| Name: ranger 2 | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 5:07 AM |
| No Ashlley you are far to young to go and have a baby. Enjoy your life and get a good education b4 having chn.I agree with Christina do baby sitting first. Raising a child is hard work.I am 31 & have just had my first. ↑ |
| Name: flavors | Date: Jul 1st, 2006 2:14 AM |
| Ashlley: I haven't had time to read all of the responses here, but here's my opinion - please for the love of God DON'T DO IT. I'm 34 and have a 13 year old daughter, a 22 month old baby and I'm pregnant again. My 13 year old was born just after my 21st birthday and although I wouldn't trade her for the world, I have to tell you...IT WAS HARD. You haven't gone through any of your "teen years" yet and trust me when I tell you - that' s going to be hard enough without throwing in a baby (who is a full time job) into the mix. You will find it extremely difficult to finish high school (and what about college - do you plan to work at McDonalds all of your life?), plus you'll miss out on all the fun things that your teen years provide (all the parties, the friends, get togethers, etc.). You will have to get a job to support you and your baby and pay for babysitters, oh darling...you have NO CLUE what you're in for if you consider having a baby right now. My 13 year old loves her little sister to death, but she can't handle her for more than 10 minutes at a time. My little one doesn't see big sis all day long (because she's in school), so when we pick her up from school, little one wants to be all over her, meanwhile, all big sis wants is a little space and time alone. My 13 year old has that option (space and a little time alone) - you won't, because you won't be the big sis - you'll be the MOM. I read someone else give you the advice of babysitting first...PLEASE TAKE THAT ADVICE!! ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 2:58 AM |
I would not only suggest babysitting, but also read up on it... i'm really young and trying for a baby - but i at least waited until i could provide the basics no matter what the situation was (and got married first! very important)
Some things to think about are colic which means a crying baby, non-stop, no matter what you do, for literally 6 hours at a time day or night
birth defects (what if your child needs a special pre-school, medication, surgery, is premature, is mentally retarded or has a disability?) there is abosolutely no way you could pay for the medical care for things like that at 13. You would almost definitly have to give the child up (either for adoption or to a family member), in any of those cases.
Besides all that, your school will almost definitly force you to go to alternative school. They frown on the disruption of pregnant students and will do whatever they can to kick you out. Plus, your friends may think it's a great idea and be excited now, but they will only think that a baby is fun for about an hour each - trust me, after the baby shower you'll probably see them 1 more time ever, if you're lucky, and then you'll be all by your lonesome until everybody your age catches up (at around age 25 or 26) and has something in common with you again and by that time you will have completely lost touch with them.
No matter what your boyfriend says - chances are he isn't going to marry you. Actually, by the time you read this you guys have probably already broken up. I only know 1 couple (out of hundreds) that got engaged before graduating highschool that actually got married. Engaged in Junior High? absolutely none. Doesn't happen.
And the last reason - working SUCKS! when i moved out on my own at 15 ( i had already completed highschool) it was horrible. paying bills and rent and working enough hours to do all that was hell. At 14 the amount of hours you'd have to work (because you WILL make minimum wage - which is nothing) to support yourself and a baby (including all the daycare) would be insane. At least two jobs, if not three. I made twice minimum wage and still had to work 60 hours a week, and that was just for me.
Regardless of the age - finish highschool, get a job, get married... then have a baby. If you can do all that by 16 or 17 then more power to you, go for it! ↑ |
| Name: girlfromtahiti | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 3:39 PM |
| hi ashlley! i know having a baby may sound like such a delight, it is, but you're just too young. even 16 is still too young. you have so much life to experience. you're barely a teen. you wouldn't wanna miss out on all those teenage years, then your early 20's...trust me, enjoy your life without a baby. when you're older you can provide for your baby in a better way, he/she will thank you for it. don't rush into having a baby, it's a big responsibility. take care! ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 7:10 PM |
Oh my god. I have been reading some of the other comment and I can't take some of them serious. Who are these kids who are telling this girl to have a baby when she is 13 because they want one, are currantly pregnant or have a child themselve. Who is supporting these babies financially. It can't possibly be these kids because their not even old enough to get a job.
