| Name: confused | Date: Dec 20th, 2005 6:12 AM |
| I agree, she needs our support, but I don't want to encourage it if it's just a ploy for attention. Either way, you are right, people here are tough and quick to find the negative, thanks. ↑ |
| Name: Natalia | Date: Dec 20th, 2005 2:25 PM |
| Hwy Jamine, I feel sosorry for you right now, hey look at the possitive side, your having twin isnt that wonderful, but still is very sad what your brother did to you, ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 20th, 2005 6:48 PM |
| I didnt post that other question honest. I really do need help and all of this really is true. I dont know why anyone would make up something as serious as being raped by their own brother and getting pregnant ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 21st, 2005 3:01 AM |
| My brother came over to Ryan's house today looking for me and Briana I don't know why though Ryan told him that I wasnt there and that he better not come back again ↑ |
| Name: To Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 21st, 2005 7:36 PM |
I have had molestations and rapes occur in my family. And it is not an easy thing to cope with at all. Wether your brother is your brother a friend a stranger..it doesn't matter sweety...he raped you. He needs help. He has threatened your life and the life of your unborn twins. You have to take that responsiblity and turn your brother in. As painful as this is it is the right thing to do. I am happy to hear that your boyfriend is sticking by your side throughout all of this. You are not the only woman in this world that has been raped by a family member and gotten pregnant and they all had them put away in prison. You brother should be no exception. He is a danger to you and your children. Please please I hope you really did go to the police. You said you were going to and I'm hoping that you have by now. I wish you and your family the best of luck through these difficult times!!
As for keeping the babies, putting them up for adoption or getting an abortion. These are all of your personal choices. Just do what feels right to you. But one thing that does worry me is if these children grow up, they will eventually find out that they were the products of a rape. And a rape that was done by their Uncle/Father. This could cause them to have serious mental issues in the future. I am not saying you should not keep the children or put them up for adoption. I just wanted you to think of their mental health for when they get older. Again I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out.
Stay away from your brother. It is a good thing that Ryan was there and got him to go away. Please please go to the polilce about this. It will be best for everyone involved.
Let us know how everything is going!!! xoxoxoxoxox ↑ |
| Name: Erika | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 2:21 AM |
| Jasimine...I would say get an abortion. Being raped is one reason, and having it be your brother? That is a FULL BLOWN reason. First put him in jail... and get an abortion. Yes they are two innocent babies, but the sooner the better. It woud be horrible to have two babies and let them know how they got here. Then too also look into their eyes until the day you die, knowing how they were conceived. You will only make it harder for youself in the long run. Get an abortion. ↑ |
| Name: Kathryn | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 4:54 AM |
| I didnt' see anywhere if you wanted the babies. I know they are your brothers and all but if they weren't, would you want the babies. Looking at two babies would be hard knowing how they got here but if they have a loving mom and a loving dad to take care of them everyday then they would love you none the less. I really think you should think about it. I know you have one already but could you look her in the eye one day and tell her that she would have brothers/sisters but because of certain reasons you didn't have them. i know it would crush me if my parents said that. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 5:14 AM |
I don't pertically want to have the babies but i also know that if the father was Ryan I would have them no matter what. That's the main reason why I don't want the abortion because i know that i would never do that in any other sistuation. Ryan tells me all the time that If i do have them and i keep them that it will be hard for me to care for them. And i know that's true. It's hard enough to wake up every day and i think that my brothers babies are growing inside of me. To have to care for them for the rest of my life and everytime i look at them think of my brother it will be hard. That's one of the reason's why I might end up putting them up for adoption.
I know that If I keep them that they will be loved by me because no matter what they are my babies no matter who the father is. Ryan tells me all the time also that no matter what he will always be there to take care of me our daughter and the twins. It helps to know that he ccares so much about me. I want to be with him forever. But our parents don't approve of us being together. What should I do? I love him more than anything? ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 7:54 PM |
| Does any one have any suggestions ↑ |
| Name: michele | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 9:03 PM |
| jasmine you dont take the pill? How do you know they arent ryans? Do you still have unprotected sex with him? I dont know what to tell you sweetie i feel so sorry for you and wish your problem could just go away you said the dr said they might be fused together any more info on that? I think i would of not told anyone and had an abortion immediately if the dr suspected deformities but like alot of people say they would love to adopt them and maybe you can keep them it will be hard but you can do it if you want theres plenty of help out there for you! ↑ |
| Name: * | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 10:27 PM |
If I was raped by anyone and got pregnant without knowing if it was my SO or if it was the rapist's babies I would automatically get an abortion. To have a rapists baby will put serious mental emotional damage on the mother and the children. And still on the children if the children were put up for adoption, because they would eventually find out where they came from. With you being a new mom as it is, I think it would add to much stress on you and your family and your body to carry on with this pregnancy. You say if they are Ryan's you would keep them. And that is wonderful, but you won't be able to find that out until after the babies are born. And that would cause problems for you or the babies for when they get older. Also the fact that deformities play a part in this. I would say that it wouldn't be fair for these babies to come into this world this way. I would get an abortion and try later on to have kids with Ryan since that seems like you are wanting to do.
