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Hello my name is Jasmine and I am 15 years old. In January of this year my 20 year old boyfriend (then 19) Ryan and I found out that I was pregnant I was 14 at the time. On June 17 Ryan’s birthday I gave birth to our daughter Briana Cassandra Rose Spencer. I turned 15 in July on August 13th my 19 year old brother raped me. Around September 5 I found out that I was pregnant again. I recently found out that I am having twins. I know they are my brothers because my boyfriend and I hadn’t had sex since I had Briana up until the end of last month. I’m very scared now because I don’t know if I should have an abortion or not. I’m afraid that the babies may be born with infirmities. I don’t know what to do because my mom doesn’t know yet and my brother won’t believe me. I feel so alone. I don’t know how I will be able to take care of three kids and go to school and do everything else I have to do please help me. If anyone has any advice please help me. ↓
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| Name: chelsie | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 7:22 PM |
| oh you really should tell your mom and i dont think you should have a abortion they can do test to tell if the anythings wrong with the babys...you caould always look into adoption but you really need to tell your mother ↑ |
| Name: michelle | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 7:23 PM |
| Does your boyfriend know. Is that the first time your brother did that or has he done it since you guys were kids. I would definetly have an abortion and tell to keep him from doing it again hes the sick one you should not feel guilty and ashamed. ↑ |
| Name: dani | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 7:30 PM |
| the chances of something being wrong with the babys are slim...so why kill two innocent people i know you cant take care of them so why not let a loving couple adopt them and give them love for ever...do you really want to kill your babys? i understand your 15 and its your brothers, but if the doctor says theres nothing wrong with them why not give them the life they deserve ↑ |
| Name: michelle | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 7:36 PM |
| Jasmine - Everyone will have differing oppinions on this its how you feel about it personally no one would hold anything against you under the circumstance either way you want to go. Talk to the Doctoer as soon as possible where you just had one baby not even two months before getting pregnant youll need more vitamins and nutrition to carry on the pregnancy because your body is already drained plus its twins. Your brother should be in jail. If i were your boyfriend i would kill him ↑ |
| Name: Talk to someone | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 7:36 PM |
| Tell your mom, boyfriend and the police your brother committed a serious crime, don't let him get away with it, he is obviously sick and needs help. ↑ |
| Name: Stefanie | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 7:39 PM |
| I agree with Michelle , me personally I am 100 percent against abortions but then again I have never been in the horrible situation you are in right now ↑ |
| Name: sorry to hear that | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 7:40 PM |
| does your brother live with you? does your boyfriend live with you? I would keep that sick brother of yours away from your new daughter. Do you feel protective of your borther? Was you mom mad the first time you were pregnant? does she like your 19 year old boyfriend? ↑ |
| Name: Jackie | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 11:25 PM |
Jasmine --- I am sorry to hear of your situation.
That is a terrible thing that you went through!
I would not suggest abortion .... I would maybe talk to your doctor and explain the situation to him - he will not be able to say anything to anyone due to patient / client confeditiality. Perhaps he will be able to do some preliminary test to be sure that the babies are healthy.
If the doctors can verify that the babies are healty - I would suggest that you consider placing the babies for adoption - We are hoping to adopt - but that is not why I am making this suggestion. I belive that only you can make the decision that is best for you, the babies and your daughter.
I wish you luck and peace during these difficult times :(
If you would like to talk ... I have yahoo messenger my screen name is momdad2bee ... or you can contact us through our website www.momdad2bee.com
Please keep us updated on how you are doing!
Jackie
www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: to melissa & tim /jackie | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 2:38 PM |
| you guys need to go on dr phil for help these people dont come on here for you who they dont know to adopt there kids. Stop posting you crap on everyones page. Go get your own web page. Its selfish these people want suggestions you act like your giving imput but its only cuz you think they will let you adopt there kid. your on the wrong sight to be imoral. go to an adoption site. ↑ |
| Name: Jackie TO angry poster | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 4:04 PM |
Actually - if you read my entry - you will see that I was offering advice to Jasmine ... not asking for her babies!
Last I checked, we were on an adoption site ????
