| Name: Big Momma | Date: May 11th, 2006 10:12 AM |
| I am black and my first husband was black. We had 2 daughters. We divorced and I married a whire man.My second husband never wanted children, but when he proposed I told him we were a package deal (lol). It's been going on 11 years now and amazingly enough some people still believe they have the right to say something stupid or stare at you so hard you wonder if your undies are showing! We live in the 21st century yet certain mindsets are stuck in the days of their grandparents. I say live and let love do the rest. Marry who you want because you love him/her and not because they resemble you. You're marrying a personality, a heart not a colour. Same ethnic couples have the same problems as interracial couples because live presents itself with problems. Better to have a partner on your side who truly cares during these stressful moments than someone who is only with you because they share your skin colour. I have people state to me and my husband on various occassions,' Gosh! I could never marry out of my race!' My reply has always been ,'Good, that leaves more men for my daughters to choose from!' I have been told by well-meaning(ha)friends that my husband married me for sex. My reply,' Well, the blacker berry the sweeter the wine and he does become quite enibriated.' You need a sense of humour and a quick wit to handle the ignorant comments. Also, oddly enough and this surprised me some people don't value your relationship as real. Meaning, they will make the comment,' I didn't think the marriage would work out or last.' It was really nice to see this person was on my side. NOT! Well, I shall end now with a word to all of you. Stay true to your heart,s love your families and raise them to love and respect people regardless of the colour their skin; and when your spousepartner is sleeping take a good long gaze at that person who makes you happy. That feeling you will get from gazing at him/her is called love. ↑ |
| Name: Big Momma | Date: May 11th, 2006 10:18 AM |
| Jessica, pregnant at 16. Contact Home-Start, they are a charity that can support you during this exciting moment in your life. I don't know where you live but they are an international charity. They are a lovely charity made up of volunteers who care and have the experience of parenting. They will explain your benefits, assist with housing, baby supplies, etc.Congratulations and good-luck! ↑ |
| Name: germankid | Date: Jul 16th, 2006 12:59 AM |
| my thoughts are: It doesn' matter if your black or white.There should be more race mix ups now a days.I'm 15 and white but my girlfriend is black and i love her to death..................... ↑ |
| Name: Marie | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 1:41 PM |
| I'm white and my man is Aboriginal. I'm 19 and he's 21. We had our first beautiful daughter in 2002, Kiana. In 2005 I had my first boy, Kyron and on July 1st 2006 I had another boy Dallas. I've never been so happy in my life. There has been a few disagreements on certain subjects but like i said, 'never happier' ↑ |
| Name: moshecathy | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 6:04 PM |
| I am a filipino and my husband is israeli. We couldnt be more opposites in color, traditon, and beliefs. I am also a daughter of a pastor and have strong beliefs in my faith and yet I married someone who doesnt even believe in Jesus. We love each other very much and have been married for 7 years. We have a beautiful son (5) and a daughter (3) and we're expecting our 3rd child in feb 2007. It's been great knowing and bringing our kids exposing them to so much traditions. We celebrate hannukah and christmas and we I take my kids to church (and even my husband) sometimes. We all love each other very much and it really helps that I live in Los Angeles too because here everyone is just a mix of everything else. My kids are so normal because pretty much everyone in this town is the same as them. half and half of something else. The funny thing is my husband's parents are from egypt and sudan but he was born in israel and my grand parents are part spanish, chinese, and even jewish too. So there my children are americans who are part egyptian, african, israeli, filipino, spanish, and chinese. Wow ... that's interracial! ↑ |
| Name: sexy | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 7:56 PM |
| Name: mycutemy | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 6:07 PM |
| Why did you go and marry a white guy . Are brothers out of the picture. ↑ |
| Name: mycutemy | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 6:12 PM |
| See, mixed families is another way the white man can have his say and his hand.With mix children on the rise,what room does an black child have in the world.When it's time to go out into the world who do you think will get the job first an mixed person.. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Aug 22nd, 2006 4:29 PM |
Lizzi,
Well it's my personal opinion that you're dead wrong and ignorant. I'm not in an interracial relationsip nor have I ever been, but to be so ignorant as to say it's wrong is pathetic. Then again I shouldn't be surpirsed about such small-mindeness. ↑ |
| Name: Teresa | Date: Aug 25th, 2006 9:47 PM |
My ex-husband is black and we have 3 children together. They are beautiful and it isn't about being one or the other, it's a combination of culture diversity and love. My grandmother calls our family the heinz 57 family, I have several cousins who have married out of their race as well. Me personally, I think in a small way we are helping to slow down racism.