I wish you the best of luck!!!!! xo
P.S. You have a good man. Follow your heart. No matter what anyone says about him he obviously loves you dearly. Keep him forever girl. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 10:54 PM |
I know that the babies aren't Ryan's for a fact because when Ryan and I were having sex we used a condom I'm not stupid I didnt want to get pregnant again. I haven't been on the pill because it makes me sick.
To Michelle when ryan and I do have sex we use a condom
Our parent's don't want us to be together at all. My mom said I should only see Ryan when he comes to see Briana but I can't just stop seeing him just because my mom says so.
Ryan's parents have been telling me a lot about how If I do have the twins that they will end up with emotional and mental problems form all of this. I know that that's probably ture. I haven't figured out how I will deal with that yet. But right now the hardest thing to deal with is carrying these babies because everytime I start to feel a little exited about having twins I think of what my brother did. Everytime I go in for the ultrasound and I see them I start to feel happy but then I think of my brother. So yes they will be a constant reminder of the rape that's the main reason why I feel as though I should put them up for adoption. ↑ |
| Name: JS | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 11:16 PM |
When I met my fiance I was still living at home. I was constantly getting in arguments with my mom and step dad about him because my mom stopped liking my fiance (then boyfriend) when he stopped smoking weed with her. Haha...yea my mom is a nut case. Once my fiance and I started dating he changed A LOT and turned into a MAN from a juvenile delinquent. I specifically remember my mother telling me "I hope you never marry him and I hope you never have kids".........hahahahaha I'm engaged to him and now pregnant with his children and my mom LOVES him now because she realized how much of a B**** she was being. Point being---do not leave someone who treats you this good because your mother tells you to. This is NOT her realtionship it is yours and yours only.
Yes there are many factors to think of in deciding whether to keep these kids or not. I hope you make the right decision for you and the children. And the right decision will be the one that feels right to you and in your heart. Not one that can be told to you on what to do. Good luck :) ↑ |
| Name: samantha | Date: Dec 23rd, 2005 1:19 PM |
| Im only 17 and im 4 monthes pregnant (which is my partners) but if this happened to me i would tell my parents straight away. i would also have an abortion as i wouldnt be able to cope at such a young age but dont feel ashamed about having an abortion as it maybe for the best. i wish you all the best in your decision and hope you make the right one. ↑ |
| Name: michele | Date: Dec 23rd, 2005 4:29 PM |
| Jasmine even though ryan says hell be their for the twins do you think in the long run it will be to much stress 3 kids will you 2 ever afford to have your own children besides brianna. He may become overwhelmed. Do what you want no matter what anyone thinks. Your mom just says that cuz you are 14 and he is 20. Its time before you show to tell your mom to keep your brother away and go to the authorities now!!! ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine | Date: Dec 23rd, 2005 8:37 PM |
| To Michele I know in my heart although Ryan says that he will care for the twins like they are his own. I know it will be hard. As for having more kids of our own. I don't know if that would ever be possible again because with 3 kids I know it will be hard enough. I hope that he will be ok with all the stress that's going on. I know it has been hard for him to deal with all the problems that my family has been giving us. They havent been very helpful with us. They don't even want us to see each other. I hope that if he really loves me that all that has been going on he will still be here for me and our daughter ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 6:31 PM |
| Merry Christmas to everyone ↑ |
| Name: ... | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 8:36 PM |
| first u said that there was NO chance ryan could be the father because you hadn't had sex with thim since your daughter was born then u said u had sex with ryan but had used a condom..... ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. to ... | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 9:16 PM |
| I didn't have sex with Ryan before I was raped. I was just saying that I have had sex with him since i got raped but we used a condom that time. That's all i was saying. ↑ |
| Name: Kati | Date: Dec 26th, 2005 3:43 AM |
Hey Jasmine....i know the feeling because I am 18 and i have a 6 month old with Twins on the way!! i cant believe it...me and my bf didnt even think about having another baby is just happened....if u want to contact me in anyway here are my ....msn...and aim...we can talk and i can help you out [email protected] my (msn) [email protected] u have any questions hit me up and i can help..ima freshman in college and i have a part time job and a mother....please hit me up!!