Yes it is true that your parents love you and they will love you regardless of what situation you get yourself into, but this doesn't mean that you go out and have a baby. What is going in your life that you feel you need this baby at such a young age? I certainly hope that you will take the advise of those who are much older when it comes to this situation and not to those who are completely clueless. For those who said go for it, that they are 13 to and have a baby, I have a feeling that their parents are doing most of the raising then they are. If they had to actually were raising these babies by themselve they would think alot differently then they do. ↑ |
| Name: youngwife | Date: Jul 3rd, 2006 2:26 PM |
| When did you start puberty it couldn't have been more then 3 years ago. your body isn't done adjusting if you got pregnant now I really think it would mess your body up. I think if you absouletly have to have a baby to wait until your 16 because then your bf will be older and you could just be going through baby fever. When you get older you will be able to take better care of your baby. So if you truly want to be a mother then be a good mother and wait until your older. I'm only 17 and me and my husband are trying to get pregnant but my husband is 24 and I graduate this year. So I am young too but I also have a husband who can suppport me their is no way your 16 year ol bf can support a baby cause the n=most he can make is like 6 dollars a hour cause he has to go to school and most good jobs you have to be 18. I fi get pregnant soon I'll be 18 when I have my baby if you wait then the pregnancy will be a more enjoyable expeirence. Please consider what I've said I know how you feel I've been with my husband for two years and I have wanted a baby for a year now it is very hard i know but for the well being of your baby please wait and think about it. You still have your whole life ahead of you don't rush it enjoy child hood I would give anything to go back and be a kid again. If you wait you will thank yourself someday. I promise. ↑ |
| Name: mamaheavener | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 1:51 PM |
| baby girl you have your whole life to have a baby...be a baby yourself and enjoy it...PLEASE!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: babygirl26 | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 8:03 PM |
| Nethier!!! I'm 16 and being pregnant is NOT fun if that's what you think....yeah, you'll have a baby in the end.... but it's alot harder than you think even for me being 16. Trust me wait until you are MUCH older!!!!! Just have fun for now!! ↑ |
| Name: SenseOfPoise_n_rationality | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 4:49 AM |
| I am 16 and 6 months pregnant . . and i dont regret being pregnant at all. . but you havent even gotten to high school. . how do you think you are going to be able to take care of a baby if you are to young for a job and you dont have the smarts! And your boyfriend hasnt finished school! I got my g.e.d. and my fiance has a diploma so im am lucky! Just think about it!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: katesmom | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 3:13 PM |
| You have no idea what you are contemplating. Its a 24/7 job FOREVER!~!!!! Louie won't be that helpful - regardless of how great you think your relationship is. I'm 32, have a college degree, was a kindergarten teacher, have a husband with a masters degree who is very supportive and somedays its still overwhelming and my daughter is 8mnths old. Don't even consider having a kid now. Children deserve to have stable parents - minimally........ ↑ |
| Name: momofangels | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 1:43 AM |
| hey,little girl, you need to go back to playing with your baby dolls if this is how you feel right now.I am a young single mom and it is work.Keep in mind that not all babies are born healthy,there are lots of babies born with missing brains,brain damage, down syndrome,cerebral palsy,etcAre you ready for the responsibility of possibly taking care of a child that will never walk,talksee,hear,,or even know who you are?Please reconsider.My daughter is 11 months old and severely disabled,will never walk,or do alot of other things.I love her more than ife itself,but it is hard. ↑ |
| Name: Shannonsmeltzer | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 5:44 AM |
| Even if you were to have a baby, your parents have the right to make you give that baby up for adoption. ↑ |
| Name: gianachriskim | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 9:45 PM |
| no you should not have a baby at 13 you abd your bf is still kids ↑ |
| Name: babey_g_311 | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 3:42 AM |
| get a puppy, your way too young to have a baby its crazy youd even ask that, youd think youd know better. Most likely if you were to get preggers now or at 16 youd drop out of school at 16, your boyfriend would dump you and pay child support, you wont get a good job since you have no diploma and be on welfare the rest of your life, and thats too bad for the baby. ↑ |
| Name: kita54 | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 12:04 AM |
| No, slow down, ur young, and u have along life to live before you should even think about baby's. Its not going to be as easy as you think, especially since ur so young, im 21 and expecting my first. there is so much to be done, and to think about. just wait ↑ |
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