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Name: Heather
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I am a single mom of three and my oldest is 8. He is severly ADHD and has been on several different meds and is currently on the Daytrana patch but the lowest dosage. Today I get ANOTHER call from the school and I dont know what to do. Today it's a lighter at school, he's already been suspended from the bus 3 times, this time for the semester. He is mean to his brother and sister, 3 and 2, and we fight, constantly. He refuses to do his homework. He refuses to read like he's supposed to. He tells me that I love tha babies more than I do him and that we NEVER do anything together. I remind him of his love for video games and cartoons, then he stops. He walks on the counter and home and knocks the stuff off the ceiling and won't clean it up, to which his Dr. tells me that we need to get his ADHD under control before we can worry about this. So I say, "GET IT UNDER CONTROL!!" I'm losing my hair. I work 50+ hrs a week to go home and clean for an hour a night plus cook and clean up from that, fight over his homework before I finally give up. Yes, I said give up. He wins, I can't. He has control, I don't. What do I do?
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Name: Andme | Date: Nov 26th, 2008 11:17 PM
I have the same boy has you. I finely lost it and punch the crap out of him while screaming foul language at him. Smash his toys and destroyed his wii. He has behaved great now for the last 2 week . I have told him I will do it again and the only way to stop me is to run to your room keep your mouth shut and let me carm down and if you don't care . I will wreck you ripstick and bash you with it. Where every day was a nightmare. I was thinking of suicide if it wasn't for the other 3 kid I properly would have. Cruel to be kind old days. What every one told me to do long time ago. 

Name: cinstear | Date: Nov 30th, 2008 7:37 PM
I also have an eight year old son who has ADHD. He doesn't currently take any drugs. My husband and I tried two different drugs but my son had some weird side effects which led us to take him off of the drugs. About two weeks ago, we started a new diet with our son with the VAXA product Attend. The first couple of days, he did really good. He is on a high protein/low carb diet and we give him a protein shake after he gets home from school each day. The products seem to help him while at school, but when he is at home he is still having a difficult time with him temper tantrums especially after playing video games or watching television. My husband and I have come close to losing it with him because he is always sooooo defiant. He thinks it is his way or thats it. Do you have any suggestions? We have taken away his Nitendo DS and he loses television and other video games on a daily basis. Let me know if you have any suggestions! 

Name: Paige | Date: Jan 24th, 2009 10:16 PM
Ok That is somthing not the way to handle it andme! You should not even scream foul langauge to him or he will start saying it and then you will beat him more i just think you need to straigh him up some more and try to have a better aditude! Like and that is not a good example for when he is older, Cuz when he is older he will want to do what you are doing rong.....
Paige 

Name: in the same boat | Date: Jan 26th, 2009 7:31 AM
How to behave so your child will !!
You need to get help before you destroy your child!!! protective service anyone??? 

Name: maia | Date: Mar 14th, 2009 8:17 PM
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Name: maia | Date: Mar 14th, 2009 8:20 PM
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Name: donna | Date: Mar 23rd, 2009 1:11 PM
Hi, I give up to !!!! thee now sorry, i know thats probally not e answer you were hoping for but i have had enough. I go through exactly the same,and my sons ADHA is suposudly under control! hes 14 years old ad a living nightmare. The whole house revolves around him , and what he wants, can honestly say its like having an overgrown 3 year old in the house. i have to suprvise him consantly. clean upo ater him, remind him to put pj's on and brush teeth efore bed and intervien with him fighting wit his siblings. He has beenwith my know all sister for the last 5 months, because she thought she could do better!!! well she couldent and he drove hr to the depths of dispair my problem now is my very quiet relaxed home has instantly turned in to a war zone nd im exhausted. so if it helps to know theres some one else going through it there is. sorry i cant help but i do undestand how hard it is. Donna x 

Name: melany | Date: Apr 10th, 2009 1:30 PM
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Name: tina | Date: Apr 16th, 2009 8:03 PM
i have an 8yr old also with adhd, im so glad i found this chat site. i totally understand what your saying. its so hard to keep boundries and keep up with all the things that go along with it. 