~KATI ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 26th, 2005 5:00 PM |
| My brother came over to Ryan's house yesterday (that's where i'm living right now) anyways he came over because he said he wanted to spend Christmas with the family. (Everone in my family spent christmas at Ryan's house since his house is huge) Anyways when Ryan saw him he told my brother to leave but he didnt. So Ryan punched him and now my brother has a pretty bad black eye. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 27th, 2005 4:41 PM |
| I'm having identical twin girls. Now I'll have three girls. Ryan was hoping for a boy ↑ |
| Name: Kirsten | Date: Dec 27th, 2005 7:49 PM |
| I do think you should tell your mom that he raped you. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. to Kristen | Date: Dec 27th, 2005 8:54 PM |
| I have told my mom that he raped me. Then I told her that I wanted to stay with Ryan because I felt safe with him. And she said that if I left that I could never come back. So I left and now she won't talk to me. What should I do? ↑ |
| Name: Courtney | Date: Dec 27th, 2005 8:59 PM |
| I would tell her that you love her and you are not lying mabe then she believe you and bring you boyfriend with you and have a test done that you can see who the father is and you can show it to her for she can see that he did rape you. ↑ |
| Name: ashley | Date: Dec 28th, 2005 4:55 PM |
| keep the babies. they deserve a chance to live. and tell your mom and if she doesnt belive you you can havwe them give your brother a paternity test even before the babies are born to determine if he is the father. don't be scared you would honesdtly be suprised at how commin this situation actually is. ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 28th, 2005 6:09 PM |
| I've tried to talk with my mother but she wont listen. She said she'll talk to me when I leave Ryan. But I'm never going to do that. I don't understand how she can't be happy for me that I found someone so great someone who is caring and loving. Yeah he is 20 but you can't help who you fall in love with. She won't even have anything to do woth her own grandchild. She wasn't even there when she was born. Right now she js nothing to do with me. Ryan had to quit his job so that he can take care of Briana because I can't do that and my schooling and being pregnant is really wearing me down. So his dad has offerd to help us out. He's really kind just like Ryan. And his mom help us out to his mom was a teacher so she helps me with my school work. The only good thing I have right now is Ryan and his family ↑ |
| Name: Sara | Date: Dec 29th, 2005 7:02 PM |
| Jasmine...It sounds like you have yourself a really good "new" family with you. As long as you have Ryan and his family behind you, I think you will be ok. You are going to be under ALOT of stress here in the next couple of months. I really hope that you are ready for all of this. How long do you have until you no longer have the option of keeping the babies? By the sounds of it, it sounds like you are going to be having the babies. I was thinking about your situation and if you keep the babies and they are healthy enough to have, as they grow up, you might save up some money for them as they get older, because they will need alot of therapy. That is hard enough for any of us stranger to imagine--Try being those children growing up. They can be raised by mom and Ryan, but somewhere down the line, they will have to eventually know who there father really is. If anything, for medical reasons! Kepp strong and stick with your heart! I wish you guys the best of luck! ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. to Sara | Date: Dec 29th, 2005 7:25 PM |
| I have decided to keep the babies. I think partly because Ryan’s family has been so kind, encouraging and helpful. I’ve also decided that I will be staying with Ryan for good. I won’t be going home because there’s nothing there for me. My mother wont help or support me I would have to do everything alone. At least at Ryan’s I have someone to help me. Ryan quit his job so that he can stay home and take care of Briana while I do my schoolwork during the day. Ryan’s twin brother Jonathan gave up his room so that we can turn it into a nursery for Briana. He moved into the extra room that they used to use for storage. Ryan’s family has been so kind to me. It makes me sad that my own family won’t have anything to do with me or my baby. I know that where I’m at now is the best place for me to be. Especially because Ryan will protect me and Briana from my brother. ↑ |
| Name: Sara | Date: Dec 29th, 2005 7:37 PM |
I think that as long as you are in a happy enviroment, you and your new family will be fine... You just stay strong and keep up the hard work.... Make the best of these kind people and be there for them when they need you :) You are a lucky girl to have them. Not many people out there would help like that. Sounds like you have a great man on your hands and he sounds like he will take care of you guys! I say--Keep Him!!!! haha....
Anyway---Good luck dear and we are praying for those babies to be healthy and safe.... If not, you just have to be strong and take it one day at a time :) Glad to hear that you are still doing your school work....That is a very important thing to finish! ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Dec 29th, 2005 10:33 PM |
| I had my ultrasound today they said that one of the babies is smaller than the other because one is receving all the netruients and the other is being deprived. I pray every day that they will be ok ↑ |
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