| Name: Serina to terri | Date: May 5th, 2006 6:02 PM |
I will try and let it go .The receipt book has become such a hot topic with us. I just do not wabther to take us to the clleaners.
As always thank you so much you give great advise!!! ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: May 8th, 2006 12:30 AM |
Hi Serina
I would not give them to her or anything else. She is the type that when you give a little she will take a mile !!! Very best of luck hon!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina | Date: May 14th, 2006 1:02 AM |
| I can nort believe that she asked for them again. I swear I think is will find a way to make them for hrr but it is very hard for me cause I am disabled. This whole thing is makeing me ill! ↑ |
| Name: sonia | Date: May 16th, 2006 7:26 PM |
| Serina it seems like life is very unhappy for you in this marriage and I really don't forsee things changing much for you maybe you should consider a divorce and next time marry someone without kids. I am not trying to be mean it's just so sad to see you so upset and frusterated all the time. Do you ever get a moments peace? ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Sonia | Date: May 16th, 2006 10:00 PM |
Thank you you are so sweet! Well to tell you the truth she is a pain . But my husband is the most loving man I have ever met. He is what keeps me going.I have never met anyone that I can wake uo aat 3:00am cause i am in pain so he can rubb my back( mind you I do not do it often) .He does it with a smile on his face and alway says Sure honey I will get the lotion.Every day he asks me what he can do for me and does it with a smile. He is the joy in my life and so are his kids. They are funny and fun to be around . I could not love them more even of they were my own.
She just pushes all my buttons.I cannot wait untill the kids are older so I will not have to deal with her as much.This whole thing with her has made me fell like a nasty person.I am not
( really). I made sure the kids made her a mothers day card. My stepdaugjhter made me one while she was makeing one for her Mom.She is such a great kid.I always tell them to help her out with the house & do what they can I give her photos of the kids when I have money to get them printed.
I wish this doesn't bother me so much but It is just how I feel...
This one thing I want it to be just ours & for her not to have her nose in it.If The photographer had only done his job this would not be a battle now ...I am sure she would find something else.
I hope the Peace will come ...6 yrs from now the kids will both be 18...
Thank you so Much for all your help Sonia!!
God Bless ↑ |
| Name: ................ | Date: May 16th, 2006 10:50 PM |
| COURT. THE PETTY BS HAS TO STOP SOMEWHERE. ↑ |
| Name: Serina To .... | Date: May 16th, 2006 11:31 PM |
| Name: .............................. | Date: May 17th, 2006 2:19 PM |
| It's so hard when the ex is threatening and causing so much drama when you just want to live your life. She needs to realize that she can't control every situation with threats and negativity. Try to compromise and keep it light, but don't take any crap! You have a family to be strong for, try to keep your cool at all times even if you feel like throwing a 16 pound turkey at her. ↑ |
| Name: Serina to ,,,,,, | Date: May 17th, 2006 4:20 PM |
I will do my best. I told my husband to call her back . I just do not want to deal with he nasty behavior. I hate arguing at all and do give in on most issues but this is very diffrent. We Take the kid when ever we can and help out when ever possable.The one thing I want and she filps out.I know she is bipolar but that does not mean she gets her way all the time.The last message she left me she said they they are her kids and that she want the photos of her kids.Well she should take her own phots. Every time we have an event or an outing with the kids I giver copies .Well that is going to stop. The things they do with us have nothing to do with her and like wise.
Thank you so much for you advise !It has helpped me! ↑ |
| Name: Alicia | Date: May 17th, 2006 4:42 PM |
| Sounds like you are a reasonable and fair person, you tried your best to give her what she wanted but really, if she wants photos of her children, she needs to go to a photographer. Problem solved! ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Alicia | Date: May 17th, 2006 7:01 PM |
Thank you I appreciate that.he apprent ly sent 3 emaill to my husband at work today he was going to send them to me but still has not. He said they were very nasty.I do not think I can make her understand..I give up talking with her.
We will see what happends...