Jackie ↑ |
| Name: chelsie TO angry poster | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 4:10 PM |
| they have every right to say what they want...there not telling her to give up her baby there saying theres better ways than abortion...why should someone kill there baby when theres people out there like tom and jackie who want a baby more than anything...there just giving her options instead of murder...she asked for advice and they gave it to her ↑ |
| Name: Melissa & Tim | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 5:22 PM |
| I was not asking her to give her baby to me. I was suggesting not having an abortion or trying to do things to herself to force a miscarriage. With abortion and miscarriage both it could cause her alot of harm and even complications so that when she is ready to expand her family that option may not be there. As you will see I also said even if you don't choose us as adoptive parents my prayers are with her no matter what her decision may be. Like Jackie said she asked for advice and we gave it to her, and also we are on an adoption web site. My feelings are for you that if you don't like the advice people are giving don't get in the chat room becuase the advice wasn't for you anyway. On the same note, my prayers are also with you so that you learn and understand that killing is not the easy way out of a bad situation. ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 6:13 PM |
| hey. when you have a baby with a sibling or relative, there is a high risk of deformaty or illness within the baby. your chances are not slim. but a baby is a blessing. what happened to you was awful and im sure it wasnt supossed to be like that. i know what you mean by supporting 3 babys at your age. its going to be hard. consider adoption. definatly not abortion. there are people out in the world that dont care whats wrong with a baby, they dont see them like that. these people that want to adopt are loving and they want a chance at another life that they may never experience. you can also chose open adoption where the mother can come and see the baby. decide carefully though. i wish you the best ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 6:18 PM |
| OMG!!! who ever just wrote that to the couple about them being selfish needs to get a fu*in life!!! that was so rude of you. these people are waiting for a maricle to come into their lives because they obviously want a family. you dont know how it feels to have that thought of never having a child. you may have been blessed, but some people that god may want blessed, are not getting a chance because of people like you!! they are trying to find a way, like any other parent, and you obviously have no heart to see that. i give them props for reaching out anyway that they can. i wish god would have put you in their shoes instead of them, then youd see what a bit*h your being. i dispise people like you. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 7:01 PM |
| I want to thank all of you who gave helpful suggestions. My boyfriend Ryan and I haven't made up our minds yet on what we are going to do. Does anyone know tha diffrent types of adoptions I know there are so many. We are really going the a hard time. I know that in the end the most resanobile thing to do whould be to give the babies up for adoption. I love my daughter more than anything in the world. But it is extremly hard to take care of just her and trying to finish school at the same time. ↑ |
| Name: michellel | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 7:37 PM |
Jasmine,
im 29 i was adopted. It was an open adoption so I got to see my birth parents once a month. I never talk to my brtih mother she has problems and never visited. I am extremely close with my birth father he would do anything for my brother and i. Im glad i got to know them while i was growing up you might want to do something like an open adoption and visit 2 tomes a year to let them know there birth mother loved them. I have a sister who was adopted from different parents she never met her birth parents and has so many questions and wants to know why they havent tried to talk to her. Make sure you look into it. I was adopted then they devorced and i was abused my whole life. You cant just give them to anyone looking saying they are in love its not always the case but there are some wonderful deserving families out there.Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: Melissa & Tim | Date: Nov 22nd, 2005 12:50 AM |
| Jasmine, There are many different types of adoption out there. There is open, semi-open and closed. Closed is when there is no contact at all, semi-open is where there is letters and pictures once a year and open is where there is letters and pictures at least once a month until the baby reaches a certain age. This is just what I have found out since we are looking into adoption. Just remember there are alot of families like us out there looking for a miracle of god to be blessed with a child. These families that are looking to adopt are looking for a child to love and raise, and give a future to. If you have any other questions for me please email me at [email protected]. Our prayers are with you. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 1:50 AM |
I really wish I posting this. But I just wanted to say that I'm in the hospital right now. I had Ryan bring me in because i was having a lot of pain and then I started bleeding. The doctors said that i might loose the twins. I'm so scared right now I don't know what to do. I had actually thoughtthat things were going ok but now everything is going wrong.
