| Name: chao lo | Date: Apr 11th, 2008 9:43 PM |
when you will train me when I want more money for me.?
why have you been more money for me now how to making
a money nine hundre and the loand also have pick your soon.
if you ok than five month all of the year ago.
thank you very much. ↑ |
| Name: the other woman | Date: Apr 12th, 2008 3:30 PM |
| Name: clarity | Date: Apr 12th, 2008 3:32 PM |
| hi everyone. i have just read all the posts on this. i am speaking from immeasurable experience. if you think your husband is cheating on you he probably is. if you have to ask yourself if your husband loves you-he doesn't. when someone loves you, you can feel it in everything they say and do. have some respect for yourselves and don't try to make him change his mind or wait for them too. you can't control someone's feelings. why would you even want too? sometimes it's just about knowing when to let go. ↑ |
| Name: Rachel | Date: Apr 16th, 2008 4:42 PM |
| I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through, but you are not alone. I am going through that too. My husband came home one day and said that he didn't want to be married anymore and that he didn't want anyone telling him where to go, when to go, and what time to be home. this has happened before and we had been separated for six months in the past and got back together ,now after 7 years he decides that he still doesn't want to be married . So now I am filing for divorce. He still tells me that he loves me and I love him as well but I guess he doesn't love me and my children enough to grow up. Men like this just want their cake and eat it too. The only advice I have to you is keep your faith in God. Leave it up too him he will take care of you and your children. I know that it's hard but God has done this for a reason and you will come out of this a winner. If you want to chat some more email me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Rachel | Date: Apr 16th, 2008 4:48 PM |
| If you don't trust him anymore don't get back with him. Once you lose that trust, its the hardest thing to regain. And things will never be the same again. Been there, done that. If you allow him to do it once we will keep doing it . ↑ |
| Name: andrew | Date: Apr 17th, 2008 10:46 PM |
| Name: monica | Date: Apr 23rd, 2008 7:38 PM |
| Name: monica | Date: Apr 23rd, 2008 7:39 PM |
| maybe some could help me ↑ |
| Name: Cleo | Date: Apr 26th, 2008 11:14 PM |
| My husband told me he isn't in love with me anymore. He left 2 weeks ago. Wants to look into divorce. We have 4 kids - 6, 22 mos & 12 wk twins. I get stuck taking care of them 24/7 - tomorrow he's golfing. I love my kids but how is it so easy that he can just walk away. I love him very much but don't know what to do to change things. I guess he's felt this way for a while but didn't tell me. It would have been nice to be let in on what was going on. I don't want a divorce - I got married to be married for the rest of my life. We're both 38 & I thought once the kids were a little older things would be easier and we'd have some fun together. I don't think there is anyone else but I don't know what happened... I hate dating and can't imagine how I would ever even meet anyone. I never go out and if I could, I have few friends who could go out with me. They're all in baby mode, too. This really sux. ↑ |
| Name: sami | Date: Apr 29th, 2008 4:54 AM |
| Hi, just been reading through the comments here. I just got married a few months ago, but can completely relate. Before marriage my husband acted really nice. He said things like he wanted to spoil me and treat me like a princess. He's now on his laptop all day. He barely acknowledges my existence. I don't get a simple hello. If I didn't talk to him first he would probably never say a word to me for days. I feel so embarrassed and alone. It's not like I can tell anyone that I'm an unhappy newlywed. I wish I had known these things before marriage. ↑ |
| Name: Rock isc ool | Date: May 1st, 2008 3:15 AM |
| WOw, I was just recently told 3 weeks ago by my husband that we no longer have a relationship after 10 years being together. He is minister and he claims that he no longer loves me like he use to. WE have a 7 year old together and he basically neglects him. He comes home at all hours of the early monrning and sometimes does not come home at all. He claims that whatever the consequences that God is going to put on him he will just have to deal with him. I am so distraught but have peace in the midst. I received counseling from my pastor because I want to move out of our home , he states that not to file for divorce let my husband do it. I am trusting in God that He will work things out, but in due time. I am praying daily and asking for Gods will to be done. Whatever the outcome divorce or Reconciliation it is all in Gods plan. He is a minister and He will not be able to escape that easily. ↑ |
| my husband dont want to have sex with me because he sex with a lot of different woman. he surport me but dont want to kiss and walk together in town ↑ |
| Name: resa | Date: May 4th, 2008 3:21 AM |
| My husband called me pycho because I wanted him to stay home with me and our 1yr old son? I don't understand why he wants to go out with the guys when he can hang around his family? I don't see him enough as it is he's always at work? so I guess I'm expecting him to tell me he doesn't love me anymore? I need avice on how to talk to him please.. be for it's to late? we have be together for 10 yrs...And I think all he wants to do anymore is party ? ↑ |
| Name: Steve | Date: May 7th, 2008 10:29 AM |
| My wife came home one day and told me that she did not love me anymore and that she doesn't want to be married anymore. We have tow kids ages 8, 4. We just purchase a new home in Feb and she told me this in Mar. She told me that it is not me, it its her. She said that I am the best father and husband. She is just not happy anymore. We have been married for 10y years. We both are in the military with 19+ years and due to retire in the next year. What should I do. She has found a place to live and willing to give me the kids. ↑ |
