| Name: j | Date: Jun 15th, 2006 11:16 PM |
| just color copy a few at kinkos and be done with it ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jun 16th, 2006 2:18 AM |
| J. She wants the photos all cropped of just the kids. I am disabled and can not stand to do this I am so done with her . She is just not getting them. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jun 16th, 2006 2:20 AM |
Dear Girl 29 Thank you I know she is a royal pain. Thaank you for your support.
Thanks to you all ↑ |
| Name: Shanna | Date: Jun 17th, 2006 7:38 PM |
| Why not make copies of the pictures? Keep the originals and give her the duplicates. ↑ |
| Name: Serina | Date: Jun 17th, 2006 10:11 PM |
| She wants the photos all cropped of just the kids. I am disabled and can not stand to do this I am so done with her . She is just not getting them. = ↑ |
| Name: Serina S to Shanna | Date: Jun 18th, 2006 2:02 AM |
The photographer never took photos of just the kids she wants me to cpoy ,crop and cutt up the pictures to have phots of the kids. It is not just about the photos but true be told I just do not want her to have them. I want this one day not to have anything to do with her.
I did my best to get the photographer to take the requested photos but he did not do it. So too bad for her and us too He forgot to take a photo of all 4 of us too.
If he had taken the requested photos she would have them already but he did not.
She has demaned her photos ( Not hers at all.) she has tried to bully me threaten us .I am done with this . She wrote in an email that she told the kids I am part of the family but when I pick up the kids she says things like (you can come in...IF you Have TO.) Nice ...NOt. Or when she calls I will say my most happy hi how are you .Thre reply is always I called to talk with John. In other words not talk with me.
If we go to a kids events ( she invites us to) She will roll her eyes at me not come over to say Hi and acts like we are intruding on her .
I am so done .Sorry to go on and on but she has made life hard!!!
Thank you Shanna for your advise I do appreciate it.
God bless ↑ |
| Name: Aaron davison | Date: Jun 24th, 2006 10:59 AM |
| hello their hunni my mum and dad went through the same thing my mum got the photos and copied the ones she wonted maybe you should try that too ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jun 24th, 2006 2:49 PM |
Hi Aaron
If I had the picture she would have them by now. She wants us to edit them for her. I am just not capable of standing at ht estore to do it. Her behavior also is now a factor.She has be just mean and threatening.She has demanded them . Well for get it! If I let her treat us this way she will think that it is ok with us...Well it is not.
I do thank you so for you comments
Very best reagrds.
Serina ↑ |
| Name: Borox | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 10:07 AM |
| Those are your photos..she need no part of them...stand up girl! ↑ |
| Name: Serina To Borox | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 2:21 PM |
Thank you . I am not going to give in on this.I have given in on so much but not this .Not now Not ever. If she was nice about this it might be diffrent but the truth be told I am not sure if I would still want to give them to her! I know that the photographer had taken the shots as requested then I know she would have then but he did not . Enought said.
Thank you all for you advise it has helped me greatly!!! ↑ |
| Name: Mell | Date: Jun 30th, 2006 10:56 AM |
Man she is a real pain in the ass. I am glad you are going to tell her to forget it.
Hope all goes well for you. ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 3rd, 2006 11:54 PM |
| Serina - My personal oppinion is that she has no right to the photos in the first place. If you wanted to give them to her, that would be one thing, but she doesn't deserve them (and i dont know why she would even want them!). My husband and I, and my stepson's bio mother and her new husband both got married fairly recently and around the same time. Neither one of us has seen the other's photos, and in fact - neither one of us knew anything about the other's wedding (where it was, when it was, details, invite list, etc.). I dont know why it would be her business. Our families dont hate eachother - that's just something that is personal, and about your husband and your new family. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 1:01 PM |
Thank you Nicloe , Mell & Sandy! for your advise. I think she tries tio wiggle ( slither) in to our lives when ever she can.I understand that she wanted photos of her son Now 14 in a tux & her daughter now 12 in a gown ( I made), crown & all but ... her demanding & threatening is not acceptable! I mean to be fair I did try to have the photos taken for her but never happened.
So she need to get over it. The photograper forgot to tae a lot of important phots..like a photo of all 4 of us .I have to get over that .I was & still am really pissed off about that one!!!
I feel so much better now that I have decided not to let her have them. I am also no longer giving her any photos I take of the kids ...unless it is she can not go to a play or school even.
I think you all so much for all you r help & has aided me greatly in my deciding what to do!!
Blessings to you all!!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 1:16 PM |
I just wanted to thank all of you so much!! You were all a huge help!!
