| Name: Ann | Date: May 31st, 2006 8:30 PM |
| You should be happy susan that your mother buys all your stuff for you i think wearing big pants is a small price to pay are your other skirts and geans fashionable? is your hairstyle nice? think about it ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: May 31st, 2006 8:46 PM |
| My mother likes me in a dress best so i have a lot of them she does not like jeans my hair is to short i dont like it ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jun 1st, 2006 9:57 PM |
She makes you cut your hair???
You need to get out! Can't you see your dad? Haven't you got any other relatives that you can go and live with?
She is interfering with all of your personal space!
Try to stand up to her! I don't know how though. I'll try to think of what you should say to her. ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jun 2nd, 2006 3:47 PM |
| Hello Fiona yes she has my hair cut to the style she likes. My dad left 10 yers ago and i dont know were he is. My mother has a sister but she is just as bad] Please help but not these daft ideas that others are sugesting thanks i think you understand ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jun 2nd, 2006 10:26 PM |
| I am not a loser You are just trying to be old before your time plus your parents let you have anything you want I think you are spoilt rotten and real lucky ↑ |
| Name: Shauna | Date: Jun 2nd, 2006 10:51 PM |
| Michelle. If you are truely 11 and your parents buy you those type of things and they like them they have something seriously wrong with them. No parent should "like" their 11 year old in a bikini. And just because your parents like the idea of a child molester or closet case pedofile looking at their child. You are the pefect example of a potential child rape case. Kids do not wear thongs. Kids do not wear belly shirts and mini-skirts. If you can't even spell 'school' correctly you have no business wear adult clothes. Save them for the grown ups. And your parents need to stop being friends and start acting like parents before you end up just another child rape case on the news. ↑ |
| Name: kelly | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 12:33 AM |
Susan, I have to agree with Michelle, even though she spent more time trying to make you jelous than anything else. Your mum needs to get a grip. For christs sake, why do you let her do this? she is inading your personal space. Just go comando (no underwear) or cut it all up so she has to buy you new ones and keep doing the same until she finally gets the point. I think you and your sister need to do it together. Why the hell does she check your underwear. Is she one of those over-religious idiots? Have you tried talking to her?
Shauna, an 11 year old in a bikini is normal, why are you making a big deal? 5 year olds have them so whats the problem with an 11 year old? What planet do you live on? Belly tops and mini-skirts are fine at any age as long as they are not worn together. Are you a mum? Well to be honest I feel sorry for your kids if you are. Also thongs are fine, even though they are going ut of fashion now, lol, french knickers are the new thing, so now (im 16) thats mostly what I wear apart from with toght trousers. There is nothing wrong with an 11 year old having all that, its normal in the west. Parents need to be friends as well as 'parents' as you put it. Otherwise the only respect they have for you is out of fear, whilst parents that have a balance of the 2 have respect but because they love their parents for the way they RESPECT them back. When I lost my virginity, I told my mum the next day, she told me I was too young, about STD's etc and then showed me how to put on a condom properly and asked me if I wanted to go on the pill coz as she rightly said she CANT stop me coz you can have sex anywhere and anytime of the day if you really want to. What would you do in that situation as a parent? Hit your teenage daughter? As am I guessing thats probs what you'd do so your daughter knowing that would be SCARED to tell you. That isnt a mother/daughter relationship thats dictator/slave. I feel sorry for your kids, and for you most of all coz they DONT/WONT trust you. ↑ |
| Name: Shauna | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 2:15 AM |
| Kelyy, the problem is that unless your parents are perverted, they do not "like" their little girls in bikinis. 5 year old are not developing breast or starting periods. 5 year old s are not in the in between state or child/young adults. Yes I am a mom and I have 2 boys. I live on Earth, thank you for the childish comment. Maybe if you decide to grow up, when you have children you will not want them to dress that way. Mini-skirts, belly shirts are meant to be sexy. Little kids should not be sexy to anyone. Until you have kids you have no voice in how to raise them. Until you pay attention to the news and just how often these little girls who are trying to act older are getting raped and pregnant and abducted and killed. Ask any mature mom. I see no problems with what my kids will want to wear but 11 year olds in thongs is creepy. And any parent who tells you they LIKE their CHILD in mini skirts and bikinis should have their heads examined. BTW, when you learn how to type properly you can pass judgement because I have been there. I'm 18 years old, so I KNOW how young kids want to dress and I wanted to dress that way, too. THEN I GREW UP. ↑ |
| Name: Shauna | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 2:17 AM |
| BTW, my 2 year old was "helping" me type so there are probably some errors on there. ↑ |
| Name: Jane | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 6:41 AM |
| My daughter wears full size pants and she is 12 yrs old its stupid to dress young girls in adult underwear and mini skirts etc you give out the wrong message.I must say susan its time you sorted your life out your mother has gone to far the other way. ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 4:04 PM |
| Hi Kelly yes my mother is religious but if I cut up my undercloths she will punish me and just buy more they could be bigger!!! ↑ |
| Name: kelly | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 6:28 PM |
| how will she punish you? what about the idea of wearing no underwear? what does your sis think about it all? ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 7:06 PM |
Susan - your options at the moment are fairly limited I think.