| Name: clarity | Date: May 10th, 2008 9:59 PM |
| There is nothing you can do when someone chooses not to be with you. Someone who leaves you has been thinking about it for quite a long time. Why would you want to be with someone you have to "convince" to be with you? Trust me, they have thought it through over and over in their head. If they leave it is because they want to. They are no longer in love and want something else. Have dignity and let them go. Who wants someone who is in love with someone else anyway? ↑ |
| Name: the other woman | Date: May 10th, 2008 10:07 PM |
| I was seeing a married man for nearly a year and a half. He was with his wife for over 15 years. We fell in love and he struggled with the idea of leaving his wife and children. It was a hard and long process, but our love was too strong to ignore and we couldn't pretend we didn't love each other. We are soulmates, and even though it hurt his wife, it was worth it. We have been together now for over 20 years and we are blessed in our love. Sometimes you do meet the right person-and they are married to someone else. I guess what I am saying is that you can't understand it if you have never felt true love. If your spouse wants to leave you-or meets someone else, they aren't in love with you. Let them go and open your heart to love someone who really wants you. Not just someone who is living a charade with you. ↑ |
| Name: Laura | Date: May 20th, 2008 8:39 AM |
| Sounds like an epidemic. after 16 years together (married 11 of them), hubby decides he's not "in love with me anymore". Like alot of these situations, he is 44 years old and this all came about after a life changing event. His 20 year old daughter, who he has never known, got in touch with him because she said she wants to get to know her dad. He tells me that they don't want me involved in their relationship. That it does not concern me. She is also 7 months preg and alone. The family she hails from has never gotten in touch with my husband except when they wanted something. example: after we had been married one month, the ex wife called and said the daughter wanted to get to know her dad (imagine that). after he had many phone conversations with the ex (never the child), she realized that she would not win her ex-man back and then went after him with increased child support. Ladies...I look at it this way, i cannot change his stupidity. I have been a good wife. We have no children. I have stood by this man for many years even when he had been in trouble with the law I was there for him. But no more. He has not left the house yet but we just had a heated discussion about this. Only one of many many very heated discussions over the past many years. with any luck, he will pack his stuff and go. I should put my energy into myself for a while. And when the time comes for another relationship, I will find someone that deserves a great woman. Someone that respects me and treats me like a life partner and soul mate should be treated. This is a learing experience and I feel that it will all be worthwhile. Don't let these crummy men get you down, ladies. Be strong. hold your heads high, and know that better things are to come. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. any one that wants to chat can email me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: momangel | Date: May 20th, 2008 9:15 AM |
| Hey. if you want to meet you dream lover in your area just try www.singleparentloving.com ↑ |
| Name: clarity | Date: May 27th, 2008 2:12 AM |
| You can show some self respect and not beg a man who doesn't love you to be with you. Your husband checked out a long time ago. It probably took him a lot of courage to tell you how he really feels. I doubt the single boss is a coincidence they are probably in love and planning a future together. Do what is right, let the man go. He has already left you. ↑ |
| Name: the other woman | Date: May 27th, 2008 2:15 AM |
| Okay ladies here is the truth. If you think you're husband is cheating, he is. Trust your instincts. If your husband tells you he isn't happy, he hasn't been happy for a really long time-it just seems like it came from out of no where. But he has been thinking about it for a long time. Let your husband go if he doesn't want to be with you. Why hold on to someone because you have kids? That is pathetic. ↑ |
| Name: patty | Date: May 31st, 2008 12:33 PM |
| My husband of 23 years FINALLY admitted to the 2 year affair he's been having. What makes me sick is that I always knew something was wrong, but I trusted him. Our 16 yr. old son was the one who caught them. I know I need to let him go, but I'm so afraid of being alone and never finding someone else to love. I'm very sad for our son. ↑ |
| Name: gg | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 2:55 AM |
get a financial advice, get a divorce counsellor.
you have a right for child support.
draw boundaries to him. IT IS his responsibility to take care
of HIS kids too.. every wkend or every other wkend..
give him the $$ amount of what he has to pay you, leave you the house.
then this will open his eyes of how much Divorce will cost him.
not only for him , but also his 'adulterous' mistress.
she will, undirectly , be responsible to take care of your kids too....
revenge has never been so sweet.
but beware of child abuse though... ↑ |
| Name: gg | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 3:04 AM |
make sure you go out and date someone else too.
have a time to yourself. hobbies.. etc..
that's why it's important that your husband take responsibilities of the kids, because you need your own time (preferably weekends).
Don't let them use you, put your heel down and make sure they take responsibilities of taking care of your kids.
contribute to their expenses.