God Bless!! ↑ |
| Name: pj754 | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 8:07 PM |
| Wow, I just read your post about this issue. I will have to agree that the ex is not entitle to the photos of YOUR wedding day. It doesn't matter if pictures were taken of just the children are not. You paid for the photographer, not her. If she wants photos of just the kids, then she can take some of her child support monies and have them done. She is petty and don't let her get the best of you. What you all do as a family should stay in the family. She has not right to even ask for them. I could see if they were baby photos or something like that. Doesn't she get school pictures or have a camera of her own for her to take her own pictures? If she doesn't then that is not your problem. Don't let her control you and your husband. If she is being disagreeable about the visitation issue--sad to say, but sometimes you have to tell her no, you can't watch the children. You and your husband should not run yourselves ragged because this woman is telling you do whatever she wants. You need to draw the line somewhere. Your children will understand. Also, I wouldn't be giving her cash for child support especially if she is losing her receipts or won't sign. If she truly wants the money bad enough, giving her a cancelled check is sufficient. I'm sure she will cash it. Granted, she may rant and rave about it but she will get over it. Another thought, if you go back to court, make sure you try to have as much detail in the log as possible about how much visitation you have with the children. It sounds to me, they spend more time at your home than hers. You would be considered as the primary care giver, therefore, she would have to pay you all child support if you all were awarded custody. I have my ex pay directly through the court house, then the monies get direct deposited into my bank account. This way, there is a constant record of what he pays and doesn't pay, whether payment is on time like the divorce papers say he's suppose to. So, if I have to take him back to court for none payment, the courhouse will have a record of it. Although, in Illinois, he has to be at least 90 days behind in payments. Which last summer he was and the judge ordered him to jail if he didn't catch it up within 30 days. Needless to say, he did. Just a note, I had a friend, who kept track of all the times his ex would call him up to take their child other than his regular visitation. Well, he ended up getting full custody of her with the mom having visitation. I know hiring lawyers is an extra expense but if she keeps doing this to you all, eventually, it will come back to bite her in the butt. I wouldn't be anymore nice to her than you have to. She wants to left nasty messages or notes--consider the source. She is very bitter and money hungry. Don't bend to her because she wants you too. You both are doing a great job in raising your kids and there shouldn't be any court that wouldn't see that. You did a good job explaining to the children that things like the photos should have not involvement with them. When they start saying stuff like that to you, stand firm and hold your ground. They should focus on being kids. My ex did the same thing to me with a photo. I gave him my son's class picture because he said he wanted a copy of it. Well, needless to say, I never got it back. I've ask repeatedly for it back and never received. I just let it go. This just tells me, he's going to be a man, I will never be able to reason with. So now, when the kids have photos sessions at school, I purchase my own set and he purchases his. I will not go in halfs with him because I'm afraid I will never get them. So far, this works out just fine. If she ever asks you for half of something--tell her you will go directly to the place and pay your half. This way, the place can give you a receipt and she can get hers. This will aleviate arguements. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jul 14th, 2006 3:07 AM |
Dear PJ
Thank you for your help and advise. I love reading your comments. They are always so thought out and clear & most of all helpful!!!
I am sorry too pooped to write much but just wanted to say thanks loads!!!
God Bless ↑ |
| Name: jen | Date: Jul 30th, 2006 8:06 AM |
| anyone know what i need to make my own bouquet for my wedding i want one of those hanging ones please help ↑ |
| Name: d | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 8:03 PM |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Nov 14th, 2006 12:42 PM |
| Name: billy22 | Date: Nov 15th, 2006 4:50 PM |
| What a predicament you're in. But my ex is getting married in a week or so and I was just telling the kids that it would be nice to have a picture of the four of them together so that I can add them to the boy's scrapbook. Reality is that they come from a blended/divorced family now and have more than just my husband and I. I don't get along well with the new ife nor my ex, but I can put that aside to do something special for the kids. I think it also would be good to let her see a pic of the four of you together to get it through her head that he is indeed married again, then maybe she will move on. Good luck:) ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Nov 16th, 2006 12:14 AM |
feel so much better now that I have decided not to let her have them. I am also no longer giving her any photos I take of the kids ...unless it is she can not go to a play or school even.
I think you all so much for all you r help & has aided me greatly in my deciding what to do!!
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Hi Billy
This issue was settled al while ago. No I did not give her the photos reasonaexplained in all the tex above.
Also the kids can look at the photos when ever they want here. Kids are not in to sscrap books ...once it is put together they realy do not look at it . I have broght up the photo album to them but they are not intresyted in look at it..maybe when they get older???
As I have said this one day has nothing to do with her if she wants photos of the kids she can take them I am done with her!!!!
But I do thank you for the in put. ↑ |
| Name: billy22 | Date: Nov 16th, 2006 1:22 AM |
| SERINA~I know how you feel even though I am on the other end. There does come a point when you have to say "I refuse to allow you into my head, home and life!" To a certain extent you do have to be involved with her, but only through your husband. Everyone has different opinions on the whole marriage thing and how it should be done and to each their own:) I am glad we did it the way we did....I guess we'll see how it all ends up after next weekend for theirs. We have had to hire an attorney for various reasons because of the soon to be step mom and have recently had to send a letter to her from the attorney stating that if she continues to harrass me, then charges will be pressed...it's been tough. but if i had it totally under my power, we would all be getting along and things would be okay:) I am glad you got things worked out. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Nov 16th, 2006 4:06 AM |
It is sad you are having a hard time with the ...step mother to be. I now it is hard on all sides.
Yes indeed the kids always come first I do all that I can do for them. They need me I am always here..NO matter what . We are so lucy that we get along so very well...I am sure that is not easy for the x to hear. But it is best fo rthe kids. I never ever say anything bad a bout the mnotehr not ever. (Man I sure could) SH eis currently sleeping with a married with 2 boy man. The My s Daughter found photos of them on the computer..what a mess!!! ( I shall never for get that we are a blended family but that doe not mean I need to be horrassed by his ex either or threatened. But some thing as just for us.
I did give her all the kids cloths and floer girl basket and crown and all that the kids wore except the son ..it was rented. She could have taken photos any time of my step d ..since she had all she wore & if she wanted to re rent a tux for my step s.Any way I am off on a tangent ..sorry. I just makes me mad how she treated me nasty!
We have 2 times gotten photos of the kids but Imust have given them to her all the time. I do not give her any any more. Our time withthe kids is our time ...unless it is a school event that she cannot attend ( I would give them to her then)
You know maybe you caould get a court order stating that you only will deal with you x she has not right butting in and bugging you ! Unreal how nasty and rude somepeople can be !
I do wish you all the luck!! Let me know how it goes!!
Take care! ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 5:30 PM |
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