Enjoy your family and all the blessings it brings. ↑ |
| Name: Bree | Date: Sep 7th, 2006 2:58 AM |
| Im in an interracial marriage and my husband and had a baby six months ago. Its a beautiful thing. Regardless to the fact that ou r baby is mixed, theres nothing no one can tell us that it is wrong. People stare and ask my husband did he adopt, It doesnt bother us one bit. Our foundation is love. ↑ |
| Name: Dano | Date: Sep 13th, 2006 9:09 PM |
| Name: Connie | Date: Sep 19th, 2006 12:38 AM |
I am white (or 'the pasty one" around here) my partner is black, my two biological children have a native american father, and her two biological sons have a white father. our youngest daughter is part hispanic and part white... all of our children are close to the same color, and with us at oppisite ends of the spectrum our family really does look like a mix of both of us. i absolutly love it, so far no one has picked on the kids for it and our families could care less what color any of us are...
we tell our kids all the time 'you are not mixed, or half and half or anything else people say.. you are perfectly blended into the exact person you are supposed to be!' ↑ |
| Name: Swirly Creator | Date: Oct 22nd, 2006 9:19 PM |
| Interracaial children are so beautiful, beacuase it is God's way of telling our races to become one and eliminate racism! ↑ |
| Name: I_love_pitbulls | Date: Oct 27th, 2006 11:09 PM |
| I am hispanic and my husband is Japanese/white...We have a 10 1/2 mth old son together... ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Oct 28th, 2006 8:59 AM |
my family are Maoris (native new zealanders)
one brother married a Mauritian
one brother married a Veitnamese
one brother married a Greek
my sister married a Spaniard
i brought colour to the family and married a red haired Australian....if this isnt a interracial family i dont know what is!!! ↑ |
| Name: happy2bme | Date: Oct 29th, 2006 3:07 AM |
| I have adopted children that are mixed. The best advise I can give you is to love them the best you can. And teach them that there IS racism out there. That way they will know how to handle it if it comes their way. I did not teach my oldest that and when it came it was hard for him. But my daughter we have taught. .She has no problems handling anything that might come her way ↑ |
| Name: babigyrl | Date: Nov 7th, 2006 2:05 PM |
| I have two interracial kids, and depending on where you live usually indicates how easy or hard things will be. I live in the D.C] area and I dont have to many problems. I have been asked before if I am babysitting, but it doesnt bother me. ↑ |
| Name: Erin and Norm | Date: Nov 11th, 2006 6:13 PM |
| I am a 21 yr old white female and my boyfriend is a 33 yr old african american/ puerto rican. We are expecting our first child any day now :) we are extreemly excited ( and a little nervous) about the things that are ahead of us :) so far we as a couple have not come accross any rude comments we do get a few looks here and there but i know the real reason for that is the fact that we are such a handsome couple :) We are from Philadelphia,Pa , so i feel we are fortunate to live in a large, diverse city who for the most part are very excepting of our love. Anyone interested in contacting us feel free to e mail us at [email protected] or [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: 1timemom | Date: Dec 8th, 2006 7:07 AM |
Hi
i am Kirsten and I am biracial 1/2 english 1/2 white 1/2 black, 1/2 musliam. my bf is french. We are expecting out first baby in june i am not sure what it will look like but I hope it comes out healthy . we find out the sex of the baby in jan. ↑ |
| Name: hazelsweetp | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 7:15 PM |
| I am of black decent and my husband is white. We have two childern and girl and boy. We have had some trouble from people but mostly things have been great. I think its always great to have good support system. I had to learn to hair that I had no idea how to do and deal with stuff like that too. Just love yourself, your child and your family and don't worry about what others think ↑ |
| Name: msibamba | Date: Jan 23rd, 2007 9:01 AM |
| Congrats on your pregnancy! I just gave birth about 2 months ago to my second daughter. I am white, my husband is black and we have two gorgeous children! People stop us all of the time to tell us how beautiful our kids are! So consider yourself totally blessed because you will have such a beautiful child with a rich heritage! ↑ |