You can:
a) Stand up to her and rebel like mad - face the consequences - remind her that other teens are ten times as bad and into drugs, alcohol, sex etc.....remind her that she's really lucky that you're not like this and that she should be respectful of you!
b) Comply with her 'orders' and just get on with it - allow yourself to be controlled and dominated and eventually succumb to her bullying by losing all your confidence and self-esteem.
c) Go and live somewhere else - look up your dad or live with another relative.
d) Get somebody to have a word with her and try to get her to back off and allow you some self-expression and independence.
e) Try to ignore her and get on with your life as best you can. Do well at school and make plans to get out. See as much of your friends as you can and try to just live with the pants thing - it's not going to affect you for the rest of your life after all. I was forced to tolerate my mothers' behaviour until I was old enough to 'escape'. It's hard, but just try to see it as somewhere to live, food, place to study etc for the time being. She's the one who's going to lose out by her attempts to control people. Control freaks generally end up by spending their lives alone! She should have more respect for you, but it's unlikely that you're going to be able to change her - you could try explaining your feelings to her - see what she says. We can't choose our parents and there is no 'magic wand' that anybody can wave in order to make your life easier.
Look to the future and a time when you can live your own life and call the shots.......Oh, and choose your own clothes and hairstyle! ↑ |
| Name: Shauna | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 9:55 PM |
| BTW, what personal ad are you taling about? The only place I have posted is in this forum and I have no reason to post an ad about anything. ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jun 4th, 2006 5:53 PM |
| Hi kelly my mother will punish me by spanking I expect that is what she has done in the past thats why I dont want to risk cutting up my pants or not wearing any.I think your ideas are good Fiona I will do good at school and then maybe escape!! Thanks to you both its good to talk about it all. ↑ |
| Name: Sally | Date: Jun 4th, 2006 6:59 PM |
| I dont understand how could your mother spank you arnt you the same size why dont you fight her you should not be getting spanked at 15 you sould leave NOW!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jun 4th, 2006 9:31 PM |
| My sister helped my mother last time Sally so I know it can happen again its just not worth the risk.Im not worried I wont do any thing to agrivate the situation but thanks for thinking about me.I think you have the best plan Fiona just put up with it and then leave after school is finished.I just have to make sure I dont loose all my confidence but it is difficult.I suppose im really scared of them both you are right Fiona there is no magic wand. ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jun 4th, 2006 10:05 PM |
Just try to live your own life and keep out of their way. Don't let them affect your confidence! I used to tell myself that it was my mother who was sick (in the head) and I wasn't a bad or stupid person. They drag you down if you let them! I used to spend my time seeing friends, doing homework, playing music, reading and just keeping myself to myself. Try to keep as much autonomy in your life as you can.
Try to see your friends - they will keep you feeling optimistic. Don't get in with a bad crowd though and NEVER turn to drugs or alcohol for comfort or to give you a sense of false confidence.