I know sometime I feel like I don't want to have these babies but I deffiently don't want anything to happen to them. There still my babies even though i didnt plan on having them the way it happened. There still mine and I still love them. I don't know what to do. ↑ |
| Name: marta | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 2:45 AM |
| Hey, i know that feeling, im 18 yrs old and i might think that im pregant and telling my parents that is not gonan work, yes it is scary to be pregant, its ur choice if u want the twins or not, but make sure ur parents do know so they can help u make the rite decision. Or there is another choice u can have the twins but give them 4 adoption. If u ever need help u can emial me at [email protected]. ↑ |
| Name: Anya | Date: Dec 4th, 2005 11:45 PM |
| Your brother is really crazy.I'm usually against abortion,but in your case,u should seriously consider it.If you don't want an abortion,go and check if your kids are going to be OK.I don't know,to me it seems pretty weird.Just tell your parents,and maybe they know what to do.Your brother must be out of his mind,I'm sorry,but it's pretty nasty to rape a sister. ↑ |
| Name: michelleL | Date: Dec 5th, 2005 3:04 PM |
| Jasmine are you ok did you have a miscarriage hope everything works out for you the way you want what ever that may be. If you did have a m/c it is probably due to cromosones many people have m/c you r probablly at a much higher risk because they are you brothers and they are twinns. good luck to you.take care of yourself ↑ |
| Name: kel | Date: Dec 6th, 2005 1:52 AM |
| u will ahv to tell some 1 and i would honestly get a termination (abortion) especially if there your brothers u will have to live with the fact he raped u and the kids r his xxx ↑ |
| Name: Maria | Date: Dec 8th, 2005 4:46 PM |
Honey-
you need to tell your mother and go to the authorities right away. Don't let this stay like nothing happened! I recently miscarried my baby at 5 and half months pregnant. You do not want to have an abortion those babies have no fault at all. Love your babies all you can. When I was young I was sexually molested by our neighbor and it is horrible to thaink that they might do that to another young girl. Do what's right and take that chance. If you need any support or help you can write to me at: [email protected] I'm 18 years old and pregnant we can talk about whatever you want to I will be here to listen to you.
Take care of yourself and your babies. Bye Bye ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 14th, 2005 8:11 PM |
| I want to thank you all for your support. I feel like it's really helped me. I'm struggling but still hanging in there trying to cope wit h every thing ↑ |
| Name: p.l | Date: Dec 14th, 2005 8:28 PM |
| Jasmine what happend on oct 30 when you went to hospital are the babies ok ? How are you feeling? Does your boyfriend know what your bother did? ↑ |
| Name: Melissa & Tim | Date: Dec 15th, 2005 12:10 AM |
Hi, we are Tim & Melissa Hennis. Thank You for taking the time to read our letter! We admire your incredible strength and determination to find a loving and stable home for your baby. We feel that placing a child for adoption is the ultimate act of unselfish love and we really hope that the openness in your adoption process will give you the support you need and deserve. As you learn more about who we are, we hope that you will consider our home for your baby.
We both have always dreamed about having a family. From the time we met, we wanted to have a family together to be able to share in the closeness only a family can have. For the four years that we have been married we’ve dealt with miscarriages, tubal pregnancies and failed IVF. Our strong desire to have a family of our own and to be able to share our love is so big that the transition of deciding to adopt was an easy one, there was finally a light at the end of the tunnel.
(Wedding picture)
We met through some friends, started dated and got engaged after three years of dating. We are true soul mates and best friends. We got married in our home town with lots of friends and family and had a beautiful wedding. Shortly after being married we purchased our first house together and have spent a lot of time making it a wonderful home. We are both from the Ohio area. We love the outdoors, camping and fishing mainly. We have taken a lot of weekend trips to different cabins just to get away and we also go to Canada twice a year for fishing trips with both families, and just can’t wait to have a child to share all of our wonderful family vacations with
(Picture with Jimmy)
Tim works for the Village that we live in and has been employed there for 5 years. Because of the flexibility of his job, it will allow him to spend quality time with his family. Tim is a happy, fun loving person with a great sense of humor. People are drawn to Tim’s personality being he enjoys life and is a kid at heart. Tim is quite the handyman and is able to fix just about anything around the house. Tim enjoys golfing and bowling and helping out family and friends. Tim is the type of person that know matter what he is doing when someone needs something he stops what he is doing to help someone else. His thoughtfulness, wisdom, and tenderness will make him an amazing father.
Melissa has been employed with a local Hardware store in her home town for over a year. She is head cashier over 4 part time cashiers. Since we got married, she has stepped down her career to deal with doctors appointments and dealing with the chaos we have had for the past four years with infertility, also working this close to home it makes her available whenever something comes up at home. Melissa’s skills such as listening, empathy, understanding, and genuinely caring about others would be wonderful attribute to being a Mom. Melissa had a very active childhood that has continued throughout her adult years. She participated in activities such as softball and cheerleading.
Melissa also did a lot of babysitting in her teen years. She has always been drawn to children and loves to take care of them. She has a big family and even bigger now that she’s married with lots of little ones around. She always knew and dreamed about having a family of her own. Growing up, her family was constantly together. Her parents instilled a strong work ethic, helping others, and to be respectful to others. Melissa is a very kind and patient person who always see the best in everyone.