| Name: LAmommy | Date: Mar 15th, 2007 2:31 AM |
| I am white and my husband is black. We are Jewish. He converted before we were married. She is very much accepted at her Jewish Day School. Socially, she has had no problems fitting in or being accepted. But you must have a thick skin. People look at us funny all the time out in public. LA is a great place for interracial families, but ignorance and bigotry is still alive. It is up to you to teach your child to ignore it and to embrace both cultures. I believe it might be easier to have a black mommy since my daughter doesn't get stares with her father. She spends all her time with me and she does want books with "brown people" (her words) and playmates who are brown. Something I have found difficult due to our location (West L.A.). It will be a challenge, but this is the way it is for you. I fell in love with her father and I took the challenge. It has not been easy and we won't even travel to the South, but our love and dedication to her outshines any negativity we have encountered. Good luck to you. ↑ |
| Name: suthrndragonfly | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 6:00 AM |
| I think its wonderful. Two people that love one another &will love their child is something this world needs; not focusing on whether or not the child is "pure white or pure black" I would love to talk to someone about my experiance with racial acceptance. I feel alone and I really need to talk. ↑ |
| Name: lourdes | Date: May 8th, 2007 9:15 PM |
| hola everybody, im from mexico im hispanic and my hudsband is white a beautifull white because i love him more than anything in this world, we have a baby boy 1 year old and is our ligth, i been in usa for almost a year legal and i love it is a dream country, but before to come a hade to fight with people all the time talk about me, and my love for him everybody trying ti hurts me, 1- people say that i was only with him for documents, (not tru because i have a normal and good life in mexico) 2- he gonna lef me pregnant( he back for me because he is navy and even our situation is more complicated , he back and marrie to me) so now we are a interracial couple but is fantastic our talks and show the diferents staff eachother, and for that girl lizzy mmm i respect your opinion and belive me is not hurst me at all, because my life is perfect with him. ↑ |
| Name: sunshine82 | Date: May 19th, 2007 1:11 PM |
Hello
I was in an interracial relationship, however due to family acceptance, I ended the relationship....now im miserable.
Does anyone have huge issues with their family being in an interracial relationship (black & white). i would love to talk ↑ |
| Name: riki | Date: May 27th, 2007 1:38 AM |
| Name: Ljack | Date: Jun 7th, 2007 5:16 PM |
| Hi, I am a 30 yr old white female, and I live with a 36 yr old black man. I have two girls, who are white, and he has a girl that is mixed. We get the stares, and we always laugh about it. we had someone come to our home that was looking at a stove we were selling, when the man go there, he was like I think I am in the wrong part of town, I didnt think nothing of it, but then my boyfriend said you know what he meant by that dont ya, and after i thought about it, and the big ole rebel flag belt buckle he had on, i knew what he meant, we got a big laugh out of that one. I dont care what people think, he treats my girls just like he treats his, both of thems father walked out and hasnt seen them in years. They now say that my boyfriend is their dad! ↑ |
| Name: Babydreamer26 | Date: Jun 29th, 2007 11:40 PM |
CONGRATS on your pregnancy!
My husband is black, and I am white. We have a gorgeous one year old daughter, and are expecting a lil boy this fall! We are thrilled! ↑ |
| Name: bree | Date: Jul 4th, 2007 5:11 PM |
| I feel like people need to worry about their own situation and not be so worried about what others are doing or who they decide to have children and who they marry. Mind yo own business and worry about your own messed up choices in life, and this world would be a better place. I love my black husband and my mixed children, and we live for eachother regardless of what anyone else say or think, AMEN to that! ↑ |
| Name: Nijel | Date: Jul 6th, 2007 11:53 PM |
OMG - We are planning on our first. I am black and he is white....
Please email me back at [email protected].
God never fails - Nijel ↑ |
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