Reality bites..
and it is good for your kids to know their dad too
one day they're gonna grow up and leave you.
you need your own life too.. ↑ |
| Name: Mz. What it Iz | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 3:43 AM |
| The Other woman. Most married men look and act out when the other woman is bewitching them. Men have four yr old toddlers in their pants. You ought to have turned the other way as soon as you knew he was married. It's women that date married men that need to walk away and leave the toddler alone! ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: Jun 6th, 2008 7:48 PM |
| I have been married for 5 years and the first Two years were the HARDEST. We were trying to figure each other out and it was very tough. Things have been going pretty good until last week when he was talking trash to my sister about me. I asked him if that was true. At first he denied it and than owned up to it and he wouldn't even apologize to me. I didn't really say much to him after that. Well he walks back in the room and tells me that this isn't working between us. I told him fine than and I told him do what ever and I do my thing. So the other day I asked why he was acting like that. This is the reply that I got that I don't support his music. I told him that is a lie and if it wasn't for me than he would never play in a band. I am the one who told him to come up with a band or play in one. Now hes in to writing his on music and wants to record his songs. He told me he wants to go off and do that a couple times a week. I asked him so thats why your acting like a jerk because of that. I have always supported him in his music but I have also told him that he needs to know where the band ends. I believe that he has totally forgot about me and my son. So after all that of him treating me like crap. His answer he gave me was that he wants to come home whenever and doesn't want to hear about it later. Basically he starts giving me the option of either except his terms or else. I was really hurt by the fact of how he acting towards me. Than he comes out and says that he is not the family man type and he has never been. Than why ask someone to marry you with a kid. So therefore again I was hurt and hes going off everynight this past week coming in 12-1 am. Than yesterday he tells me that he doesn't love me any more and doesn't want to be married any more. Well his mother is always in our business and I told her yesterday he is very selfish spoiled a** hole. She agreed to that one and boy was I shocked. I refuse to let him hurt me or my son. I told his mother all of this because of him wanting to chase a pipe dream. I am 26 and he is about to be 30 in august. I look at this way at least I know now. Whats wrong with the guys?? You have a family and you just want to throw it all away. I am not giving him any more chances. When he comes begging for me to take him back. My response is going to be I am sorry but you made your bed now you have to lie in it. What goes around comes around. I don't want some one who doesn't respect me and doesnt care. I am doing my home work for our divorce because I am sure it will get a little ugly. My heart goes out to each and every one of you. You ladies hang in there because if you act like it doesn't bother you. That just eats them up like me since he wants to chase a pipe dream. I have gone out every night this week and did my own thing. Main thing is to stay busy and keep smiling. I already have begin to feel the relief. ↑ |
| Name: clarity | Date: Jun 12th, 2008 1:31 PM |
| I struggle why people find it so difficult to believe that people may fall in love with someone else and want out of their current relationship. People change, grow and want and need more in their lives. I was left after 8 years for someone else-my ex made a very painful decision to leave our relationship because he felt responsible, obligated and yes still had feelings for me. But the feelings were not feelings of being in love. I gently let him go, and now we have both moved on. I am with a man who truly loves me and cherishes me. Had my ex not had the courage to tell me he wasn't happy and leave the home I would still be living in a charade. Ladies it is hard but you will get through it. No one is dying-one can't explain matters of the heart. Do the best thing for you. Let go and release your hurt. I know it sucks, but trust me you will feel better once time passes. You will realize that you weren't that happy either. ↑ |
| Name: "Red" | Date: Jun 15th, 2008 4:15 PM |
I am in the same situation....my husband of 10 years told me he was not in love with me anymore. We have a 9 year old and he has two children from another relationship. My step-daughter said she would never talk to her dad again if we split up, because she did not want our son to go through what she and her brother went through. What is wrong with men. Its obvious, there brain is between their legs. He'll take the sex whenever I come on to him, "but it doesn't mean anything".
PRAY, PRAY, PRAY and hope he will see the light. Maybe we can all have another chance and win back the love we so deserve. ↑ |
| Name: tabby | Date: Jun 16th, 2008 11:02 PM |
| Fight for him and try going to counceling! ↑ |
| Name: Mz. What it Iz | Date: Jun 18th, 2008 5:23 AM |
Too often LOVE blinds . I made many permissible adult compromises . These sacrifices were made for long term value . I also enjoyed the short term happiness from purchases that were made to benefit him.
I decided after eleven years of perpetual loans for his motorcycles, trucks, tool chests, and all the added insurance policies etc., that I'd like to turn the tables in our direction. Start aggressively move toward retirement. Start enjoying more and working less. The man startled me by walking out in February and has not came home one day or one night. since then. It's almost too shocking to understand how people can be so selfish and cold. Thank goodness I have been true to myself and I love him enough to let him go. He can deal with me on my reasonable terms even though he has left the household. When it comes time to deal with my legal counsel maybe..MAYBE he'll get it through his head that life is not greener on the other side. Too bad! "What are these men chasing ? " Life is too damn short to be fleeing from responsibility, honor and obligations. He charted his own course a while ago without me. ~Now it is time for me to chart my own. There is not one thing that we had planned to do together that I cannot pursue on my own. Hang tough ladies it'll be just fine. ↑ |
| Name: oldmaid | Date: Jun 18th, 2008 7:43 PM |
| Be glad you had someone that wanted you. No one every wanted me. :( ↑ |
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