Thank you so very much for your in put! ↑ |
| Name: sonia | Date: May 17th, 2006 8:01 PM |
| Serina you said some wonderful things about your life. I suggest focusing all your energy on the good things and not give her any more of your thought energy. She is not worth it. Our thinking has the power to depress us or make us happy. It sounds like you have a great husband focus on that. Are you going to have any children of your own? focus on that. ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Sonia | Date: May 17th, 2006 9:51 PM |
| Thank you I know I should not let her get under my skin. Thank you so very much for you advise! You have been GREAT!! ↑ |
| Name: kelly | Date: May 18th, 2006 2:25 PM |
| whats the big deal in giving her a couple of photos?? I think you're going waaayyyy over thr top. They're harmless photos!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Kelly | Date: May 18th, 2006 8:20 PM |
I always feel like I amgoing through hoops for his ex. If the photograper had done what was asked then no issue .But Why do I have to crop and cut photos to make them just of the kids, since we have none.
Plus this one day has nothing to do with her.Why cann't we just have this?
Every event every thing we do with the kids I giver her photos . I want this for just us.I mean it is our wedding. To me if she wants dresses up phots she can take them herself.
I do think you for your thoughts on teh matter.
My best to you ↑ |
| Name: Mel | Date: May 19th, 2006 4:19 AM |
Honey do not let her get to you ! You have every right not to give her pictures of your wedding. I mean really why can't she take her picture of the kids herself?Being a stepparent myself I know we give in to so much. Since this means so much to you Do not give them to her. I see that she has stated the time you did not have the kids uit never says anything about the times you took the kids for her.This sounds like she is very self centered!!
Good Luck honey I think you are gona need it. ↑ |
| Name: charla | Date: May 19th, 2006 3:33 PM |
| i think its kinda creepy that she wants the pics with you on your wedding day cause thats basically what shes asking for she can dress the kids up anytime and take pics but how odd that she wants the pics from your special day i think that she is just trying to be dirricult and how very rude of her to use the kids to get what she wants i was a child of divorce parents and trust me when the kids get older theyll see whats going on . the opposite happened for me though my stepmom turned out to be a real witch but my real dad was no better . so i dont think that you should give her those pics but definatly dont stoop to her level call her bluff she probebly wont bring the kids over on your free weekend and if she does just be overly nice about it i bet she wont do it the next month when she sees that it didnt bother you last month . well i hope my comments were helpful i know that it doesnt resolve the situation but maybe it will help. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS. ↑ |
| Name: Serina To Charla | Date: May 19th, 2006 4:04 PM |
Thank yo so much you did help a great deal. I alway tell the kids how great their mother is and do my very best to be nice regarding her.It is hard but I do not want to do anything to hurt the kids. She makes it hard to pleasant my statement like ...you can come in, If you Have too..& things like Well if you want to live like this I guess it is up to you , I call to talk to John ...and latst but not least the Look I do not look at you as the mistress or the other women ..My comment to that is simply well cause I am not I am his wife and have never bee the other woman. All my comments have been friendly .So many more comments that now I do not get the phone when she calls. I just do not want the stress.
Thank you so much for your help.Very best wishes to you and yours!!! ↑ |
| Name: to serina from charla | Date: May 19th, 2006 11:16 PM |
| i imagine it is very hard to just grin and bare it but lifes to short to let worthless words and thats all they are or as i call it verbal diareah hope i spelled that right anyway dont let her get to you shes just bitter your happy and shes not so she wants to bring you down to her level. just keep smiling and remind yourself you only have to deal with her untilthe kids are 18 and then they will visit with no strings attached and yes that may be aways away but it will come. promise. god bless!!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Charla | Date: May 19th, 2006 11:53 PM |
Charla you are correct. It will be about 6 yrs untill they are both 18. Lonf time but aleat not 10rs or more so I will still keep smiling and do what I can.I will not ginver her any more photos unless she is not able to attend a kids event at the school or something like that.From now on the times and phots we take of the kids are ours. She has only given us photos 2 times. I have lost count how many photos hthat were given and framed for her. I am not longer going to go out of my way for her. I will always help out with the kids but that is it.