Name: green | Date: Apr 16th, 2009 11:21 PM
girl i understand what ur going though iam a single mother of 4 three boys and 1 baby girl ages 15 14 11 n my 11 year has add adhd bipolor suicidal manicdepressant occ n a horder and on top of that he just started havin suto sezier n he runs away he has has 6 differnt med they dont help he stressin everone out his own brother dont like him iam tryin 2 hold my family 2gether but it anit workin n iam allways the bad guy 

Name: phyllis | Date: Apr 17th, 2009 4:29 AM
god i feel for you i know its hard but you will soon see the silver/better liner. my son cried for 13months i wasa done, i had rashes i was exhausted just remember how much you lovew him, clean less, eat lite dinners give yourself a break you can not do it alone 

Name: Kelly | Date: Apr 18th, 2009 12:33 PM
I have a 9 yr old with ADHD who has destroyed my spirit and at times my will to live. He is entitled, demanding, defiant and has no friends. He is extremely unlikeable and has alienated just about everyone.
He is an only child and is medicated. When meds wear off he is abusive and impossible to live with.
We have tried groups, therapy, social skills training and none of it worked. Having a child like him is a life sentence - I think it would be easier to have a child with a purely physical illness. 

Name: MATTHEW | Date: Apr 27th, 2009 3:25 AM
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Name: MATTHEW | Date: Apr 27th, 2009 3:30 AM
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Name: trasca | Date: Apr 28th, 2009 1:16 PM
Hi firstly can I ask where all you guys and girls are located? I am in australia and can I tell you it does get better ....oh wait for it you are all saying are you crazy. well my son is now 16yrs old and the penny will drop at some stage. he was diagnosed with adhd ,a learning disorder and ocd. he was on meds off meds and now has been off them for a good 3years and we have worked through it. yes I have all the same complaints, as you guys,all the same advise,professionals,doctors ,shrinks you name we tried it and nothing really worked for him not even the meds that much.he has been kicked out of a few schools and suspended hundreds well a number of times.had no friends never went to any birthday partys no one liked except me of course and contributed to a marriage split. but I have got through it with him,it hasn't gone away of course as I have told him he will have to live wth this forever but be able to control it in time and now he does and I love him to death. lucky I didn't kick him out when he was 5yrs old like I wanted to LOL. look please feel free to response back I would love to hear more. oh and by the way he's something for you all to chew on I have been remarried and have another child who is now 6 years old and what do you think I am going to tell you yep here I go again but they seem to make them smarter as the years go on and this one has me puzzled.possible diagnoses coming up also he has TICS to go with it.talk soon 

Name: Chante | Date: Apr 29th, 2009 1:35 AM
Heather, I don't know what state you live in, but there are programs that can help you and your son. Please understand that he doesnít want to act this way, and he probably wouldnít if he knew how to control this. Check with your local health department or Children Services to see if your state has some sort of counseling services for children with your son's needs. I am an adult with ADHD and I also have a 6 year old son with ADHD. I can tell you from experience, and as someone who is studying to work in the Mental Health field, Medication is very important, because itís taking care of the chemical issue, but behavior therapy is also a very important tool, in helping him learn how to behave now that his thinking is more clear, so to speak. This has helped me tremendously, and we are just getting my son started. You might also want to do some research on Neurofeedback, and see what you think about that, as well. I have not yet used it, but as soon as my son is a little older, depending on the results from the behavior therapy, it is something I intend to look into. As far as the Meds are concerned, donít be afraid if the doctor tries him on a few different types. Unfortunately, there is no one size fits all, these problems are complex and they donít have any other way to see what works best for his situation, but trial and error. As long as you have a great doctor, and experienced doctor that is closely monitoring him, then give him the chance to find whatís going to work for him. Good Luck and hang in there. And please understand that beating a child to a pulp and destroying their belongings only teaches them to use violence and intimidation to get what they want. Not a real effective way to deal with these sort of kids. 

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Name: kirralee | Date: Jun 7th, 2009 8:26 AM
if he doesn't do what you say tell him he will go to bed with out dinner. If he thinks you love the babys more then him prove to him you love him the same. Yo just need to do something he like and do it with him. Force him to clean it up or put him in the coner. And dont yell at him. 

Name: kirralee | Date: Jun 7th, 2009 8:28 AM
hey umm... Andme do you realy punch him? 

Name: kirralee | Date: Jun 7th, 2009 8:30 AM
hey Donna are you from Niebers 

Name: leanna | Date: Jun 10th, 2009 4:15 PM
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Name: hannha | Date: Jun 12th, 2009 5:46 AM
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Name: samantha | Date: Jun 17th, 2009 6:16 PM
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Name: Tanisha | Date: Jul 2nd, 2009 8:41 PM
sorry but if my son had the same problem i would send to his bedroom 

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