giggles. These precious first few years go by so fast, and only happen once, so don't be in such a rush. Enjoy your children while you can. Good luck, and I hope this helped! ↑ |
| Name: melody | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 6:04 PM |
| After deciding to leave my job and stay home....the first thing I lost were my friends...and that hurt. At home I get to accomplish all, well I try to, the things that I put off with my children when I worked. I do more with them(parties are done with planning, more enjoyable) wouldn't ever want to trade that in. My husband and I talk way more, no more we'll talk later. Even though my teenagers are not home with me all the time, I know exactly where to find them. There are times I wish that I could split right down the middle..Lol......One half to stay home and give my family the best of everything....the other half out there doing what I want to do....I guess its ok to be a little jealous of your friends/I am too at times( just a little) ↑ |
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