| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 9:04 PM |
I too am a stay at home mom. I have a 2 year old and currantly pregnant. I have been watching my sister son while she is at work and have asked her several times that if she plans on doing something after work or if for some reason he's not coming over to let me know since I plan my schedule around him. One day her boyfriend drops off her son and tells me at 2:30PM that my sister is planning on going tanning after work. So I started complaining. He looks at me and has the guts to say, "What do you have something to." He made it sound as if it is my job to let them know what my schedule is. I went off. I was like sure I might be a stay at home mom but that doesn't mean that I stay at home all day. Regardless of whether or not I have something planned is non of their business because I'm doing them the favor not the other way around.
Then there is my husband who likes to throw in my face every now and then that he works at least 10 to 12 hours a day and all I do is stay at home. I remind him that he leave the house for 10 to 12 hours a day to do 1 job but I work around the clock not only taken care of his son but also taken care of the house. There is no way that my husband would ever be able to do what I do, he doesn even have patients for him for the little time he actaully does spend with out son.
I have come to the decision that people assume that being a stay-at-home mom/dad is nothing for several reason. 1) They simply do not know what is involved with being a stay at home parent. I would love to be able to sit down and finish at least one show but if my son is napping I am cleaning or doing something iwth the house. 2) They themselve want to be a stay at home parent but for whatever reason just are not able to.
It is what it is. As a stay-at-home mom I know what I do all day and it's not sitting around watching TV and eating while my son sits on the floor playing. If I did that my house would look like a junk yard. So I say let them say what they want. Lucky for me, besides my husband, I am surrounded by people who tell me that they wish they could do what I do and others who give me credit because they know they could never be a stay at home parent. ↑ |
| Name: neika | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 6:08 AM |
Hi Ethans
I totally agree with u, people always tends to believe, we have nothing to do, yet they pay someone to do the same work, we r at home doing, and sometimes trying to do, I cannot count the times I have the house spick and span, and went to the kitchen or bathroom for sime minutes, and wonder when I return, how could a 3 year old alone makes so much mess, in a short while...
You know what i hate the most, is when the phone rings more than 2 times, before i answered it, i always get this response, ..what were u doing..sleeping?...why oh why..but then again why bother..they believe we r old school, so nothing we say can will really makes sense..Lets just keep on doing what we r doing ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 1:26 PM |
Too Neika- I love it that is so funny. Are you sleeping. HAHAHa
THEN IF YOU HAPPEN TO SLIP IN A NAP YOU TRY AND ACT LIKE YOU WERE NOT SLEEPING.THAT IS SO FUNNY. ↑ |
| Name: Letstalk | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 8:53 PM |
| I love your attitude!! I am a mom that works outside of the home, but have always wanted to stay home with my children. I believe that staying home is the best and hardest job that anyone can choose: mom or dad!! I really commend all stay at home moms (dads) for the work, and I mean WORK that they do!!!! ↑ |
| Name: overworkedmomx3 | Date: Sep 12th, 2007 2:20 AM |
| I stay at home too with three boys three and under. Everyone tells me what I do is important and then do all they can to heap more work on me. What, do they think all I do is sit and watch soap operas and eat bon bons?! From 7 am until 8:30 pm all I do is care for my childeren, my husband, and my home. And now my husband is out of town and has the audacity to tell me that I will be taking night duty for a couple of days after he gets back with our 5 month old. Like he's not just coming back from a paid vacation to Las Vegas( his words not mine)! Right now I'm exhausted! Oh well, I wouldn't do anything else but be a stay at home mom. ↑ |
| Name: KimmyK | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 3:30 PM |
| I think staying at home is a great choice for a career.I say carrer because it is our everyday job and honestly, in my house I work 7 days a week not just five like most.I have a sister in law, that constantly makes remarks how useless staying at home is and how stay at home moms do nothing.Her husbands mother, my husbands mom also, stayed at home with six kids and is still staying at home with her 4th grader.Honestly I do second guess staying home, even though I know it is great for the kids. ↑ |
| Name: Ivory | Date: Apr 29th, 2008 11:18 PM |
| I totaly agree with you hannah I do have a question for every one though if your husband made money other than from him regular job i mean above 100.00 should he be able to spend it any way he wants and not have to ask just tell you about and also state that you have no right to that money cause you didnt make it and if you want money to spend any way you want to get a job ↑ |
| Name: PColaC | Date: Oct 29th, 2008 1:03 AM |
| Good for you Hannah!! Don't let some rudeness get you down...Being a good neighbor doesn't include being a personal nanny!! I am sorry you even had to experience that! ↑ |
| Name: lovely22 | Date: Feb 13th, 2009 5:26 AM |
I can relate to all of you ladies...I am 27 got married at 21 had first child at 23 ans second at 25 been at home for 5 years now with no family or support system. I love my kids God knows that i can see my life without them but I gotta say that I feel so lonely sometimes. It's a very draining job in all aspects. I am always tired on my hubby never undertsand why. personally i don't care what people think about me being SHM I gotta admit that i used too but now I am just sick nad tired of what they think of me. Until they find themselves in my situation, they will never understand what we go though on a daly bases. We have literally sacrified our lives for our childern if no one can see that has something beautiful and brave than we have nothing to say to them. Just between you an i I truly beleive that the government should cut us a check for working this hard maybe then people will give us more respect for what we done. I know we are doing this for our kids' sake but but we deserve Not a reward but a recognition that what we do is priceless. Me personally I am not going to pretend or lie to you but I don't know who i am anymore, I feel invaluable, tired you name it. The hardest part in all this is to not know who i am anymore, what i want or what i wanna be. If only our husband could give us more credit, help more, be more supportive, encouraging and appriciate us and all we do i am sure it would help tromendously. All i know no matter where I go to get a break from my hectic life, at the end of the day all I wanna do is to see my kids. It funny because way may complain as much as we want but there the best thing that could ever happen to us. when I think of how far some peoplee go just tu get pregnant or have at least one child, i know not to complain and appriciate the blessings the Lord has given me. I am a big believe and i know there is a time for everything, This is not my time but my kids' I will try to make the most of it because when my time comes I won't have tha opportunity to see them as much as i do know. So congrats and big up to you all. This a very tough journey but it's for the best.
Love you all ↑ |
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