Time soon passes anyway and before you know it you'll be raising your own kids! Arghhh!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Sally | Date: Jun 5th, 2006 5:12 PM |
| Why did your mother spank you was it a long time ago if it was then you could try and rebel a bit you just cant let them win every time.I think Fiona talkes a lot of sence she has gone through it herself but I still think you could fight back. What have you got to loose a sore but for a while. ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jun 5th, 2006 8:16 PM |
Sally - it's very hard to stand up to a parent who is controlling and bullying you. You have to live with them and it's usually easier to keep quiet and keep them happy. It is good to fight back, but usually not worth the bother as this type of parent goes into 'hyperdrive' if you stand up to them.
Mine used to throw glass objects at me if I so much as answered her back when I was in my 20's!!!!!! She was a real nut!
It's usually best to just humour them and let them think that you're complying with what they want whilst living your own life and maintaining your self-esteem and independence any way you can.
The chances are that the mother is not going to change her views and will persist in her controlling behaviour regardless of any rebellion on the part of Susan.
Parents are one of those things that you're stuck with until you can make your own living or go away to college or something.
Just:
Don't take drugs
Don't break the law
Don't get pregnant
Don't drink lots of alcohol
Lots of young people do these things as they think it's cool and rebellious - it's not, it's just stupid and will mess you life up good-style. I worked hard at college and became a nurse and escaped when I was 24. ↑ |
| Name: ;o) | Date: Jun 5th, 2006 8:44 PM |
| If you carry a backpack or purse put underwear you want to wear in there and change after you leave and before you come home. Wash them out in the sink and hang them somewhere like in the back of a closet or put them in front of a fan to dry them. ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jun 5th, 2006 10:20 PM |
| Hi sally my mother spanked me 2 months ago for hitting my cousin she is 9 and swearing at my aunt and her my mother punished me in front of both my cousins aunt and my sister helped her it was very very humiliating it is something you never want to happen again so I wont be pushing my luck by any rebelling.My cousins will never let me forget it I blush still when they call round. Thanks Fiona I dont do drugs or booze and no sex I dont have a boy friend but I work hard at school and then I will Go but you are right it is hard. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Jun 6th, 2006 5:23 PM |
| Hang in there a little while longer Susan,once you're 18 you can leave and never look back if you don't want and live life the way YOU want!! ↑ |
| Name: Sally | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 3:50 PM |
| I am sorry Susan I did not know how bad it was for you please forgive my flippant comments hope you get away ok. ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 10:02 PM |
| Thats ok sally yes it was bad my mother reduced me from a 15 yr old to a 5 yr old in a few seconds but I have learned from that humiliating lesson and I will make every effort not to let her have that chance again. ↑ |
| Name: helen | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 5:31 PM |
| what do they do make you pull dress up when you go out im 65 when i was 20 when i went on a date i had to were a panty girdle just befoer my date came mom would take me to my room and i had to lift my skirt if i was not wereing a panties girdle i would be spanked and put to bed ↑ |
| Name: someone | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 10:18 PM |
| OMFG are u ppl listening to urselves letting ur parents rule ur lives i have NEVER let my parents have any say in what i wear or how i look that just isnt right take a stand ppl dont let ur moms take over ur life completly. ↑ |
| Name: someone | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 10:21 PM |
| also one day when ur mom and sister are going to check u dont be wearing anything i know its a BIG deal but just do it and tell them ur fead up with it dont let other ppl control UR life. ↑ |
| Name: karen | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 11:42 PM |
| hi sue im 21 and my mom makes me ware a panty-girdel when i go on a date and when i get home mom makes me lift my dress and she will spank me if im not wereing it i got one more year of school so i can not leave home yet, its hell beeing 21 and still getting a spanking ↑ |
| Name: chris | Date: Jul 19th, 2006 9:49 PM |
well, if you dislike full briefs that much , when you go out just change in a public restroom, and go without panties and wear something tight to show off your ass (i bet that will get you a lot of attention) just put them back on before u go home.
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 9:38 PM |
| Thanks chris but I dont want to take the risk of my mother finding out she has already demonstrated to me she can humiliate me big time so im just going to keep wearing the big pants at least its not pantygirdles like some have to wear thanks. ↑ |
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