(Family pictures)
We both come from very close-knit families. Tim has 1 sibling and 1 niece and 1 nephew. Tim’s family lives close so we are able to see them often and share holidays together. Melissa has 2 siblings and 5 nieces who all live about 45 minutes from us, which we also visit a few times each year. We are excited about having a child to enjoy spending time with and celebrating holidays with.
We live in a 5 bedroom home in a nice family-oriented town. We are excited to welcome a new addition to our home to fill it with toys, giggles, and more love. Our community has some really good schools in the county and all of them are very close. The weather is beautiful changing from season to season, and we are a few hours drive from many amusement parks, zoos, water parks and much more. We have both been raised Presbyterian and come from loving homes. We continue to be strong Presbyterians and enjoy having God in our lives.
(Picture of Lyndsey)
Now meet Lyndsey, she is Tim’s daughter to a previous relationship. She is five years old and is in Kindergarten. She is a very fun loving, well mannered child with lots of energy. She gets to spend every other weekend Friday – Sunday with us and also an overnight during the week. We also alternate holidays with her biological mother. We all, (her father, her mother and two step parents) all get along very well. We try to make the transition for her as easy as possible. Lyndsey also, (on her mother’s side) as a younger sister which makes her a wonderful big sister and she would be a wonderful sibling for your child too. She is very good with younger kids always being the leader and looking out for them. She keeps trying to figure out why we can’t have a baby brother or sister for her.
(Picture of Tim & Lyndsey)
Tim spends every minute possible with her and is a great father. I have never seen a man that can act like a fiver year old as well as him just to make her happy. He enjoys playing in her room and also in the backyard with her. He couldn’t be a better father. Melissa also spends as much time possible with Lyndsey, she is a very loving step mother. She loves Lyndsey as if she were her own biological child. Lyndsey enjoys time with Melissa because she feels secure with her. She shares a lot of secrets with her step-mother. Melissa has given her such a big shoulder to lie her head down on that she relies on Melissa to tell her what is bothering her, and no matter what it is either she will help her or get someone who can.
(Picture of Melissa & Lyndsey)
A child that we welcome into our home will grow up in a home full of unconditional love and tenderness. We will make sure they feel safe and secure in our love and know that we will always support them. We believe in the value of education and will provide these children the opportunity to go to the college of their choice. They will discover their own unique interests and we will do our best to help them reach their goals.
We are excited to welcome a new baby in our loving and caring home to make our family complete. If we are selected, we want to assure you that your child will always know they were adopted, loved by you, and what a tremendous gift you gave when you placed him/her for adoption. We are open to having communication, sharing letters and photographs. So, if deep in your heart you feel that we are the right fit for your baby and that we are the kind of family that you would want your child to be brought up with, please contact us at [email protected].
(Family Picture Tim, Melissa, Lyndsey and Jimmy)
With lots of love,
Tim & Melissa ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. to p.l | Date: Dec 15th, 2005 5:43 PM |
| When I went to the hospital the doctor said that there was a lot of stress being put on the babies. They also said that there is a chance that they have twin to twin Transfusion. They said that because my brother is the father there are more risk involed with me having the babies. Also the fact that i was just pregnant and my first pregnancy didnt go all that great. The just said that I have to rest a lot and wait and see what happens. They don't seem to be very optimistic. But I'm praying things will be ok ↑ |
| Name: to jasmine | Date: Dec 15th, 2005 7:01 PM |
| I dont mean to come of as sounding rude or mean, my question is one I am really curious about. I hope and pray first of all that your babis are ok. But when they are older do you plan on telling them that your brother is their daddy? And I was also wondering if he is your blood brother or is it a step brother or half. You really didnt get into the sitaution, which is understandable, but I am definately worried about your babies, for their health and for their emotional and mental state when they are older. You really should press charges against him. He is sick and if he did this to you then he will do it to any other woman. You should put an end to this. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 15th, 2005 7:59 PM |
| My brother is my blood brother honstely i dont know if i want my babies to know that my brother. I dont even know if i want my brother involved in this at all. Espically since he's been telling me that if i don't have an aborton I'm going to be sorry. He says that if the babies surivie something bad will happen. He really scares me and I don't know what to do. ↑ |
| Name: michelle c | Date: Dec 15th, 2005 9:02 PM |
| my heart goes out to you jasmine.. it really does. I know its easy for me to say turn him in, but you really need to do this hun. You shouldnt have to worry about your safety and your babies. ↑ |
| Name: OMG! | Date: Dec 16th, 2005 3:42 AM |
if I were u I would just move far far away and start a new life
let the past die! ↑ |
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