| Name: Lee | Date: Jun 6th, 2006 12:02 PM |
| Yes, Jennifer, you are absolutely 100% correct. So this forum should be for the working Moms and the non-working Moms to congregate and talk about our great moments, experiences and accomplishments with our children. Don't you all agree? And thank you, Jennifer, by the way.:) ↑ |
| Name: wilsavanamom | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 2:59 PM |
| This is Jennifer again, posting a reply under my user name now. It seems like every day there is a new thread here about the debate over working moms vs stay at home. I think this debate is sooo overdone and out dated! We all know the pros and cons. Mothers will continue to work or stay at home - some not by choice and some because it is what makes them feel happy, fullfilled and satisfied in life (which makes you a better mom either way). I am happy to live in a country and culture that lets me choose! I think with all the other issues are children are faced with today - sexual predators, drugs, peer pressure etc we should all give this whole working mom vs stay at home mom debate a rest and concentrate our efforts and support towards one another for bigger issues - like our childrens safety and well being. I was a little shock and a lot discouraged to even see two forums here regarding working vs stay at home. It just fuels the fire. I think they should do away with them and have one forum for "General Discussion". ↑ |
| Name: angel of mine 2006 | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 9:05 PM |
| The only reason why I would look down the nose of a stay at home mom is when stay at home moms gripe and complain about how tired they are at the end of the day....ummm HELLO!? MOST working mothers actually go to work for 40+ hours a week AND do everything a stay at home mom does...so who deserves more credit? The mom who watches soaps and doesnt miss an episode of oprah or the mother that works for a living...is independant and takes care of kids and a a house? The choice is yours ↑ |
| Name: Jannine | Date: Jun 11th, 2006 6:10 PM |
Hi,
I'm new but I actually came to this site looking for tips on this very topic. I live in a community in which a slight majority of the Moms are "stay at home" - I'm not. And, this is not a "choice" this is economics for me. My husband has MS - not working is not an option - my husband has no income and has been denied disabiliy (3 times - yes we have a lawyer and are fighting it - it is so bad that we are filing bankruptcy since my dh has been out of work since October 2004). However, in this community virtually ALL activities are geared to the "stay at home" parents' convenience. Since the school system relies on them for volunteer efforts during the school week, they pander to it. So, the PTG is run by "stay at home" Mom's. And truthfully, I'd be ok with this. Afterall they do more. But, in this case they are very vocal about how much they do and how little we who in their opinion "choose to work" do. I've tried to bridge the gap, not judging them on the fact that they are fortunate enough to be given a choice in the matter, only to be repeatedly given lectures about my lack of priorities. Can anyone offer any ideas on ways to cut this off at the pass and get to the subject at hand of wanting to be involved whenever possible? I'd love to start a healthy dialogue. I'd love to be friends. I DON'T judge them. I truly wish that my economic situation were different. But, it's not. That does not change the fact that we share a common bond of our children and would it really kill them to bend a little with play dates, PTG meetings, and volunteer options? Thanks in advance.
Jannine ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 10:02 PM |
Okay regardless of whether someone has witness a stay-at-home mother sitting on her butt all day, sending her kid or kids into their room, who never take their kids outside to see the light of day does not give anyone the right to steroe type every stay at home mom.
I am a stay-at-home mom and wish that I would have an hour to myself but unfortunately unless it 3AM in the morning and I am still away this wishfull hoping just isn't happening. Not only do I have to take care of my house but I also have to take care of son. Unless he is sick we are usually outside either in the back yard, at the park or some place else. If it's a nice day then during naptime (if I'm lucky and he takes one) I can then take some time by myself to clean the house without having to clean around him. Then when my husband comes home we have our family time. 9PM come, my son goes to bed and my husband and I have our time.
Yeah some stay-at-home mom are not good mothers but some working mom are not good mothers. Staying at home or going to work does not make you a good mother.
You know what this is. This is the same steroe typing that goes on in the world in all different areas. If your islamic or muslim you should be feared because of 9/11. If your black you should be feared because you might just rob me. Don't you think that this is starting to just get a little childish. Don't judge me based on one bad experience you might have witnessed or been a part of. One person does not make the world. ↑ |
| Name: LisaB | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 3:34 AM |
Just Wondering - if it's any consolation, I am jealous of work/stay at home Mom's. I have worked full time plus, since my daughter was 5 weeks old. I still work full time and now have started my own business in hopes of kissing the 7:30-4:00 good-bye.
So - like I said, I definitely don't look down on you - but am terribly jealous!
I guess I didn't even think about those Mom's that stay at home and DON'T play an integral role in their child's upbringing. I have had experiences with my child's school in that only the Mom's that could come in a read to, or be read to, were able to go on the class field trip. Not only am I disheartened by not being able to be at home for my daughter, but slap me in the face again, by not even giving us working Mom's a chance to accompany our kids on a field trip.
I lucked out (although the reason wasn't all that pleasant) because one little boy threw up on the bus, so I actually got to go into the play in place of waiting in the lobby.....
Not having a pity party for myself - just stating the facts.... ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 8:03 PM |
| All I have to say is RIGHT ON ETHANSMOM!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 9:04 PM |
| I agree with Ethans mom as well! ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 11:03 PM |
| Name: Julia | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 11:28 PM |
| Me too, me too, ethansmom is absolutley correct, well written girlie! ;) ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 7:22 PM |
| Andrea, are you sure you are not just thinking that people are looking down on you? That maybee you feel you should or could have done more with your life. I am not saying this to be wise. Just that perhaps you may feel that your not contributing enouph, or you feel less than those who do work. I have not worked for 20 years because I had a disabled child. I thaught that it would be in my childs best intrest if I stayed at home with her. My husband is a buisness man who whears the suit every day and attends meetings all the time. You know all that buisness stuff! To some he may seem like a very important person. At certaint times of the year his firm will have dinners and gatherings that we will attend. There are wives and husbands, they all have diffrent kinds of lives. But almost always in any conversation the question.... what do you do for work ? will arise. Because most of the people I meet do work I feel like I am less important than they are. I know it is'nt true but that is how I feel. So my point is do you think it is possible that you may be miss inturpating a simple question for an attitudes? ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 7:33 PM |
| Ohhh Yaaaa I didnt mention! I have since got rid of that notion that working people are more important than me. They are just luckie enouph to be able to have another life aside from thier home life. ↑ |
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