I am sorry your step mother was not a good person & your Dad was not the man he should have been. You seem like such a sweet and caring person.I a glad that you have become a better than they could be.
Do you have kids or step kids of your own? I am only asking caus e you give such geat advise.
I thank you so much fo your kind words & advise. It means alot to me. May God bless you! ↑ |
| Name: to serina from charla | Date: May 20th, 2006 7:30 PM |
| i have never been divorced howevermy husband and i are both from divorced parents. i have 3 boys and have been married going on 11 years now. we were both very young when we married i was 19 just turned and my husband had liturally days before turned 21. we went thruogh alot of bumps in the road and somtimes still do we have been seperated 2 times but always seem to find our way back to each other he is my best friend and makes me laugh ALOT i think thats what makes me love him the most. anyway enuogh of the gooshy stuff. my stepmom reminded me of your dhs exwife always has to in control even when it came to me and my brotherso i kinda know how you feel from a different view i think that it is wonderful the way you are with your srep children thats how my dad is {not the one who contributed the sperm } but the one who loved us from the beginning of meeting my mom i have always called him dad he would do anything for my brother and me and im greatful to have him im sure your stepkids feel the same about you. ↑ |
| Name: Serina to charla | Date: May 20th, 2006 9:02 PM |
HI Charla
I am so glad you had a Great Step Dad &bio Mom. Iknew you must have had some good influences in your life cause you turned out so great. I am glad you husband makes you happy and makes youlaught.Mine husband makes me laught too.He truly is the best person Iknow!!
From now on I am going to do my best not to let her effect us .
I hope the kids feel the way you do about the Dad you should have had from the begining. I am always on them to brush their teeth and hair and wash before you eat that kind of thing. I love them so much they are such fun loving kids! You are righ to think I would do anything for them, that is for sure. They make my life better!
Hope you have a great week end and Thank you again!!! ↑ |
| Name: charla to serina | Date: May 21st, 2006 2:45 PM |
| thank you serina for the very nice complement. i appriciate it very much!! you have a great weekend as well!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina to ? | Date: May 21st, 2006 4:24 PM |
It not just about the phots if you read the entries. Is is being manipulive. I give her pictures all the time of the kids dressed up. I our wedding has nothing to do with her. Every event we have with the kids she want to be a part off. We just want this to be ours. I am in no way a " bitch" .I am always nice to her but she is seldom nice to me with all her rude comments to me.
I am not edditing photos for her and that is what she wants since the photo were not taken by the photographer as asked.
On top of her beeing so manipulative she has also threatened to .I will not be intimidated. If she had asked and not demaned that might be diffren too.
Thank you for your in put & I hope you are never have to deal wit a person like this! ↑ |
| Name: Serina to ? | Date: May 21st, 2006 4:30 PM |
| Please see. Need some sound advice Re Ex & Childsupport? Too get a look at what else she is up to. ↑ |
| Name: Serina to charla | Date: May 22nd, 2006 4:28 PM |
You are funny! That was great come back.I think it is hard for folks to understand if they are not in your shoes.
Thank you to all for you comments and advise it has helped me see diffrent pionts of view.
Hope you have a wonderful day. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 10:48 PM |
So far the subjest is not closed ishe is not getting them at all due to all the threats.
Thank you all for your help!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina | Date: Jun 9th, 2006 1:26 PM |
| Sorry typo now closed & she is not Getting the photos. ↑ |
| Name: charla | Date: Jun 15th, 2006 7:51 PM |
| serina i just wanted to let you know that im back for some reason the sight wouldnt allow me to log in until today. so how are you are things going good? im glad that she didnt get the photos yahoo!!! well talk to you later!!! ↑ |
| Name: Girly29 | Date: Jun 15th, 2006 9:26 PM |
| I think your being nothing but reasonable......That girl needs to realize manipulating and bullying will get her no where!!!! Dont back down to her...If she continues there's always The courts!....Take Care Hang in there:) ↑ |
| Name: j | Date: Jun 15th, 2006 11:16 PM |
| just color copy a few at kinkos and be done with it ↑ |
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