| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 1:18 AM |
| My brother has been bothering me a lot lately and i dont know what to do. He says he has a right to be a part of what's going on because he is the father. But i dont want him to be part of this i dont want him anywhere near me or Briana or the twins when they are born. What should I do. Does he have a right to know what's going on? ↑ |
| Name: ShelleyK | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 2:16 AM |
Hey Jasmine M.
I just wanted to let you know that I have been following your posts and I am sorry that this has happened to you. When I was 18 I was raped by a family friend and ended up pregnant also. Every day I look at my son and see his dad (b/c he looks just like him) but that does not mean that I do not love him.......I now am looking to adopt b/c I am now unable to have children. I would love to chat with you if you would like to some time. We can chat on yahoo [email protected] or [email protected].....
Hugs to you,
Shelley
http://www.
midstatesd.net/~sknippling
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| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 7:49 PM |
| Look this is a really touchy subject I am not one for abortion at all.....but if you feel you can handle explaining the story to your children when they're older because you will have to and you feel that you can work past your own feelings then i say don't get an abortion but you HAVE TO TELL your mom, which i'm sure you have by now because it is now feb but you are really young and if it wasn't for the rape i would be against an abortion but having your brothers kid's i don't know it just seems wrong. and you have your whole life ahead of you to have kids.... your brother definatly needs to go to jail for a long time something is definatly wrong with him in the head someone like that should not be walking the streets ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 7:52 PM |
| Another thing Jasmine if you don't turn him in who's to say he won't do it to your kids when they're all grown up or who he is doing it to now...If you don't turn him in your just as sick as him, and i have the right mind to say your whole family is screwed up ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 12:49 AM |
| To shelly k i would love to chat to you e-mail me if you can thanks ↑ |
| Name: Carrie | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 1:05 PM |
| Ashley she is never going to turn him in. She is just here for attention not advice. People have been telling her all along to turn him in but she always has some excuse which is why she makes me wonder about her. I feel sorry for those children though, I think they are going to need some serious therapy when they are older. Its so sad. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 5:55 PM |
| To Carrie I am going to turn him in I've been talking a lot to Ryan and I am going to do it. I dont want my brother to do this to another girl and if i dont turn him in and he did do this again it would be my fault and i dont want that. ↑ |
| Name: ShelleyK | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 4:53 AM |
Jasmine M.,
Did you get my email I sent you?
ShelleyK ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 5:04 PM |
| To ShellyK i dont think i got your e-mail! What was your e-mail address again. My aol screename is FanJsh ↑ |
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| Name: ShelleyK | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 5:52 PM |
Jasmine M.,
My email address is [email protected]
Hugs,
Shelley ↑ |
| Name: Jessica | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 4:31 PM |
| Im not sure when you posted this but I am going to reply anyways. I hope by know you have decided to tell someone. Your brother is really sick for doing that to you. I hope you decided not to abort those babies because they are innocent and didn't do anything to deserve to be killed. I suggest you have those babies and give them up for adoption. And I would also suggest your brother is put behind bars. I hope that I have help a bit. And I wish you the best. Good Luck. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 4:43 PM |
| To Jessica I have told someone and I have decided to keep the babies. I haven’t decided if I’m going to keep them or put them up for adoption it’s a really hard decision and I want to make sure that I make the right one. ↑ |
| Name: ShelleyK | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 5:23 PM |
I am very proud of you!! Will talk to you soon......
Hugs,
Shelley ↑ |
| Name: To Jasmine | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 8:09 PM |
| you last post was a little confusing, first you said you are keeping the babies and then you said you dont know if you are keeping them or giving them up for adoption. I cant keep up with you and your posts. ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 8:22 PM |
| Jasmine M, i just wanted to say that your making this way more complicated then it needs to be, how do you think those kids are gonna feel when they're older and they realized that ther per say uncle raped there mom and had them as a result, uhhh i'm not a psychologist but thats gonna affect those kids, your better off giving them up for adoption so that they don't know what really happened to them, they should not be allowed to stay w/ you and your family ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 8:23 PM |
| YOur only 15 anyways way to young to be having 3 kids ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 8:24 PM |
| Caroline and Louis have been posting all over this forum they wanna adopt babies you should start talking to them ↑ |
| Name: to Jasmine | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 9:39 PM |
| I agree with Ashley. Its your descion but I think you really need to think about these babies in the long run. they are going to be deeply traumatized when they learn about how they were conceived. there are so many loving couples looking to adopt. In the best interest of your babies I think that would be your best option. You are only 15 and having three kids would be hard enough without all the extra problems you have going on. Ultimately its up to you, but try to put yourself aside and think of those babies. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 12:38 AM |
When I first said i was keeping the babies I was refering to not having a abortion. When I said i dont know what I'm going to do I ment that I dont know if I'm giving them up for adoption.
To Ashley: If I do keep the babies I don't really have to tell the babies what happened. I never knew my dad till like a year ago. I live with my cousin who I always thought was my mom and her husband I always thought of my dad. He raised me and so i always thought he was my dad. They don't have to know what really happened ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 1:14 AM |
| To Jasmine M, ya but like you said a year ago you found your real dad and your only 15 you don't think that when your kids are older they aren't gonna figure it out??? because if you do your wrong. Like i said your 15 anyways and how are you gonna afford 3 kids, your situation just sounds all screwed up and you haven't even put your brother in jail yet and you were gonna go back in December and do what Nora said. If you haven't done that yet I don't mean to sound rude but you are to immature to be having twins. To think that you can hide this secret from your kids there whole life is a joke, and no matter what you say when they figure it out it's going to affect them very seriously. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 1:43 AM |
| To Ashley: I have gone to the police and i got a Restraning Order agasint my brother. And I didnt say that I would lie to them. If the Twins want to know who there real father is. If they want to know I will tell them. If it bothers them I will be there for them. I dont see the problem with that. As for how can I afford 3 kids i can. I have ways. I live with my boyfriend right now and I have help. ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 1:51 AM |
| I never said you lied, and if you tell your kids what happened to them when they are older they will need more then just your help. Anyways i just think your being immature about the situation. I think you should give those babies to someone who can give them a good life, because your not going to be able to. Wether you admit it or not if you really got raped by your brother it's going to affect you taking care of those babies, not everything is going to be just peachy keen like you think it's gonna be, and it's probably definatly going to affect your boyfriend Ryan. I would like to know what your means of support is because i am 21 going to be 22 and my husband is 25 and between the two of our incomes we have trouble making ends meet w/ one daughter. So unless your extra help is welfare i think you should wake up and give those babies to a good home because obvioulsy your family has problems if your mom is as screwed up as she sounds and if your blood brother raped you. ↑ |
| Name: Annonymous | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 1:54 AM |
| I agree w/ ashley you should put those babies up for adoption there is no way that those kids deserve to be in a situation like that . Besides you are to young anyways to be having 3 kids. Think of those babies and give them a good home. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 2:00 AM |
| To Ashley: I know that if i keep the babies it will be hard. I know that for a fact. It's hard for me know when i start to think about the babies and I start to get happy I thin about what my brother did and it's hard. I havent completly made up my mind to keep the babies. I know that I might not be able to love them the way I love Briana. Ryan is the one that suggested that we keep the babies he really wants to he thinks we could do it. And as regards to money we can take care of three babies and ourselves. Ryan is planing on moving out of his parents house around June or July. I think we can provide a good home for them. I can't be positive I cant be positve that I cant provide a good home for them. What Ryan and I were thinking about doing is bringing them home and trying to see if we could handle taking care of three kids. And if not yes I diffently will put them up for adoption. We have looked into it and we think that that would be best. That way i dont just give them up without ever knowing if I could take care of them or not. ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 2:05 AM |
| What do you mean your going to try raising 3 kids and if it doesnt 'work out then you will give them up for adoption that makes no sense and if anything that will make you feel worse, and if Ryan is living in his parents house What does he do for a living? You are only 15 you have so many more years to have kids, and like you said if you keep these babies you and ryan may never be able to have anymore kids because 3 is to many. What about putting your brother in jail though..... a restraining order is nothing he deserves to be put in jail. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 2:17 AM |
| To Ashley: Ryan still lives with his parents because he was planning on moving out when he turned 20 but I had Briana and he hasnt got a chance to do it. He works at a hospital and right now he is going through a Fire Fighter Training Course that he will be done with in a few weeks. When I said that if we can’t do it I’ll put them up for adoption I mean that I’ll put the Twins up for adoption. And yes you can do that. There are a lot of people who will adopt a child even if they aren’t newborns. Ryan and I have done a lot of research on it together and we think that that is the best thing for us. I know that if I keep them Ryan and I may never have more kids yeah that just may have to be the way it is. I can’t change that. Ryan understands the situation and this is the way he wants it to be. I know my brother belongs in jail I’m just scared to turn him in. The reason I would have to relive everything that he did to me and that scares me. Do you think we could talk some more on AIM my screename is Fanjsh. You make a lot of really good points and I think some things you say are ture. I know if i give them up after having them for a while will be hard. Maybe we could talk some more ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 2:29 AM |
| I wouldn't mind talking to you some more, I mean i know i sound harsh sometimes but you know thats a really crazy situation. I know it's hard to turn your brother in, and that your scared but YOU HAVE TO DO IT, he is really really sick if he could do something like that to you. This is where you need to be strong and show him that your not afraid of him. I will warn you though.... when you go in and accuse him of that the police are going to be rude to you, they are not going to be nice. I know this from personal experience they will treat you like you were the one that raped someone but that is natural for many women have lied about rape. I knowthis sounds stupid but is AIM aol instant message? ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 2:34 AM |
To Ashley: Yeah AIM is Aol Isntant Messenger
Mine is Fanjsh What is yours ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 2:37 AM |
| Believe it or not i dont' have one i think my husband uses msn messanger ↑ |
| Name: * | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 9:37 PM |
| How far along are you Jasmine? In weeks that is. ↑ |
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